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If anything, it's an accident.Let's jump right in today too.Let's go to extreme

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modern society.Let's go

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to the mindset of people who are popular.Anyway, it's

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become popular.It's

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the mindset of people who are popular.First of all, let me

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ask you about popularity. There

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's no one who says I don't need that. Thank you. I want

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popularity anyway.

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What do I want? If I try to be

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popular a little, I

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want popularity. If it's money and popularity, I

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'm confused. After all, you want to be popular. Well, after all,

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popularity is what it is.

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There aren't that many people who are like that. You may or may not be popular, but you don't. That really

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makes me feel good, doesn't it? My grades are good, and I have a nice face,

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but do I have popularity? That's what makes me so happy.The reason for this is that it's

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something that's precious.I want popularity from people.I

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can do my job. However, when

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asked if they are well-liked by their subordinates, I hear that there are many bosses who don't seem to think so.There is some

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scary data out there.First of all, I would like you to listen to

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this.It would be

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great if they were well-liked. Well, you may be thinking about it, but it's

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good to be popular, but it's not at

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the level of popularity.This is where the

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terrifying appearance of the werewolf comes from.People

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lose their jobs.This is the

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reason for their unemployment.People

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lose their jobs. The reason for this is, well, it's not that people lost their jobs

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because they couldn't do that job;

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in fact,

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most people lost their jobs because of problems in their relationships. Is

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n't this scary? In short,

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people lost their jobs because they couldn't do that job. You would think that there would be a lot of people who lost their

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jobs.Most of the people who lost their jobs had problems in their relationships and

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had no choice but to change it or quit.That's not the

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case.It's the same with celebrities.If you have problems in your relationships, you

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have to quit your talent agency.

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Who are you talking about?

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Who am I talking about? I want you to stop, don't you

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? Just say it's about relationships. I

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was shocked.References for this article:

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Here are the thoughts of popular people. This

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has been a bestseller, and it

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seems that it has been read and reread for quite some time.However, what is

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clearly written here

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is that it would be nice if there was something called popularity. If

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you don't have it, it will

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have a huge impact on your happiness and success in life.It's an

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essential thing.No, it's hard to understand,

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that person.As long as the

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relationship is smooth, I

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shared it in the form of leaving the company on good terms.

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I held a press conference on the subject, but I won't tell you what it

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actually turned out to be.I won't say it here,

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but I'm just saying it's okay, but it's really

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difficult.By the way, this is the first time in

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a while that I've been in Japan. We're back in the movie, and it's

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actually

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recorded with the audience in it, so there's

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some comedy in it, so I guess they used their usual editing

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techniques to make it look

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real. There's a lot of laughter. It's been a long time

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since I've done this. It's been two years since I went to Singapore. I've

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had customers

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since the coronavirus has started to calm down. I'm

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doing it in a new environment, and it's all about

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interpersonal relationships. Thanks to that,

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if I didn't have popularity, I wouldn't have customers.I

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mean, there are gyms to some extent.Now, I would like to say that when it comes to

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human relationships, well, it's just a

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matter of personality. You

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might think that my popularity is due to my personality,

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but in reality, this is the

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technique.The technique, in other words, can make you popular.

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So, how long have I been saying this

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? When I saw it, I remembered it clearly. I

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said that you can make someone look cute.

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In fact, you can also make someone popular.

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So, the point here is that when it comes to popularity, there are

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various techniques. Hey, I think it's better to do this a little bit.

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Tomorrow will be better. I'm going to dress like this. I'll be

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careful about various things. I've

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written about these techniques in many detailed books, but what makes this book so

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interesting is its

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basic principles. This is the point where you should know the

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basic principles.If you know this, you will never forget it.The

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so-called basic principles are

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human habits.Humans

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have habits.Humans are all different.

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Well, it's not all that different. There are things that you

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tend to do. There are

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things that you tend to do. For some reason, you feel like

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eating cup noodles in the middle of the night. It's

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quite

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a fix, isn't it?

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Like falling asleep twice. We're going to do this, we're going to do that, we're going to

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have to revise everything.Human beings are

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made up of all this and that.This means that the

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game is decided by whether or not you are fully aware of the possibilities of other people.Why do

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we become human beings? We

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want to be liked so much, but we want so many subscribers.

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We are in the business of popular people, so we

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want to get a feel for people. No matter how many people there are, we don't know

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much about humans. This is

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dangerous. Learn about human habits. ba

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100 crows I'm going to

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say it, so first of all, the basic

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principle. I can hear you saying it quickly.

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Nakata: I'm not just saying it because the customers have already arrived. I'm getting excited. I'm

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getting excited. I'm getting really excited today as well.

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There are people watching on Zoom, and there are

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quite a lot of people watching both offline and online, so I'm

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really excited, but let me start by

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saying the

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basic principles.

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Dodon

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All people want to

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satisfy their self-esteem.

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Well, if you ask me, I guess that's

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what I'm saying. No, no, I think

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people who want to reduce their self-esteem as much as possible are

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masochistic, aren't they?

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Very philosophically speaking. That's a poor stick, isn't it? It's not that I'm

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ignorant or anything like that. I want to

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reduce my self-esteem, but I don't have much

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of it. Self-esteem is very important, isn't it?

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When your sense of self-esteem or self-respect is hurt, Well, anyway, I

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can't sleep anymore. I cry. I get angry. That's

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what I mean. I want to satisfy my self-esteem.

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No, I understand that. But this really

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determines the definition of a popular person. Okay,

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everyone, you want to be a popular person. So what kind of person is a werewolf?

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What kind of person is a werewolf? It's

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difficult to give a definition, but

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there is this principle. I can give you a definition.

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In other words, a

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popular person is a popular person. The reason why he is

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popular is because he

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gives everyone things that others want. He does

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n't let anyone get anything from him. So what does

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everyone want?What everyone

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wants I just said that

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all people want to

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satisfy their self-esteem.This means that

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people who satisfy their self-esteem in many people

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= popular. I wonder if people who are popular are

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attractive because they have a good face,

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whether they're good at talking, whether they're smart,

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or because they have some kind of great track record.

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Even if there was, it doesn't mean he's particularly popular. As

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everyone said earlier,

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Ikasuke has a track record, but

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even though his grades are improving, there are still people who dislike him.

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That's not true.

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When you make someone feel like you love them, you are

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giving them what they want most.The

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most important currency in a relationship is

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whether or not it satisfies one's self-esteem.

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If you satisfy people, you'll

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gain popularity. That's the end of the Chan-chan video. I heard that you're asking for a

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Progress commercial. It's

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still early, but I heard that you've never seen Nakata's video for about 5 minutes.

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Nakata's short video Don't do it, do

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it instead. No, that's not what I mean.

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Actually, if you ask me this question, I'm

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sure you'll agree. Everyone, please

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remind me once again. Are there any popular people

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around you? If you were to ask me if you are popular, I would have

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no idea. That's right. People who are popular are rare

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characters, right?

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Wow, that person is rare, and very popular. That's why

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people like that are rare. For some reason, it's

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difficult for humans to satisfy their self-esteem with a lot of people. So, the question is whether or not to solve the mystery here.This is what's

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interesting.Listen,

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everyone wants to satisfy their self-esteem.It's understandable, so if you

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satisfy your self-esteem, you'll

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become popular.I

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understand this much.More than anything,

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everyone here wants to satisfy their self-esteem.

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Nakata: I'm not making another video just to talk about this.

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But if it's such an obvious thing, why

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can't we do it? This is the point.

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Why can't we do it? I've already told you the answer.

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All people want to satisfy their self-esteem.Every

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person wants to

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satisfy their self-esteem.This is the answer.In

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other words,

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everyone is a catcher.I

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want it, okay?

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You all gathered at the buffet venue,

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and everyone... It's the customers. No

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one is serving food,

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because everyone is hungry.

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If someone does, they'll become popular. They

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crowd around the plate. That's what makes them popular, isn't it?

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Yes, it's

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a buffet. I'm hungry. I came here. I

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couldn't give up my self-esteem. I came here, and

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everyone was drooling. I looked around and

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saw you, too.

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Everyone left Osaka hungry.

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Well, that's the hell of a buffet.The reason

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no one wants to behave is because they're all

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hungry.Then why

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can't they just watch it even if they want to?That's because they're

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too hungry.They put their

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own self-respect first. I want to fulfill my expectations, but I am winning.The

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tragedy of this

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is the sermons and bragging stories from my seniors.This is a

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sermon and a bragging story, isn't it?I wonder

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if they will praise me and my 100,000 stories. I've been

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hearing that for like two hours, and it's

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been a long time since I've

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finished with one head in the inning.It's like

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baseball, right?It's like some kind of behind-the-scenes connection.It's

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like it's not my turn.It's like it's my turn all the time.From my

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seniors. It's nothing more than a drinking party, and all of them

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are seniors who want me to satisfy my own self-esteem first. That's why

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all kinds of tragedies happen. It's easy to understand the

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preaching and bragging, but it's the

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act of prioritizing fulfilling one's own self-esteem.

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But other than that, right? To

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correct any mistakes,

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here's

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the data that so-and-so was talking about earlier, but that's from 1995, and

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what percentage will it be in 2022? You

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're wrong if you don't say anything anymore.You're completely

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satisfied with your own self-respect, and you

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're embarrassing the other person, so you might be saying it logically,

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like you're saying the right thing, but

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humans are logical. It's not a

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creature of

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emotion. It's a creature of emotion. It's a

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vague, ambiguous thing. That's why,

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in theory, it's

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perfectly fine for seniors to talk about their accomplishments and past.

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Hey, I want you guys to know about the past, too.

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On top of that, I

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made a mistake so I pointed it out. That's

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totally fine. There are also other

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characters that seem a little easier to mess around with.

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Baba makes fun of him and laughs

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because he got excited. That's

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just logic. The person who was bullied is the one who was teased.

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There is a sense that he has found his self-respect. That's why, whether it's on variety shows or

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at school, I'm also a comedian who gets nervous and says things like, ``Oh, I messed with you, it was a

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joke, so it's okay or not. I

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have a senior who is the type of person who messes with people a lot. Of course he

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makes me laugh, but he's not popular.

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Hey, I want you to praise me. Even my

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juniors always say that you're funny. I always

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looked at you like you were a pig. I

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wish you could just tell me it's funny, but what's wrong with you? You look

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like that today, you look like that, you're so-and-so, you're so-and-so. There's no way I can fall in

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love with you. There's no

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way I can love you. It's okay because it's a laugh, it's

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okay because it's corrected, it's okay because it's the right opinion,

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things like that.Everyone

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prioritizes satisfying their own self-esteem.This is a

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human wall that there is no escape from. That's

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why I

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came to the buffet. I came here hungry. I'm stupid.

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No one was acting

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like that. They

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say they're eating each other. It's a hell of a scene from there.

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I thought it was a buffet venue called Lies. In

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real human society, the worst phenomenon that could have been a battle royale is happening.

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This is exactly what happens.

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In such a situation, if you could give something to someone else, you would

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become popular. Right

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now, I understand it in my head. I see. I want to

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satisfy my own self-esteem. Praise me more, praise

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me, look at me. Listen to my bragging, and suppress it. I

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should do something to satisfy my self-esteem. Well,

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I understand that, but I can't do it physiologically. I understand how you feel. It's

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because you feel like you're losing out on something. Why do you do it because you want to be the first to

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say something you're proud of?

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I think it's possible to develop virtues like a beach flag.I feel like

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saying "bar" when I can't boast about it.I feel like I do that

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when I'm saying, "Hey, so-and-so is amazing." Is

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n't that what I'm doing?

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I'm not doing anything wrong.

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When I praised him enough and didn't come back, that's what I did.

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But I want you to feel safe.

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This is a fundamental principle of human behavior.

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I said that if you hold back, you'll choose 100.It's

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human nature.Everyone

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has satisfied their self-esteem at some point, but in

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reality, we are creatures that only want to give something back when we have a full stomach.

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When I'm full, I

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say, ``You too.'' Mr. So-and-so is so

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cool, thank you very much. Mr. So-and-so is

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so wonderful, thank you. Thank you, Mr. So-and-so, who was the

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only one who praised me, is also wonderful.

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So, it's an experience. Yes, there are things like being praised, being

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praised, being praised, and then having to

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give something back. Yes, you have received a lot of praise and you have to give something back. Yes,

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even weapons of influence have the ability to reciprocate,

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but humans

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have another powerful mechanism added to them. What's more, it

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's a creature that wants to give something back when it's satisfied. That's why we build trust. It's

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okay to give first.

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There's no harm in giving first. In fact, it

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might be a loss if you give before it costs anything.

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Beach Flagdon: Listen to me brag about

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this.If I

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can just quit, I

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'll be done inputting ideas from popular people.No, I

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've heard good things about this. You

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can't hear me bragging.That's what I've

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been doing, and by finally putting others first, I

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can finally become the king of the buffet.Okay.

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Now that I've got this in mind, please tell me

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how to do it in detail.That's it.I'd like to

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tell you how to do it in detail.I've

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summarized it in three ways.If I

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can effectively use these three weapons, I'm

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sure it will work.

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Self-

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affirmation Self-esteem Self-esteem At a buffet venue This

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is a story about how you can become a super chef.I've already

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told you that there are three things you can do: smile, the

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ability to speak, and the ability to praise.

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Well, I see.

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There are three things that seem to be useful. But

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if you don't understand each of these three things, you won't be able to

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use them properly.

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To use it, first of all,

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be firm and confident.Put your

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heart out and

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praise the other person.Put your heart out and acknowledge the other person's self-esteem.That's

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what you have to do.

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It's the person I'm trying to satisfy.

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If I'm shaking like this,

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who's going to praise me? That

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means who's going to praise me? I'm

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not happy about anything. I'm trembling like this, and I'm

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leaving the buffet. Even if you do that, you don't seem to have confidence, you say, ``Oh,

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no.'' You're the

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iron man who says, ``I'm here,'' and you

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say ``Burn.'' I

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want you to serve Ise lobster, so you

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have that confidence.

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In order to check that you are fulfilling the other person's needs, you have written

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about the basic checks to see if you are living with confidence and properly.I

00:17:30

would like to introduce that as well.First,

00:17:32

check point 1 is

00:17:33

how you walk. It

00:17:35

seems that people's confidence comes from the way they walk.The

00:17:38

first way to walk is this.It's

00:17:40

dignified.It's

00:17:42

dignified.It's proud.It's the

00:17:44

second way to be.I don't

00:17:46

like this.What? You

00:17:50

're afraid of that. I don't

00:17:54

like it. You have to be

00:17:57

careful when walking. If you don't pay attention to this, you'll end up

00:18:00

hunched over or looking down. There are some

00:18:01

people like that, so

00:18:04

walk confidently. On top of that, 2

00:18:08

Handshakes and

00:18:10

handshakes. There are no

00:18:12

people who don't have confidence in their strong

00:18:18

handshakes. They're confident. The person who had a strong handshake is

00:18:21

GACKT. He's

00:18:25

extremely confident. There are

00:18:26

only two people in my life who have shaken hands with GACKT.

00:18:32

One of them was GACKT and the other was

00:18:34

Watami's president. I was

00:18:36

really confident about it. It was 20 years ago, but we met when we were

00:18:40

about 20. It was me and that

00:18:42

Fujimori-kun. At first, I thought of the Nekan program.

00:18:45

I thought I should go to Kazutami's president. Thank you very much. Thank you

00:18:47

very much. Thank you very much,

00:18:52

GACKT-san. I was

00:18:54

very confident. I'm going to shake

00:18:56

hands with you. There's

00:18:58

no need to shake hands in the first place, right? It's

00:19:01

this posture of easy victory and collapse. Thank you for your

00:19:04

walking access. It

00:19:06

's a shake hand gesture. Thank you for your support.

00:19:08

On top of that, do you have a voice?

00:19:12

Please do this. It's also important to make sure you have a

00:19:14

good voice and to

00:19:16

shake my hand and say hello.I want to be

00:19:21

recognized by such dignified people.Okay, that's the

00:19:24

point.First of all,

00:19:26

make sure you don't have a good voice and then shake your hand and say hello.

00:19:30

My handshake is already trembling, and I'm saying, ``

00:19:33

Wow, I'm going to wipe it off with something.''

00:19:35

From today onwards, even if I get compliments,

00:19:38

smiles, or

00:19:40

talk to you, it won't resonate much.Okay, please

00:19:43

fix yourself first.This is the difficult

00:19:46

part. For those who find it difficult, it's

00:19:48

okay,

00:19:52

it's okay. Those who say they don't have self-esteem, that's right.

00:19:56

Conversely, I can understand the feelings of those who don't have

00:19:59

self-esteem.

00:20:01

Well,

00:20:02

look around you.

00:20:04

There are people who are suffering just as much as you.

00:20:07

Yes, I know what you really want, the

00:20:09

words you really want, and I

00:20:12

say, ``I'll help you,''

00:20:14

and I

00:20:15

puff out my chest. If you can walk out, shake hands, and

00:20:17

smile, it

00:20:19

will make the biggest difference.You

00:20:21

can do it because you understand various feelings.You

00:20:25

can do high things because you have a history of low self-esteem.You have naturally high

00:20:28

self-esteem. There's no

00:20:30

way that a person can understand someone's feelings.

00:20:34

I'm above the heavens. Who

00:20:36

am I? Well, I've never seen one before, but I've never

00:20:38

seen a natural Sanskrit device above the heavens. It

00:20:41

was an extreme example. But

00:20:42

things like that happen, so even if you don't have confidence right now, you

00:20:52

have to hold your head high and feel that way.You understand the other person's feelings, and you want to help them.That's why, first,

00:20:55

let's understand the three weapons.Three Weapons. If you understand

00:20:57

it properly, you'll be able to do it

00:21:00

better than someone who doesn't understand it, which will

00:21:02

naturally increase your confidence.The

00:21:05

way you walk will also change, so let's

00:21:06

start by listening. The first weapon is to

00:21:08

smile. It's

00:21:10

about asking if you're smiling. It's

00:21:14

called a smile, so it seems like it's a very profound weapon.

00:21:16

First of all, it's basically

00:21:19

about whether or not to smile.

00:21:24

Yes,

00:21:29

there is something called "What if the other person doesn't like you?"

00:21:31

Yes, this is the trap.

00:21:34

Basically, the

00:21:36

other person may not like you, and you don't like it

00:21:38

anyway. If you approach someone with the fear that they might be afraid of you, you will

00:21:44

never be able to accept their actions.This is what I

00:21:48

wrote: If you are

00:21:50

afraid of the other person,

00:21:51

that will be reflected to the other person.Actually, what happens?

00:21:53

Well, the

00:21:54

other person is a mirror of yourself, and

00:21:57

since they are a mirror,

00:22:00

it's one to treat him thinking that he likes you, or to

00:22:02

treat him thinking that he doesn't like the way I talk to him.Then, you do

00:22:05

n't react at all.

00:22:08

Well, there are people like that.

00:22:12

People who think they're making fun of me. Sorry, I'm

00:22:14

speaking Kansai dialect.

00:22:16

Don't be specific. Please

00:22:17

don't be specific. It's not like a

00:22:19

specific domain should be submerged. However,

00:22:29

there are times when I feel like it's a little bothersome to say things like, "Oh, you're making fun of me, aren't

00:22:31

you? You said that's not what I'm talking about."

00:22:33

When someone says, ``I don't like you.'' No, it's

00:22:34

not like that, but I feel like I'm going to hate you.The

00:22:36

first

00:22:39

thing that's important

00:22:43

is to assume that the other person likes you. It seems like it's hard to assume this, isn't it? I have

00:22:48

low self-esteem, but it's contradictory to think that this person likes me.

00:22:52

This is the point, but it's actually training.

00:23:00

I think that someone likes me, so I'll start with two eggs.It's okay if

00:23:05

I think that I like the other person, and

00:23:07

if I start to like them, the other person will like me, too.

00:23:12

Have you all learned the principle of giving first? It's

00:23:15

important to be first. It's the

00:23:19

same as hell at a buffet where people don't like you because they want to be liked first. They

00:23:22

like you because they like you first. That's why

00:23:29

I

00:23:31

smile because I like the other person first.The reason why smiling is that it satisfies the other person's self-esteem.It's

00:23:34

because I know that smiling is an effort.Human

00:23:36

beings,

00:23:38

if you just smile absentmindedly. There's something wrong.

00:23:39

Something's wrong. He's

00:23:43

smiling, but if I say I was laughing,

00:23:45

something's going on.

00:23:47

Normally people don't smile, right?

00:23:49

When Nico smiles, he

00:23:51

makes an effort. I'm sure you're doing it on purpose, and

00:23:53

when you're saying masochist beautifully, you

00:23:58

're saying it in a flash.And that

00:24:00

effort is part of your etiquette, and it

00:24:02

gets the message across to the other person.Ah, I smile. I feel

00:24:06

like I'm a valuable human being,

00:24:08

and I feel

00:24:10

like I'm really treated well.There's a lot of

00:24:14

staff at restaurants, and

00:24:16

there's also people who are bosses.

00:24:21

If someone says, ``Please take a seat over there, please, please take that seat over there, please.'' It's a

00:24:23

different feeling to

00:24:25

be treated with respect.

00:24:29

That's what

00:24:30

leads to self-esteem.

00:24:32

Smiling is basically customer service. When I say, "Are you delivering that kind of customer service? Are you

00:24:35

making an effort to do that?"

00:24:38

you'll understand. I've been

00:24:40

honing my smile ever since I was in elementary school. You can see it

00:24:43

in photos. There was a time when I said, ``Please smile,'' and I was like, ``I'm

00:24:47

already laughing.'' There's a phrase that says, ``I'm not going to laugh anymore.''

00:24:52

It's for people like this, who can't understand the laughter every time they say, ``Please laugh.'' What I want to say

00:25:02

is that smiling is a matter of practice.Smiling is not a matter of practice.Basically speaking, smiling is something like that.You

00:25:04

thought that if something was fun, you would smile, right

00:25:06

?I made

00:25:08

you smile on your own. This

00:25:11

is your pattern of wanting to be popular first, satisfying your self-esteem first.I

00:25:13

saw the cat's hungry, self-centered self-esteem first, so you

00:25:17

can do it, but

00:25:19

as long as you're inside yourself, you

00:25:22

won't be popular. First of all, it's to disturb the other person.

00:25:25

So

00:25:26

basically, let's practice FOM.

00:25:28

How do we do it?

00:25:31

Traditionally, we

00:25:32

do it in front of a mirror. Here we go. Let's do it.

00:25:37

Watch this video. No, but this is

00:25:41

one more time with that

00:25:43

smiling face. For those of you who think it's so hard to practice in front of the mirror,

00:25:47

remember my data from the beginning of the first half.The

00:25:50

biggest reason for unemployment among unemployed people is interpersonal relationships.The

00:25:54

fact that they are not popular means they are not

00:25:57

successful or happy.

00:25:59

Going away, giving up, and dropping out are

00:26:02

synonymous. In other words, the fact that practicing smiling is a chore

00:26:07

means that you absolutely don't need success and happiness. In other

00:26:09

words, it's the same thing. I want to

00:26:12

go to Koshien, but I'm

00:26:15

leaving the bat behind. Well, there's a guy like that. I

00:26:18

want to go to Koshien. Come back later. I'll

00:26:21

do it in the air.

00:26:23

Wow. I can't do this. The

00:26:24

first thing I think is, why are the pads so heavy? "You should at

00:26:27

least practice your full bat.

00:26:30

Practice swings. Even golfers practice swings. Hey, even

00:26:33

golfers practice swings.

00:26:35

Even comedians do their jokes in front of a wall. Do

00:26:37

n't just do it in front of people.

00:26:40

Dancers do it too. You dance in front of the mirror, you

00:26:42

play the trumpet alone in your room, right? There's

00:26:45

practice for everything, so why do

00:26:48

n't you practice smiling? Why didn't you

00:26:51

practice smiling? It's such a

00:26:53

major competition. That's right, the

00:26:56

Smile Olympics is being held. Yes, it's already

00:26:58

common in Bangkok.

00:27:01

As for the Smile Olympics, all of the

00:27:04

gold medalists have

00:27:05

become successful candidates. It's not

00:27:07

too late to start. There are still very few

00:27:11

people who recognize smiling as a sport, but

00:27:13

once you recognize it, you'll

00:27:16

definitely improve, so I hope you'll practice. The

00:27:20

most important thing is to be able to smile from the bottom of your heart.

00:27:23

Well, apparently there are

00:27:27

times when I try to smile in the mirror myself and realize that it's a fake smile.Well,

00:27:30

if you make it up, that's all I can

00:27:32

think of.I

00:27:34

smile from the bottom of my heart in front of the mirror. Because I have no memory, so

00:27:37

I have zero practice. Can I smile in front of the mirror from now on? I

00:27:42

hate this, so I can't.

00:27:45

So, after all, I

00:27:48

don't know how to smile myself. Let's try it.

00:27:50

Smile with all your heart. It seems that there are times when you can see a face that makes you think, ``

00:27:53

Ah, this is

00:27:55

real.'' Make sure you can

00:27:57

express that at any time, and

00:28:00

throw it out loud.If you throw it out with confidence,

00:28:02

it's

00:28:03

outstanding. It seems that this

00:28:06

has the effect of smiling when shopping, etc.

00:28:10

As a customer, I can smile as a customer

00:28:13

and

00:28:15

have customers serve me at Choji Temple, so I have already

00:28:18

tried it. Well, I

00:28:20

heard that if you smiled, you would be treated very well.The

00:28:23

customer service from the store staff would

00:28:27

get better and better.This is a very common occurrence, so please try

00:28:30

smiling.It seems to have a great effect.First of all, try smiling.

00:28:32

I hope you'll take a look at this.The next step is the

00:28:35

ability to speak.People who

00:28:37

achieve success and happiness are all good at speaking.If you're wondering who is more

00:28:43

likely to be liked by the other person, it's better to

00:28:46

agree with them. You will be deducted 100%.As long as you

00:28:49

acknowledge your accomplishments, that's the

00:28:52

best treatment.How

00:28:54

can I praise you?

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