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galleries will start now it seems00:00:07
broadcast started00:00:08
I’ll now ask everyone for pluses there00:00:10
put it clearly heard so that everything is00:00:13
Fine00:00:14
so hello everyone who put online00:00:18
plus that picture is sound is everything00:00:22
Wonderful00:00:25
the delay will be 30 seconds and from00:00:29
cheat00:00:30
Here00:00:36
Anastasia is with us now, the rest00:00:38
let's wait00:00:44
but in general I will not announce that00:00:47
will happen because I myself00:00:48
actually realize what will happen00:00:50
happens, I'll be the same spectator00:00:53
like how everything is so slowly now00:00:56
will catch up00:00:58
people a00:01:01
then they will ask the most important thing00:01:03
question the most favorite question is the recording00:01:05
we will have it00:01:10
good thing you can’t ask this on the record00:01:13
write this in the comments and I won't00:01:15
I understand the notes that00:01:25
I think it's so little by little00:01:29
Yes, everyone will give you a lift, everything can be seen and heard00:01:33
put a plus again because you00:01:35
write good evening evening indeed00:01:38
good, everything is great, here you go00:01:43
and hello00:01:44
ok okay let's do this today00:01:48
caste by let's say positive to00:01:51
psychology settings with us00:01:53
wonderful guest Alexander Gerasimov00:01:55
Gestalt therapist here I am just00:01:59
organizational issues let us all00:02:02
we will listen and definitely participate in00:02:05
chat00:02:06
answer questions actively about what it is00:02:08
it is very important what will happen in00:02:10
head take rub notepads and pens and00:02:13
write down not just what will be spoken, namely00:02:16
what will happen to you what will happen00:02:18
thoughts appear, I convey all the words00:02:21
Alexandra switch from view to00:02:24
speaker and00:02:25
let's go, I'll read your chat, they'll be silent and00:02:29
some key points, read out00:02:31
when necessary00:02:32
Everything is fine00:02:36
although I don’t see anyone, I assume that00:02:38
there is an audience for this, hi everyone00:02:40
name is Alexander I'm a business psychologist00:02:45
symbolizing at work with00:02:47
entrepreneurs who go out either00:02:50
due to hiring or freelancing and00:02:53
takes up a very large amount of work00:02:56
risk uncertainty00:02:59
some unexpected turns of life and00:03:01
so on so on this is all it takes00:03:03
the presence of personal qualities they are only00:03:06
they don’t know hard skills such as skill00:03:08
we need to set up excel ourselves00:03:10
targeting that's all you need everything00:03:13
for better than hard skin soft skills00:03:16
for example yes or it ruins the internal00:03:17
quality this is all I work with00:03:21
It’s probably worth saying a few more words in00:03:24
as an acquaintance that00:03:26
psychologists were not always different00:03:29
background I originally00:03:32
physicist and predator property since then I00:03:35
I dream of making friends psychology and00:03:37
artificial intelligence shift00:03:39
humanities and natural sciences00:03:41
exact sciences therefore00:03:44
partly despite the fact that the psychologist is not for me00:03:46
like 100 psychologists very much00:03:48
verbosity and some kind of pity00:03:50
what I want was bigger00:03:52
efficiency and today I’m talking about00:03:56
and the holiday of the impostor and about the general00:03:58
positive attitude I once said00:04:01
I will proceed from this possible clear00:04:04
explanations I will often speak in00:04:07
literally it doesn't look quite the same00:04:10
you have the right definition but this is the main thing00:04:13
what was clear at the everyday level and00:04:16
why did I do this very important point00:04:19
the world is already starting to conduct business in00:04:23
maybe you know it maybe00:04:25
feel what to perceive00:04:27
intellectually and experience on a scooter00:04:29
these are very different things, that is, it is possible00:04:32
read how to swim correctly but not00:04:34
dive into the pool, yes you can count00:04:37
literacy in a foreign language but not00:04:40
say this right away on the size of the practice and00:04:44
theory00:04:46
so here is a book on psychology very often00:04:49
there are a lot of theories, but if you read this00:04:51
burdens00:04:52
today I promise you to read theories in00:04:55
in this regard I won't, I'd rather00:04:57
immerse you in some experience and00:04:59
to lustrate situations and here it is00:05:03
what is important is your feeling, your deepest00:05:06
any internal sites00:05:08
stirring they are reasoning on this topic00:05:10
if you need a short summary00:05:13
today's meeting we will throw off so00:05:17
no need to take notes there00:05:19
anything but if you have00:05:21
your gay is rolling or inside the water write00:05:24
because it's personal and00:05:26
unfolds next you can get00:05:28
maximum benefit and shoes and00:05:32
I will periodically stop giving00:05:35
such a small space for00:05:37
insights for thoughts therefore everything than00:05:39
want to share or ask along the way00:05:42
write our conversation with you because00:05:45
that I don’t know you completely00:05:48
I understand what is relevant to you specifically00:05:51
that is not therefore some words are reverse00:05:54
connection she will help me navigate00:05:55
be more helpful00:05:57
ok and00:06:00
To begin with, I want to say one thing00:06:02
a small model that we really, really like00:06:05
you will need this model how ours works00:06:08
the brain maybe you know maybe00:06:11
no, but00:06:12
if it’s completely simplified, then we have00:06:15
three brains00:06:17
the first one is reptilian this is a dinosaur bridge00:06:21
crocodile lizards are all ours there00:06:24
reflexes that00:06:26
when it works, as a rule, we don’t imagine00:06:29
we realize and on this the stars would be deprived00:06:32
jumped up and swore at someone only later00:06:34
realized what happened, that's what worked00:06:36
active reflex00:06:38
further when very that currency00:06:41
what happened next appeared on top of him00:06:43
the so-called limbic system00:06:46
this is the brain of mammals and not just00:06:49
other mammals or their other counterparts00:06:52
that bridge thanks to which animals00:06:55
there are concepts in some society00:06:57
can interact on social00:06:59
not only at the biological level00:07:02
precisely in this limbic system00:07:05
is where all our fears and emotions are located00:07:08
states of happiness motivation spontaneous00:07:12
the decision is some kind of courage and so on and so forth00:07:14
further and all psychological problems with00:07:17
which people often come to find00:07:19
there too00:07:20
[music]00:07:22
what distinguishes the human animal 300:07:25
part id1 of the cortex of our doctor00:07:28
this is ours this concept this is a skill00:07:32
speaking is a wasp of knowledge is a skill00:07:35
think abstractly and so on but00:07:38
despite the fact that this seems to be the most00:07:40
cool part of the brain with emotions anyway00:07:42
the past is in charge, so this is where it arises00:07:46
problem and we live in fact00:07:49
emotionally that is, like mammals and00:07:53
we do not what we decided, but what00:07:56
I want that is, there is still control00:07:59
located in the limbic system and resentment00:08:02
all a and motivation demotivation happiness00:08:05
happiness it rests there inside00:08:07
electrical system and we are trying00:08:09
we make decisions strategically00:08:11
using a new case and it turns out00:08:14
conflict between two parts of the brain or something00:08:16
They used to say that they got into a fight with their souls00:08:19
only brains and length and color to red00:08:21
ready and soul or heart from cummins like00:08:23
once our limbic system00:08:25
the emotional part they are in00:08:27
such a confrontation because our00:08:30
new cortex intellectually the brain is00:08:33
this is how the drawing is, this is a clear concept00:08:35
subject abstractness00:08:37
olympic system soul of emotions and this00:08:40
like here's an impressionistic painting here00:08:43
the problem is that these are two different worlds and00:08:46
I really don't know about black mastitis00:08:50
draw with a felt-tip pen or marker00:08:51
rainbows are the only drawings you can draw00:08:53
just like the intellectual brains in00:08:57
soul do very you nothing therefore everything00:09:00
who is trying to solve their psychological00:09:01
national problem intellectually00:09:03
doomed to failure if you read that00:09:08
philosopher who determines smart people00:09:10
they write about happiness, it’s very, very00:09:14
verbose, stubborn work in that00:09:17
including an ordinary child who00:09:21
here it hasn’t happened yet at all00:09:24
corner help understands nothing happiness00:09:26
feels one hundred percent so that's it00:09:29
so I won't tell you today00:09:30
I will say very smart words about psychology00:09:33
immerse you here so that you learn not to00:09:35
know about it, but rather be able to00:09:38
to interact00:09:39
themselves with their internal state and00:09:43
the first thing I want to tell you about00:09:45
this is where fear actually comes from00:09:49
which00:09:50
we are controlled by him, he is located right in00:09:54
our limbic system and it is needed for00:09:57
to control us00:09:59
crocodile he is fearless because he is stupid00:10:02
well, by definition he only has00:10:05
reptilian, but we put summer to nourish00:10:09
there is already complexity social00:10:11
relationships and ranking struggle and00:10:15
it matters what you have00:10:17
status and00:10:20
are you alone or00:10:22
with everyone there is someone or you for you00:10:25
rogue che penis is why we exist00:10:29
such a mechanism as fear and what is it00:10:32
fear of physical death is even greater00:10:34
yes and fear of rejection00:10:36
we know this fear from childhood and00:10:40
the third thing in the experience is that it’s stitched right00:10:43
cases when mom left we were very00:10:45
it's scary without her because when there00:10:47
in less than a year my parents leave and we are with him00:10:50
are not biologically connected without it at all00:10:52
we can make it very, very scary00:10:54
experienced and we may not remember00:10:57
this is deliberate, but it’s like every00:10:59
cell remember these cases perfectly00:11:01
get out in therapy just on 1 what is it00:11:05
leads to the fact that we live in society00:11:09
and we seem to be permeated by these00:11:12
we are afraid of invisible connections00:11:16
they will think something wrong or for example00:11:19
will they laugh or are you a student if they laugh at us?00:11:22
mortality treats us badly means00:11:24
we are rejected, we will begin to become one00:11:26
this means we are disconnecting everything from society00:11:29
this is the very object of fear00:11:31
or that they will abandon us or even drive us away00:11:35
from relationships from relationships benefit or00:11:39
even if he loses interest in us00:11:41
if our authority on the matter if by us00:11:44
people will be disappointed or they will be on us00:11:46
will be offended00:11:47
get angry and so on in general you can00:11:50
recall00:11:51
your own story at school00:11:55
kindergarten00:11:56
for the first relationship if you have those fears00:12:00
which I listed so think00:12:02
laugh there loses interest and so on00:12:05
this is actually how this system works00:12:09
all this teaches us to be correct00:12:13
obedient and this is all so that we00:12:16
avoided conflicts and everything in general00:12:18
situations that change people's opinions00:12:22
us 5 grams should treat well and00:12:24
By the way, this is still the case despite the fact that00:12:27
Now is a very progressive time when00:12:29
if you go to a village in the middle of nowhere, then this one00:12:32
the topic is how other people will think as neighbors00:12:34
she still thought very much00:12:36
common and that's exactly what I'm talking about00:12:39
I tell people people prefer to live this way00:12:43
so as not to attract anger00:12:45
even dissatisfaction and fear of mistakes00:12:49
naturally follows from this00:12:51
because [ __ ] it up00:12:54
means to immediately provoke oneself to either anger00:12:58
either dissatisfaction or laughter means00:13:00
that people with times with all the consequences00:13:02
consequences of exile, rejection so00:13:05
then here is approximately the following mechanism for us00:13:09
got it00:13:11
evolutionary and unfortunately it works00:13:14
works for every person who doesn't00:13:17
passed through separation, that is, the one who did not00:13:20
independent psychological sense00:13:23
we will try to stand for our lives00:13:25
independently repeatedly first we00:13:28
independently china and we walk00:13:29
speak then yourself alone and so on00:13:33
then we earn money for ourselves and so on00:13:35
It would be nice to decide for yourself00:13:38
how good or bad are you and yourself00:13:41
leave it to your parents and teachers and00:13:45
In general, how will he be his own boss?00:13:47
ourselves as long as we feel that we00:13:51
has the right to direct or evaluate us00:13:55
Scott the other we will stay here in00:13:58
this fear and00:14:01
when such a person who did not pass00:14:03
separation he gets into business with him00:14:07
there arises a whole series of00:14:10
specific cases on which it crumbles00:14:14
for example, fear of taking an order because00:14:17
while he00:14:18
forced to play the role of the right one00:14:20
good person right good00:14:22
he will always be afraid of a specialist00:14:25
won't cope or clients won't like it and00:14:28
so he will be dissatisfied and this is it00:14:30
dissatisfaction where there is something that causes00:14:32
fear or for example pay attention00:14:35
fear of writing posts00:14:37
and rarely does anyone admit what’s going on00:14:41
It is in fear that people usually say things like00:14:45
Is everything already written or is it just me?00:14:48
hotel expertise to write about something00:14:49
and so on they make excuses for others00:14:54
reasons but actually the reason is00:14:57
that they are afraid to write what they want00:15:01
from the inside00:15:02
as if there is some kind of bar lower00:15:05
whom to write is immediately a mess00:15:08
this bar stroked each person for a long time00:15:10
if you ask everyone00:15:13
in reality they drive our inner00:15:15
limited00:15:17
by the way, maybe someone knows this00:15:20
a person like Vasya Lozhkin is enough00:15:23
the now famous artist Arthur know00:15:26
these pictures with cats are very00:15:29
a specific character here I was00:15:33
witness when he started in 201000:15:36
draw and he went into such a phrase that I00:15:40
I can’t draw, but I really like it and passed it00:15:44
draw as well as he could00:15:48
basically my whole style is here00:15:50
how to eat impressionism cubism what else00:15:52
then there is someone like that there00:15:55
for what to even call it but in general his style00:15:58
learning, well, this is what the brain has become for 10 years00:16:01
legislator00:16:03
news la although before that if he00:16:06
I was shy and learned to draw like00:16:08
did the people show any ska at all?00:16:10
this means that someone has00:16:14
limitation and they don't have someone00:16:17
there are no restrictions on what to do calmly and00:16:18
then the world accepts his work00:16:21
then the third example in business is nonsense00:16:26
fear of showing off your work00:16:28
in this case, most likely a portfolio00:16:30
because the fear of judgment from the outside00:16:33
like suddenly someone knows better00:16:36
see my work and immediately think something00:16:39
I don't know how to do anything but let's take a look00:16:42
take a closer look, where did you get that from?00:16:44
that person has the right to criticize you00:16:47
you assume that all people are like the whole world00:16:50
looks closely evaluates you screw up00:16:53
the line is actually not that much00:16:56
no one cares but if it's internal00:16:58
there is a limitation, it is quite strong00:17:01
so as not to show it to the Internet00:17:03
sometimes my work comes to an end00:17:06
absurdity is literally the fear of asking00:17:09
questions because it seems00:17:12
it's scary to seem stupid or00:17:15
don't understand enough00:17:17
smart again, as if he had00:17:19
person ask someone from someone00:17:21
I was right, you value dollars for the truth00:17:24
By and large, he can do the same00:17:27
say that he’s young and the dude got it00:17:29
you answer the question posed they no00:17:31
criticism and cash in general go everywhere00:17:33
but nevertheless someone is afraid because before00:17:36
still believes that he is assessed as00:17:38
future were engaged00:17:41
Well, as an example, the fear of taking other people's ideas00:17:46
strife bonfires borrow fear00:17:47
experiment because again00:17:49
on any free action stop because00:17:52
what but what should she do00:17:54
goes beyond limits00:17:56
In this case, we have aromas in our heads00:17:59
this also includes the battle to send out resumes00:18:03
you don't go to interviews because00:18:05
that both here and there with such a background00:18:07
there is a feeling that I00:18:10
Necessarily00:18:11
will criticize me00:18:14
negatively in advance and for any mistake00:18:16
will be and so on and so if a person00:18:21
located00:18:22
with such an internal state and00:18:26
this has been happening for quite a long time00:18:29
all the time we grew up it lets00:18:32
roots and is already part of our character00:18:34
And00:18:36
it seems to us that others seem better00:18:38
smarter and more beautiful by definition00:18:41
we are already becoming critical of ourselves00:18:44
and we scold ourselves why because how00:18:48
they say the sword does not cut off a guilty head00:18:50
if I practiced it myself, it seems like00:18:52
knocked the weapon out of the enemy's hands, so we00:18:55
you the cost of the qualification00:18:57
then it’s inconvenient for us to be praised, although00:19:00
I want a lot of praise but not for compliments00:19:02
I was lucky then so on somehow00:19:05
constantly refuses praise and00:19:08
As a result, there is no confirmation of what we should share00:19:10
did something well00:19:12
does not fuel the praise of tailors not linen00:19:16
It’s hard for us to say no anymore00:19:20
even when the client or not then we will send00:19:24
hairdresser hairdresser some kind of game00:19:26
It can be difficult to even object to someone00:19:29
It can be difficult to raise your voice on a minibus00:19:30
because it attracts attention00:19:33
this is also fear00:19:36
depression over constructive criticism00:19:38
even the constructive one found something that wasn’t00:19:41
perfect bad00:19:44
you can take everything from yourself and00:19:48
write out a list and this is possible for this00:19:51
to understand how much00:19:53
will be how much progress will change when00:19:57
we will work if you understand00:19:59
you can cross out a few symptoms00:20:01
it means you've moved on no longer00:20:04
there will be problems and when will it be 10 and 1000:20:06
consider that you are a syndrome and a few more00:20:09
together now I’ll tell you you defeated him00:20:12
By the way, I’ll ask if anyone has any00:20:15
Write these cases if you find out00:20:18
please chat so I can understand yes00:20:20
how relevant is what I assume?00:20:24
and to what extent which direction further00:20:26
carry on a conversation or if there is something I don't00:20:29
called but found too00:20:33
for now only those will move on and00:20:37
and flooded behavior because of this00:20:42
We also develop such habits00:20:44
behavioral characteristics and state in00:20:47
by the way, also try on the first ones and00:20:50
check it right shooting right everything00:20:52
people sometimes write about me somewhere00:20:55
somewhere it’s not about me, that’s where it’s about you00:20:57
take it in case00:20:59
for example, I can’t admit my00:21:02
achievement means that you did it00:21:06
obviously good but there is a desire00:21:09
attribute it to anything but yourself00:21:12
circumstances I'm lucky I'm also a teacher00:21:15
they were good and so on00:21:18
if you don’t take credit for your success00:21:24
further00:21:25
devaluation of work even when everything00:21:28
they did it and it seemed cool even at first00:21:31
but then boom from but probably not after all00:21:34
it was [ __ ], but if I could probably only00:21:37
because everyone else is lucky too00:21:39
trunk00:21:41
such underestimation of one's own value00:21:44
third example when00:21:47
your self-esteem depends on the result00:21:51
there is no matter how old00:21:53
lived and how he manifested himself if now00:21:55
this particular case didn't work out00:21:57
know how everything is before wenge, but00:22:02
if it worked, then probably after all00:22:03
it’s worth something if it’s a one-time thing00:22:06
case one-time result it00:22:08
cancels out all previous stories00:22:10
that's exactly 11 tons00:22:13
or the following example when speaking on00:22:16
doubt just not scientifically where00:22:18
doubt is just a tool from work and00:22:20
to questioning namely00:22:23
doubt as emotional uncertainty00:22:24
I'm doing right, well I can be00:22:28
and not so00:22:30
or another symptom is if it lasts forever00:22:34
dissatisfied with myself00:22:35
as if there isn't enough here00:22:37
so-and-so is not enough as a person00:22:41
sometimes like a professional, sometimes like someone else00:22:43
so on if there is a feeling that00:22:46
unity is not effective enough00:22:49
doesn't mean it needs to be sprayed very lightly too00:22:52
here00:22:53
why does this lead to what how00:22:57
The following symptoms usually occur00:23:02
We accumulate resources such as education00:23:05
courses support something else but steps00:23:09
the main thing is to meet your desired one00:23:11
the future is not done it's called00:23:13
procrastination00:23:15
or we try to follow the rules like00:23:19
all standards just not to stand out00:23:23
cook criticism from I see it's called00:23:24
conformism, that is, if you notice00:23:27
you have to mean a lot to something00:23:30
do and must be done according to all the rules00:23:32
that's actually what I'm talking about00:23:36
so all this is not even about the syndrome00:23:40
impostor is a slightly deeper topic00:23:43
I will now tell you how it is formed00:23:48
This is firstly a distorted idea of00:23:50
yourself and don't be afraid this word is not grown up00:23:54
immaturity00:23:56
why how does this happen00:23:58
everything naturally comes from childhood00:24:01
when parents broadcast rejections00:24:06
there is ignoring negative emotions and this00:24:09
comes about and without everything is wrong but00:24:11
it's no use, look, you put it on again00:24:14
upset mom and so on00:24:17
trying on myself when I was little00:24:20
child and I will listen to what is inside00:24:22
state emotions arise when desired and00:24:26
the most important thing is that you start thinking00:24:28
about myself00:24:30
these kids are he than00:24:33
characteristic he is still small he learns00:24:36
the world from it functions the main to know00:24:38
the world on his brains is still small00:24:41
so he gets to know the world of prison kids00:24:42
reaction00:24:44
maybe you saw such jokes when00:24:47
Mom is holding her daughter in her arms and hit her00:24:51
Dad washed his fist on the door there00:24:54
It's like you hit the wall, but00:24:57
I didn’t hit myself and my daughter starts reading00:25:00
looks and starts to cry too, that is, she00:25:02
doesn't feel like anything happened to her00:25:04
didn’t hit further, but when to wind up what00:25:07
mom starts crying we're really in00:25:10
small here we define ourselves and our00:25:13
reactions before through reactions of adults if00:25:15
We constantly see this attitude00:25:17
that you're stupid, you're worthless, okay?00:25:19
guess what self-esteem00:25:22
then the next example is when parents00:25:25
praising only when obedient, diligent00:25:28
comfortable, whatever, and so on00:25:31
it was called the behavior of lying around00:25:34
school when I was born I was brought up00:25:37
by the way, in the Soviet school at and00:25:40
It's the 80s, it's probably different now00:25:42
I remember very well what we00:25:45
they told us they taught us from a book00:25:48
roots chukovsky moidodyr00:25:49
this is a chic phrase when he00:25:52
I finally washed myself and there it is now00:25:54
I love you, now I praise you00:25:56
finally you've pleased my dirty [ __ ]00:25:59
and this was the norm and upbringing00:26:02
I don’t know what books to educate on00:26:04
you but if you look00:26:07
and what dad gave you for our eyes00:26:10
had two or three years you will have a very00:26:11
a lot can be the main thing in life00:26:14
scenarios some states select them00:26:16
a child's book in these pictures in which00:26:17
Look00:26:19
further if the parents have consistency00:26:22
inflated demands which have to do with00:26:24
come out of the sleeve like mommy00:26:28
created a control received five well done00:26:32
why will I give such a curve later it seems00:26:36
I really need it, as he knows there00:26:38
why no hat why hats?00:26:41
the main thing is to get to the bottom of it and not to do everything00:26:44
anyway I always get to the bottom of something00:26:46
naturally just provokes00:26:48
a perfectionist is eventually formed00:26:50
reflex if I did something wrong00:26:53
I don't deserve what I want00:26:56
what love wants is attention, affection and warmth00:26:58
and in the end this is over generalized yes I00:27:01
I just don't deserve anything00:27:04
a strategy is formed, a person begins00:27:06
try to earn love through00:27:09
obedience diligence intelligence and whatever and00:27:12
most likely we are all in this situation00:27:15
we have such a strategy in00:27:17
deep earn yourself good00:27:19
relationships through being useful00:27:23
while this is happening00:27:26
an interesting moment happens00:27:28
it turns out that we are ourselves as humans00:27:32
we don’t consider someone the prices we don’t feel what00:27:36
A00:27:37
this means you can't show yourself to the world00:27:41
so ugly and we start to hide00:27:44
behind the mask there literally behind the mask00:27:47
now if the mask is a mask of a smart person but how00:27:52
school to demand that to be smart then this00:27:54
impostor syndrome excellent student syndrome00:27:57
if this mask is good doing persistently00:28:03
hard worker perfectionism00:28:06
if this mask didn't know there I would be 10000:28:09
beautiful then this interest complex00:28:11
about appearance and the so-called00:28:13
bows zm discrimination based on appearance00:28:16
there are also kind people who00:28:18
come through Moscow kindness and why00:28:21
because I don't want to provoke00:28:23
the conflict can be appeased00:28:25
in advance to a person and they always do00:28:27
smile shakes around with both hands00:28:31
jokes a lot attracts someone's attention00:28:34
You may have encountered similar questions00:28:35
caramel and down there are some people I know00:28:37
but about all this 1st floor mechanism00:28:40
it feels like I'm nobody00:28:43
good enough and so desire00:28:45
cover yourself with a mask and00:28:47
at some point this mask becomes00:28:51
your computer your competence your00:28:54
video because if I'm good00:28:56
specialist then no one knows what I am00:28:58
bad person00:29:01
I’ll leave this thought for a while now00:29:04
try to live and see00:29:08
learn about your life and that is, there is no such thing00:29:12
such situations and00:29:16
if you have a question or insight on00:29:19
last part of the car00:29:23
[music]00:29:25
I got a B and the question was why00:29:28
not 5 why four00:29:32
It turned out that adults are in charge of design00:29:35
people but in terms of an adult goes to00:29:39
stable reliable profession00:29:43
work in an office for a salary, there are children here00:29:46
gathered with just under these00:29:48
complexes and impostors and good00:29:51
good people00:29:52
[music]00:29:53
a designer should be good at acting like this00:29:56
believes00:29:58
there are no bad people in design00:30:01
I can ask for everything on the list on the minibus00:30:06
stop but not loud hundreds it's not00:30:09
paid attention to me, that is00:30:12
someone actually thought he had it00:30:15
unique case but it turned out not00:30:19
me too I just and from the opposite I go I00:30:22
I just heard about the school00:30:25
a little while the guys are thinking00:30:27
tell me a little bit it happened to me00:30:30
I studied very poorly, that is, I studied00:30:33
I only taught only those subjects that00:30:35
were interesting and that's all if I00:30:38
the subject was uninteresting it was impossible00:30:40
make me do my homework get00:30:42
some good assessment and I am very00:30:45
she was always lucky with her mother00:30:47
drum what rating did I get for it all00:30:51
time they called and said here you are00:30:53
Andreyka he got a bad mark, she says00:30:55
why did you get it he didn't learn from00:30:57
that's why I didn't learn the game opinion00:30:59
I wonder if she's a teacher because he doesn't00:31:01
Interesting00:31:04
the teachers were shocked because how come00:31:06
influence Katya cinema I will influence him00:31:08
he is not interested and00:31:10
I sat down, that is, on this, well, and I’m all in00:31:13
life seemed to go through all this and00:31:15
I realized that if you’re not interested in it, it’s not00:31:18
It’s worth doing in principle, therefore00:31:21
there are none, thank God world to do it00:31:25
red could actually have me at the bureau00:31:27
on the contrary, I was an excellent student and00:31:29
if something was wrong I came home00:31:32
well how can it be00:31:35
how could you, I understood that I didn’t have00:31:38
the allies are not there in the field, they are at home00:31:41
that the parents seem to like it, but how's it going?00:31:44
concerns the school of learning what not to00:31:46
required I'm left alone00:31:49
then they just report like this00:31:52
damn perfectionists guys00:31:55
I've been thrown into the most dangerous situations00:31:59
the support dissolved, I didn’t feel it00:32:03
that anyone needs me at all right now00:32:05
if there are errors00:32:07
it's like a habit, like a reflex in your legs00:32:10
for many years school 1000:32:15
work everything out yes00:32:18
In short, this is what we have to do00:32:21
get out00:32:22
Well, yes, by the way, I tell everyone that you00:32:25
you're afraid what if the client doesn't like it00:32:28
this is due to the fact that00:32:29
when you get a bad grade at school you're more likely to get a bad grade00:32:32
you get scolded and either the teacher or00:32:34
parents or both and you when00:32:36
you work with a client and it turns out that he00:32:39
you seem to have this one, well00:32:41
the parent is your customer and you must00:32:44
do everything with an A+ if he doesn't00:32:46
he'll like it, he'll swear though00:32:50
in business there is no such thing as00:32:54
swear for some kind of result00:32:57
eat it discuss discuss it00:33:00
negotiations but it's not00:33:02
swear and that is, no one says that you00:33:04
bad, well, in general, it’s such a difficult torment, yes00:33:07
but I thought that everything was ours00:33:09
wonderful00:33:10
upbringing plus education this is it00:33:13
forming the foundation yes yes and00:33:18
the whole joke is that when is it00:33:20
explains the name behind the business here00:33:22
in a different way like this like this these are words00:33:25
and words are perceived by the neocortex, but00:33:28
can't come here because the language is wrong00:33:31
that is, we speak into the head, but we need to00:33:34
soul and this method of data00:33:36
to say this directly to the soul is not00:33:38
so simple00:33:39
so it would be much easier if00:33:42
for example, you didn’t explain to yourself 10000:33:45
look don't find a participated how00:33:48
third party negotiations wherever yourself00:33:50
we saw with our own eyes how it happened and what it00:33:53
situation where you think it's now00:33:55
they would eat someone for a joke, they would have seen before00:33:58
which no one can really do00:34:02
here we are at this moment happening00:34:05
inside so that damn it turns out to be reality00:34:08
it's not so much easier to see it00:34:12
with your own eyes as many times as necessary00:34:14
I was prophesied that is necessary00:34:18
collect the maximum amount00:34:19
dissatisfied customers to get00:34:21
a new experience that no one scolds you00:34:24
So00:34:26
safer and see how it happens00:34:28
not with you, with another person because00:34:32
it can be hard to even get in touch with00:34:36
hate towards negative customers00:34:38
Or maybe I just don’t have enough mental strength?00:34:41
look at the company in dice or there00:34:44
binary for someone else is much00:34:46
easier, but then little by little, just like that00:34:49
they will rush and reconcile these we ourselves00:34:52
there is still a very interesting moment here00:34:55
that I also laid it on mine right there00:34:58
Julie writes that for everything for all subjects00:35:01
created for 5 in total for 400:35:05
astronomy medal has still failed00:35:08
It's a shame that I didn't graduate from school with a medal00:35:11
I remember that I had a conversation in00:35:14
eleventh grade with a teacher from00:35:16
cool she's sitting right in front of me00:35:18
says Andreyka, you have history in00:35:20
there will be two in the year 11th grade I will be like this 200:35:24
so what are you going to do next?00:35:27
in such a sense that00:35:30
I'll leave school and they won't take you00:35:35
not to any university and I already knew that00:35:37
there are paid universities where for money00:35:40
the game says everything will be fine sir00:35:42
university is not that important to me00:35:44
looks and I realized that she lived in another00:35:48
time that is in her in the house here in this one00:35:51
education was very important and I already00:35:54
when were computers released?00:35:55
appeared and in general I already understood that00:35:57
professions in general will be different and this one00:36:00
diploma00:36:01
medal they are all excellent students00:36:04
who were at school I was surprised when00:36:07
I saw an argument with my class and00:36:10
parallel class of excellent students, yours is not00:36:13
in the sales area00:36:14
one sales representative00:36:16
I was delivering cigarettes around the city, I was like, well00:36:19
as if it’s logical, well, that’s all logical00:36:24
no more, in general, everyone accepted and lived00:36:29
we need to move on00:36:32
I didn't just ask you to write this00:36:35
because it is important to us that00:36:38
we already know our thoughts and we are with them00:36:41
we are and how to hear the voice00:36:42
The limbic system is the voice of our00:36:45
the subconscious is the voice of our emotions00:36:48
feeling and state and also images or00:36:50
flashbacks which are usually the most00:36:53
what moment comes00:36:55
inappropriate and it's really two00:36:58
different systems and00:37:00
Can00:37:02
It’s difficult to suggest an experiment to a private person00:37:04
will hold do it00:37:06
on one's own00:37:07
the first thing you need to do is the following you can do00:37:09
remember00:37:11
recollection remember some kind00:37:14
time of your life for some year00:37:16
some events and00:37:18
see what you remember what you00:37:21
you will remember later after this00:37:23
you will need either music from those times00:37:25
taste so that there is nostalgie either00:37:27
place to get into other old photos00:37:30
raise that is, what is at the level00:37:32
association of korea will raise00:37:34
nostalgic memories and you00:37:36
then you will discover that something else is coming00:37:39
different images, that is, our conscious00:37:42
memory yes it's automatic they are two00:37:45
different00:37:46
that's why grant nancy work with00:37:48
they worked here, there are none left00:37:50
elaboration we need to work with those00:37:53
feelings and for this you need them00:37:55
showed themselves therefore I and00:37:56
asked for all these examples so that they could be00:37:59
writer example you needed this00:38:01
speed mark even survive and that's it00:38:03
look where these sensations are in your body00:38:07
literally your space just us00:38:10
today it will be possible to talk to him about00:38:12
Here00:38:13
while we move on, I want to say a few words00:38:16
who is more susceptible to this syndrome and00:38:18
impostors, perfectionists, excellent students and00:38:21
so on who is less00:38:22
first of all, people who live by the rules00:38:27
they are conformists, they just have a strategy00:38:30
cling to the rules beyond the boundaries00:38:32
social principles and so on therefore00:38:35
they will be more important they00:38:38
cling does not rely on one's own will00:38:41
given something of my own I want for them00:38:43
there is need food this is necessary father00:38:45
I want more than my own, this is their way00:38:47
more difficult times secondly people who00:38:51
because the brain works very interestingly00:38:55
if something is scary to do, brain00:38:57
the young man begins to try to calculate00:39:00
how to do it right and in the end a person00:39:03
he lives in conjecture all the time00:39:06
instead of experimenting00:39:10
a very interesting moment arises when00:39:12
fidget is speculation, he has real experience and00:39:14
no, he just has this kind of thinking00:39:17
so it turns out he lives with me and that’s it00:39:19
he can’t think of it because the mind is00:39:21
he still wants to go there00:39:24
evolution but he is very weak00:39:26
only this plus or minus two objects00:39:28
at the same time the focus of attention is our00:39:31
as if instinct did not work Sarah00:39:34
and think faster than intellectually00:39:36
this is the reasoning for this person00:39:39
who tries to think a lot00:39:41
never gets out of the trilogy of fear00:39:43
a very good example is fear00:39:46
people are afraid of public speaking00:39:49
so asking around people are afraid of what00:39:51
they don't know it's slack in front of them00:39:54
asking for one, look in yours00:39:57
inner world who are you afraid of they00:39:59
they are afraid of this audience00:40:01
which seems like some kind of00:40:02
fashionable incomprehensible but we’ll consider it for you00:40:05
quite a dangerous image because00:40:07
uncertainty for the brain means00:40:08
official predator of the dark00:40:11
so while a person does not look at00:40:14
real audience in front of whom he communicates00:40:16
but instead they suggest to you that he00:40:19
will always be afraid and afraid00:40:22
own uncertainty00:40:24
very good in this regard00:40:27
life hacks is when you go out to00:40:30
stage look at the audience and happy00:40:32
eyes and literally by the way how to approach you00:40:35
applies and so if you see on00:40:36
red-hot mouth and we are still imprisoned00:40:39
then by the way it will be easier because00:40:41
then it’s still clear what to expect00:40:43
if you see interested persons and00:40:46
such interest then fear goes away00:40:50
there is fear, it turns out we get scared00:40:53
their own ideas00:40:55
the answer is fear of the camera, although it seems generally00:40:57
there is no one in this water00:40:59
assumes that we will be evaluated and we00:41:01
fights of their own projections which00:41:03
put it on the camera, that's who loves it00:41:05
speculate m quick on the one who is too00:41:07
stupid and good after it turns out for00:41:09
this he should register to check with the type we00:41:12
let's see, it's clear there00:41:14
then we’ll think about not being a fighter00:41:16
take a steam bath and so on, so be simpler and00:41:21
Least of all this syndrome is a suspension on those00:41:24
people who are good communicators00:41:26
why because they know how to00:41:30
another person's conversation put then00:41:33
the state that is needed, that is, if00:41:36
they need to calm him down if necessary00:41:38
if necessary they will distract him from his nonsense00:41:41
like you so on they don’t need00:41:43
try to be smart00:41:45
somehow clear and so on because00:41:48
What00:41:49
they know how to protect themselves and they feel00:41:52
their power because they can00:41:54
manage wealthy people for00:41:56
conversations these people are not afraid of00:41:59
never at all and there is such a thing00:42:03
I know how to treat them good and bad00:42:04
the effect is more successful because00:42:08
that he can communicate now00:42:10
national elect is developed and it has00:42:12
other people to set up the right00:42:14
state in the right position he can00:42:16
maybe I couldn't do it at all maybe00:42:19
he could really be an amateur00:42:21
scammers and nothing for me to understand00:42:23
this impostor literally00:42:25
take a ride because at the expense00:42:27
conversation this is interaction he00:42:30
solves all issues; he doesn’t need it in this case00:42:32
case competence00:42:34
so while someone is afraid to show themselves00:42:39
real and trying to seem smart00:42:42
let's enjoy the fruits of it00:42:44
work and00:42:46
it's always been like this00:42:48
you are now more noticeable why00:42:52
everyone used to live very hard, the enemy is here00:42:55
50 years ago00:42:57
and now there are no frames, I’m not very wobbly00:43:00
there is a lot of chaos and almost everything00:43:03
it is allowed it reveals everyone who is not00:43:06
can rely on yourself before everyone was00:43:09
the framework is the same for everyone and the one who00:43:12
on my own and was not00:43:14
behind him and now you can see when everyone is walking00:43:17
who wants someone goes and someone stands00:43:19
sits there and I don’t know, he’s afraid to do about00:43:22
this season has not become blurry anymore00:43:25
just opened it00:43:27
many that they are afraid of00:43:29
ok actually00:43:32
I suggest going directly to00:43:35
you can do some work with this00:43:38
comments00:43:40
So I got hooked on the topic about on00:43:44
the public is redder than a tomato and for this00:43:45
very embarrassed, I begin to get confused00:43:47
thoughts fear of performing in general on stage00:43:51
I just had a thought that you are just00:43:53
spoke just like that was a speaker00:43:56
here comes the man00:43:58
small I can share small00:44:00
experience of dealing with stage fright when we00:44:04
always started performing only if00:44:08
there's some kind of performance going on00:44:10
several groups or artists performing00:44:12
that is, you are not the only one who comes to the whole scene00:44:14
yours naturally everyone there performs for you00:44:19
it seems that they play better, that's right00:44:21
no matter how they play, it seems that they00:44:24
play better than professional ones in general00:44:26
their material is great and we went out I00:44:29
I remember the first times it’s clearly visible00:44:31
even look at all the artists, even look at00:44:33
voice when they are nervous they have someone00:44:35
my hand is shaking and I can’t get the microphone to work properly00:44:38
hold on I really felt it shaking00:44:40
hand shaking lips I didn’t understand at all00:44:42
what's going on here I started but00:44:46
feel the whole thing and in some way00:44:48
moment I just realized that this is how we are00:44:52
we play really badly, well, that is, the box00:44:55
gave a sober report but also an assessment that00:44:58
while we are not professional and00:45:00
we play really badly and00:45:02
next time we started going out I00:45:04
I wasn't worried about it at all because00:45:06
how the assessment of the hall will be absolutely real00:45:10
what will happen on stage if00:45:12
we'll screw up the site, well, that is, it will be00:45:15
reality but when we I tried00:45:17
pretend to be a professional you have me00:45:21
naturally this one was a professional00:45:24
stage fright is the same situation with00:45:26
design and with all this business I even00:45:29
I always say guys, I'm not a designer, I'm00:45:31
charlatan I just know how to do things well00:45:35
layouts and everything, that is, if anyone00:45:38
suddenly this one comes in handy for this00:45:40
probably advice00:45:42
you shouldn't position yourself more than00:45:45
you can actually if you don't00:45:48
you know how, you don’t know how, that’s all you can do00:45:51
make mistakes absolutely always and00:45:54
I have everything everywhere and00:45:57
this is a very adult decision because I00:46:01
I wanted to show the layer itself everything we're talking about00:46:04
we're talking we're talking about the transition from that00:46:07
that we imitate our lives, trying to00:46:10
form as it should as expected as once00:46:13
let's get to what I really am00:46:15
in fact00:46:17
where we ourselves determine how much it is00:46:20
how many staff are there, how the hell do you find out?00:46:22
where did you do it and saw it for yourself in fact00:46:24
will determine00:46:25
I teach people to do the same thing00:46:27
yours will have different opinions, which means00:46:31
what does this say more about them themselves than00:46:34
about my work00:46:36
I just remembered further from this number00:46:40
I have a cool song on this topic00:46:42
there was a song and recorded a video and00:46:46
a lot of people wrote damn cool cool00:46:49
eat there, it's just great00:46:50
comment in general well done everyone there and00:46:53
one guy came in and wrote damn I heard00:46:55
like the type in transition it sings better nuff00:46:58
this is who I am, this is just another one like this00:47:02
I had a day no matter what level00:47:04
you are there anyway00:47:07
some type of which transition form00:47:08
the best entrance is that it’s actually me00:47:10
reality doesn't matter to everyone00:47:12
its00:47:18
ok, I was just talking about the fact that that’s all00:47:23
this is all this charm this is a consequence00:47:26
education and grass is how we are made but00:47:29
seems like slyness because now we are already00:47:33
adults and an adult has this00:47:36
concept as responsibility itself00:47:37
here we start using to indicate00:47:39
Responsibility remains00:47:40
the surroundings are the understanding that sit down00:47:43
It’s also important to say yes, what’s the difference?00:47:45
We owe a lot of responsibility00:47:47
We often confuse responsibility and00:47:48
obligations00:47:49
the answer is we think it’s like those debts00:47:53
obligations that we are obliged to do00:47:55
this is not a thick world that00:47:58
as much as it requires if something is wrong00:48:00
he's definitely not right away00:48:02
responsibility is the understanding that you are yourself00:48:06
the source of your decisions and the source of your00:48:10
fate00:48:12
Is it possible to rename and name it00:48:14
authorship or author's position will be00:48:16
it’s more clear, so here you are as the author00:48:20
there is someone who can make decisions00:48:22
the capital of the league is generally not carried out on00:48:25
circumstances and not follow any00:48:27
reflex instincts not about behavior00:48:30
inertia as usual, but can choose00:48:32
any where else untraveled it can00:48:35
make people different from animals00:48:37
thanks for someone with and frontal lobe00:48:39
we can make one like this as a strategy00:48:41
can be visualized count00:48:43
action strategies here are the responsibilities00:48:45
then this is the realization that we are now like this00:48:47
possible, unlike animals and00:48:48
use this and this means that00:48:51
previous experience is not important to us00:48:54
that is, if there is any luggage due00:48:56
we can simply avoid negative experiences00:48:59
use we are not obliged to follow the00:49:01
we can do it fundamentally differently and00:49:03
there were many such examples of life00:49:05
once walked around while I was little00:49:07
will we smear the braid on the table we roared00:49:10
from all sorts of [ __ ] but now we are not00:49:12
we do it and don’t have to do it exactly the same way00:49:16
it makes sense to give up others00:49:18
these childhood habits, namely from00:49:21
Habits of evaluating oneself through someone else's eyes00:49:23
here's the actual arrival, let's move on to00:49:25
mechanics and why is all this [ __ ]?00:49:27
is happening00:49:28
I can name four reasons first00:49:33
when a person experiences what we mean00:49:35
Today they said he had almost zero00:49:38
self-worth and self-love00:49:43
please note if you don't feel it00:49:45
right now every second00:49:48
time of your highest value for yourself00:49:52
there will always be a feeling of unworthiness00:49:55
some kind of deficiency and necessarily00:49:58
there will be a desire to earn money for yourself00:50:00
the dignity of recognition by other people00:50:03
their ways to do something for them like00:50:05
the rule will be a strategy for making money00:50:08
what we need and have rights00:50:10
certainly amendments00:50:12
in this way, in this way, you may not00:50:15
determine you may think that all three but00:50:18
as soon as00:50:19
wait the situation is at 10 fear I don’t know there00:50:23
human appetite do it wrong and00:50:25
anxiety if in this situation00:50:27
always look in the depths00:50:29
find some small child00:50:32
a boy or girl who is not strong enough00:50:34
enough to put it out of these things00:50:36
heat support bra without work I realize00:50:38
that he is good, that he exists, and if00:50:40
this feeling is there you can allow it00:50:43
don't follow the rules, that's the first thing00:50:47
further00:50:49
the second reason is the so-called external00:50:51
reference to or lack of self-esteem00:50:55
the problem is not only that00:50:58
we rate low the problem is that we are not00:51:02
we evaluate ourselves, we live as if under someone else's00:51:05
assessment, that is, we believe that the words about00:51:09
us another person without salt than ours00:51:11
your own about yourself, here you can have yours00:51:13
Wonder Woman we were praised we think00:51:16
that we are good, we were scolded by the thinkers there00:51:18
bad and this can happen on00:51:21
every day there are 10 times to the side and there are no dimples00:51:24
manages to change how quickly but if00:51:28
focus blogs locus of control in others00:51:32
people, that is, they evaluate us from us00:51:37
there will be more problems why because00:51:40
we will try to do something different from what we do00:51:41
we don’t want creative expression like us00:51:44
we feel she doesn't try to please and00:51:47
get a good relationship misfiring00:51:51
obviously not going to demonstrate00:51:53
praise and00:51:55
high leave us the problem turns out00:51:57
Well, a horizontal bar and00:52:00
if you lack self-esteem then we00:52:03
We begin to look for criteria by which to00:52:06
compare and this is where it comes to the rescue00:52:09
instagram to the rescue in quotes of his people00:52:12
lose their spirits 0 we have everything there00:52:16
it's cool everyone there is good00:52:19
you can manage like a regular house00:52:21
ordinary life00:52:23
this is all a consequence of what we continue00:52:25
evaluate yourself through someone else's eyes further00:52:28
because we behave like this and don’t00:52:31
Let's go experiment, we don't have enough00:52:33
sensory life experience00:52:35
directly confronted with reality00:52:38
I looked at what it's really worth00:52:40
that is, without assuming that you are not anyone's00:52:43
needed and literally came over to talk00:52:45
I asked by the way I recommend00:52:48
write to your friends which ones00:52:52
my qualities you value me most00:52:54
such a question and compare what you think with00:52:57
so that you're not really the only one00:52:59
guests the difference and this is exactly what it is00:53:01
the difference is what we think our map00:53:03
of the world is our matrix of representations and00:53:05
real real what others00:53:08
the more adequate they are, the easier it is, and if00:53:11
a person lives in an illusion, he goes out on00:53:13
no one on the street00:53:14
he he imagines that everything is on him00:53:17
the moment is watching and he can't screw it up00:53:20
to do that would be a lot of anxiety00:53:23
the actual problem was a little strange00:53:26
vote on a minibus or speak00:53:30
on the audience or oh my god stand up00:53:32
in the middle of the avenues and start reading00:53:35
poetry00:53:36
it just seems insanely scary00:53:39
all because we are not used to it00:53:41
measure reality as it really is00:53:43
in fact00:53:44
per gram how it relates good or bad00:53:47
Not00:53:49
Azarova people and00:53:52
4 this00:53:54
when we live through masks you live00:53:58
avoidance we invariably train in00:54:02
what do we do every time if we avoid00:54:04
seem to be back in avoidance we00:54:06
we get used to being a person who, as it were,00:54:08
a little apart from the world and00:54:11
a very interesting one arises00:54:13
support mikha don't call it that00:54:14
compensation00:54:16
let's say we're afraid00:54:18
make a bad impression00:54:19
but we really want everything to be fine00:54:21
so we're trying to come up with something like this00:54:24
we come up with testing situations and what if00:54:26
so we were given this to do this00:54:30
don't try to put yourself in this00:54:32
the situation and then everything is put together to understand00:54:35
to do but the answer is usually no00:54:37
comes because nightmares come up00:54:40
years faster than solving these nightmares and00:54:43
these are yourself this way00:54:45
you inflate your self-esteem even more00:54:48
fall and seemed to want the best, that is00:54:51
find a solution to be fearless but00:54:54
in the end I came up with a problem whistle that00:54:56
the very heavens00:54:58
mechanism very often00:55:00
three of us worked unconsciously sometimes00:55:04
created this is the inner voice that00:55:06
talks about where now there krate it's not00:55:09
your experience00:55:12
in general, look at which of these00:55:15
mechanisms about you and see what00:55:19
I have some insights on this topic, I’ll remind you00:55:24
when self love00:55:26
at zero, that is, you don’t value yourself00:55:29
love not ready to pamper not ready00:55:33
give yourself the best when you are inclined to00:55:36
donation, that is, trying for the sake of00:55:38
to give all your best for something00:55:40
all the symptoms of lack of love00:55:43
then this is an ambitious project for you00:55:45
will definitely be stressful because00:55:47
we need the bit created by the project very much00:55:49
push yourself beyond your physical limits00:55:51
opportunities00:55:52
and when love is in oneself then there is a project00:55:55
1 piece is seen as bonuses because00:55:58
you are obviously not prepared in advance00:56:00
give all the best on took further the second00:56:04
point this is inside the ferenti externally when you00:56:06
you think that someone else’s word about you is someone else’s00:56:08
the score is more important than yours, that's why you have you00:56:13
devalue your ideas00:56:16
your work if someone criticized and00:56:20
maybe even at the brain level00:56:22
understand that people are wrong but also butter00:56:24
sags shorter when you depend on00:56:27
someone else's emotions quartz or smile here00:56:30
this is externally a reference to who has it00:56:33
internally he doesn’t care how to approach him00:56:35
applies will help me your opinion and00:56:38
half of myself and about that person00:56:40
it's worth listening to it isn't worth it00:56:43
the third is in the mind when00:56:48
trying00:56:49
predict what will happen instead00:56:52
to observe and live the bridge and compare00:56:54
And00:56:55
the fourth is00:56:57
just a long experience of living through masks00:57:01
through an attempt to not be oneself but to present00:57:03
behave correctly in one company in00:57:05
another company when you prepare a lot00:57:07
to perform you understand like light00:57:10
make sure everything is fine00:57:14
write down for now who has what inside00:57:17
on this occasion the right all such mechanisms00:57:19
again and I'll say two more questions00:57:24
let's reveal the first one very often on the Internet00:57:26
I was preparing for the game, probably article 5000:57:28
stopped playing to look what but00:57:30
this topic or not and there was this one00:57:32
Can this moment be used to your advantage?00:57:35
impostor internal perfectionism00:57:37
topics and there was something like that00:57:41
Polish to become better00:57:44
against this idea because when you00:57:48
trying to become better is what it means00:57:50
feeding your compensation means how00:57:52
get the third form 4 5 and so on00:57:54
further that is, to accumulate a mask they are00:57:58
but let me remind you that we are training and00:58:02
we upgrade ourselves in what we each do00:58:04
day if you choose each shadow00:58:07
mask you choose not to upgrade yours00:58:11
that's why I think the site is harmful and00:58:14
I recommend00:58:16
pump up exactly the essence because otherwise00:58:18
combinations will grow as if there will be a quarry00:58:20
stand still and you know it will happen again00:58:22
more than the moon, not because I’m doing something but00:58:24
the results are not00:58:26
but you also just know that the world benefits00:58:30
so that you have the syndrome00:58:33
impostor with conflict core not 10000:58:35
because for the boss it's very00:58:38
beneficial than in what terms it gives00:58:41
the task is more difficult for a person and00:58:44
understands perfectly well that while that person00:58:47
didn’t produce the coolest results, he still did00:58:49
take it to heart and because he00:58:52
he can't do it perfectly, he doesn't even00:58:53
there will be a salary increase00:58:56
because if he doesn't Diana00:58:58
that means he is hopeless and that means lightning00:59:00
straighten up, no one can even earn money00:59:03
shouldn't be raised that way00:59:06
the boss pushes the workers on their own00:59:09
cockroaches and they are not from this trap00:59:12
are selected00:59:14
because of this there is even such a phrase00:59:17
you know and haven't heard the gray mouse at work00:59:19
as a rule, the most crowbar spoon and00:59:24
please note again he said that00:59:27
there is a form on how to behave as one should behave00:59:30
lead and there is content what exactly is on00:59:31
actually makes sense and00:59:34
as he wants, how fear works00:59:38
approximately perhaps you know when the baby elephant00:59:42
little one, they tie him by the leg00:59:45
chained to a tree he tries to escape but00:59:50
nothing works and at some point00:59:52
he starts00:59:55
understand that it is pointless and he00:59:58
internal restrictions are formed and01:00:01
then you can cut it with a string01:00:04
a cat that won't hold him at all01:00:06
a few but just not themselves01:00:07
makes attempts01:00:09
go somewhere so work on animals01:00:12
works exactly the same on people and01:00:16
example01:00:19
if anyone watched the children's fairy tale Morozko01:00:22
here is an example of a wall the main character01:00:26
she spent the whole night knitting socks for her01:00:30
stepsisters and when rose01:00:33
the sun [ __ ] was ready to crow she didn't01:00:36
managed to finish what she did, she left01:00:39
ask the sun not to rise01:00:42
so high because otherwise matches and and01:00:45
jumped, that is, she went on a huge01:00:48
this is the technical water of a fairy tale, perhaps in01:00:51
life is not possible just because01:00:56
it turns out to be easier than emotional01:00:58
confronts the boys present for01:01:00
in general for bad treatment by this01:01:02
business and exactly the same thing happens at work01:01:06
when I worked in these areas I was01:01:09
project manager and I know the moments01:01:11
when the developer comes and asks01:01:13
and how much you will do and he is afraid01:01:17
name a long time and say I’ll do it01:01:20
tomorrow I understand that sooner01:01:23
there's nothing that I understand is complicated01:01:25
tasks I imagine how you go01:01:28
was also a developer01:01:30
him to say about questions appearing but he01:01:33
he is afraid emotionally01:01:35
come into contact with something electrical01:01:37
the schemes there are weak child weak01:01:38
emotional sphere is weak therefore he01:01:41
sits up late at night trying to guess01:01:44
without being able to ask me I would01:01:47
answered he's afraid he's trying at his own risk01:01:50
and the risk of enormous feats of effort to do01:01:53
If you get too nervous in time, you will burn out and01:01:56
so on and this is the main reason01:01:58
burnout at work is not like people01:02:01
ineffective and what they are trying01:02:03
technical issues solve communications01:02:06
the conclusion is that no matter how you look at it01:02:11
these problems, getting out only in one01:02:14
the solution is to work in the kitchen with paints and01:02:16
emotions to have the opportunity and right01:02:18
calmly come look like this01:02:20
it worked out and01:02:23
All01:02:25
if you have such an opportunity01:02:28
emotionally nothing will shake inside01:02:31
then immediately plus one hundred and five hundred and to freedom01:02:34
their courage to experiment and quickly01:02:36
everything and so on01:02:38
ok and01:02:41
I would like to move on to 3 topics ways01:02:45
treatments and pumping methods01:02:47
if electric shock no comments01:02:51
someone is calling someone was chasing for sure01:02:54
Julia also did her homework until three in the morning01:02:57
because yes it is necessary and this phrase01:03:03
it’s necessary for a particularly long time, and what’s more01:03:04
such a question: who needs a person with01:03:08
you can talk to him but when it turns on01:03:11
the chip arises to the general universal need01:03:14
which she's scared and we don't take this out01:03:17
fear is just an example01:03:20
when we ourselves become a prisoner01:03:22
own maxomas of the representation matrix01:03:25
we need to go out into the real world01:03:27
communicate a specific moment01:03:28
which it depends I have this01:03:32
one moment that I remembered01:03:35
about01:03:36
hyper responsibility for results here01:03:39
this is all every time I spent01:03:41
online and01:03:43
intensive courses online01:03:46
Well, it's not that I'm nervous all the time01:03:48
I complain about the result, that’s all01:03:51
time, well, that is, the result should be01:03:54
approx but the bomb is accordingly01:03:56
number of people who will come quality01:03:59
content results that people will get01:04:02
on intensive and that I am so much for this01:04:06
the result struggled that after the last01:04:09
intensive I was probably legs for a week01:04:12
just in01:04:14
horizontally and the last intensive and01:04:17
I think so01:04:18
I will write it down for 5-10 minutes and for01:04:23
me and collect metrics that is for me01:04:25
this intensive was like I was playing a game01:04:30
created that is, not Yannis, I’m like this01:04:35
I don’t sell anything, I don’t invite people anywhere01:04:38
in general, in fact, I have nothing to do with it at all01:04:40
there is a reduced load on emotions01:04:45
on responsibility for the result, that is01:04:48
this is how a child collects let's say01:04:50
legato designer he won't cry01:04:53
if he doesn't succeed in the fortress he'll just01:04:56
this one will go on to something else altogether01:04:58
room to do other things here01:05:00
I had the same thing but the same01:05:03
it's amazing what happened that so much01:05:06
positive emotions and feedback from01:05:10
audience01:05:11
I have never received one yet although there was a project01:05:14
made without any01:05:16
with zero responsibility just like that01:05:19
say01:05:20
simple and hence just the idea that01:05:23
treat what you do as01:05:26
the game you play the game is simple and that's it01:05:29
games it’s natural that game over01:05:31
lost the level, started again, that's it01:05:34
as if there were no problems at all, like this01:05:37
the idea was born01:05:41
I confirm these thoughts and not only myself01:05:44
example but also by example I01:05:48
this year ago I watched an interview from01:05:50
group aria01:05:52
so on they told how they01:05:56
made a cult album hero asphalt and01:06:00
in a nutshell, yes this is that album01:06:04
maybe the only one made 20 of01:06:06
[ __ ] and sticks is when the first song is on01:06:10
to the service of the forces of evil where first before01:06:13
the finale of digging sings santa lucia they have them01:06:16
wanted to slow this song down at the end01:06:19
but they knew how there would be no discounts01:06:21
they pulled the plug on this club01:06:23
sockets and01:06:24
[music]01:06:26
last songs ballad about ancient Russian01:06:29
warrior I’m not mistaken there they needed01:06:31
the city of Navarone there was no cute anywhere01:06:33
a record of some terns, it's the same01:06:36
I'm definitely fast in slow motion01:06:37
they literally turned on like this01:06:39
studio business without a shadow without everything is simple01:06:41
took it and played01:06:42
but this is the feeling of courage01:06:46
a mixture of some amateurism and courage01:06:49
it usually produces more exhaust than01:06:53
this is a clearly methodical research01:06:55
to all the rules why because look01:06:59
when we think about doing the right thing01:07:01
wrong this is how the brain works01:07:03
this is on vortex and reminding him01:07:06
computer, that is, he has a clear immune system01:07:09
well, we need more emotions, we are all human and01:07:12
we live with our own emotional01:07:14
part and01:07:16
if in creativity these emotions do not01:07:18
enough we feel it yeah that's right01:07:20
but refined but when is it if01:07:23
shortcomings but they are made with the soul like you01:07:26
this turns out to be more important despite01:07:29
that formally the criterion is not01:07:30
matches we always need01:07:32
formal criteria we need resonance in01:07:35
that we are national people, that's why I01:07:38
very often resorted to the services of amateurs01:07:41
because they try harder in these01:07:45
we have a lot of creative moments01:07:47
there were some joint ideas01:07:50
at the junction because Dima is a chip in01:07:52
development you as a pioneer took place in01:07:53
period and when the chuck is very large01:07:55
specialist and mine can do this01:07:58
feels like 10 maybe not enough01:08:00
so it would be good for you to test which01:08:03
constantly evolving where you are always01:08:05
a bit of an amateur it always remains01:08:06
like jones said stay hungry01:08:08
reckless and this energy gives01:08:11
otherwise you’ll turn sour, so once again it’s important01:08:16
not the criterion that the brain gives us01:08:19
clear correct so on because01:08:20
this is compensation this mask was01:08:22
hiding behind it is important to give yourself away01:08:26
besides, I'll even say this01:08:31
we must now submit ourselves because01:08:34
that now is the era of people brands is now the era01:08:38
such white collar workers01:08:41
every person leaves here, he doesn’t sue01:08:44
super niche person from us specialist in01:08:46
its area and in the name of equal niche and so on01:08:48
further and now mandanda you and so on01:08:51
that's why they're all talking about the topic01:08:53
being a brand person is now a trend01:08:55
And01:08:56
It is important for us to be competitive01:08:59
to develop this, if only with a brand check01:09:01
it's in the pie to be able to present yourself as01:09:03
as a person and only then as a specialist01:09:06
people go at people, this again comes to that01:09:09
that it is important to shake up your limbic01:09:11
system to its national sphere Arina01:09:13
your inner child right now01:09:16
I wanted to tell you one more metaphor01:09:20
Perhaps you watched the movie Arren Man01:09:22
iron man didn't watch all the time but01:09:25
I saw a couple of moments from it when01:09:29
exactly what is your name vaginal very01:09:31
Robert Downey Jr played that is super01:09:33
his suit is iron thanks to01:09:35
what is it, it's iron man and that's it01:09:37
he asks who are you without yours01:09:39
suit01:09:41
and he is already a millionaire philanthropist01:09:45
playboy there is someone else superman batman and01:09:47
so on and so on, same thing, I recommend that01:09:50
metaphor apply them to yourself here are all ours01:09:53
competence is what we can01:09:55
all our habits are rules, principles and01:10:00
foundations and then everything we go through01:10:02
appearing in society our image is something else01:10:06
then it's all a costume01:10:08
he is also our mask01:10:12
but who would you be without this suit?01:10:16
without these competencies if you are not now01:10:18
show and01:10:20
you'll see literally inside yourself01:10:24
how do you feel without him01:10:26
suit and01:10:28
you can write01:10:32
Bye bye, I’ll say a few more words on this topic01:10:35
I'll tell you this topic: who I am and meeting with01:10:38
by itself it arises during01:10:40
human contact for example01:10:42
the following situations, for example, go to01:10:45
elevator and if there is one you will meet there01:10:48
someone familiar then we have clear01:10:51
rules how to interact hello01:10:53
trust how are you doing everything is good it's a ritual it's01:10:56
a ritual that allows us to truly01:10:58
it's impossible to meet01:11:00
because we talked through the whole ritual01:11:02
it will end further, we will pour it out until01:11:03
we'll go our separate ways too, but what if01:11:07
stranger01:11:08
look when there are no rituals01:11:10
in advance when there is one person contact01:11:13
and a person like a video of himself as a rule01:11:16
we start moving into the phone no one here01:11:19
so they don’t look at each other01:11:20
he looks like Baku is an interesting man01:11:23
it's scary scary to present yours01:11:25
true emotional impulses to01:11:28
man so we close this one01:11:31
the case when a mask is more necessary and this suit01:11:34
because it’s scary although no one has01:11:38
these complexes he can01:11:40
calmly look take a look01:11:41
smile say hi and so on and01:11:44
this is considered good communication01:11:46
only this is not a communication feature, this is01:11:48
the trick of inner freedom and feeling01:11:50
safety because you are not afraid01:11:52
what the other person will think about you01:11:54
you can calmly smile at him when01:11:57
inner child free to be I could01:11:58
free to lead this is the first situation01:12:02
for example, when you communicate there is no need01:12:04
met, went on a date with them01:12:06
I meet and the conversation doesn’t go well01:12:09
there was a pause01:12:11
there is also no template to do everything and so01:12:15
someone starts to avoid the situation01:12:18
create something to talk about on the street by yourself01:12:20
shut up and so on all loss01:12:23
someone can just comfortably01:12:26
exist in this state01:12:28
uncertainty because01:12:30
just because he feels so good they don’t01:12:33
the need to hide in negotiations01:12:36
this is very good to use when you01:12:39
talk about surrender man don't answer01:12:40
right he looks like that01:12:43
sometimes many people can't stand it01:12:46
psychological pressure is01:12:47
called and begins to bend over with you01:12:50
what does it have to do with it, he didn’t even say anything01:12:52
look like you're body and01:12:55
and this is all a consequence of the fact that internal01:12:57
child mimics what's going on01:12:59
inside he's weak he's not enough01:13:02
valuable enough imbued with love he is not01:13:05
confident and that's why we pass01:13:08
actually their positions01:13:11
in short metaphor found work today well01:13:14
and in general this will teach you how to grow up01:13:17
child to walk with his own feet01:13:21
there is so much emotional so that01:13:24
you can't notice from anyone else01:13:26
say that01:13:29
he seemed to have grown into his twenties01:13:33
thirty forty who has how much but never01:13:36
didn't go and that's why she's not only on01:13:38
he rides in a stroller, that's important to us today01:13:40
will be the first to become started on the fire01:13:42
and then on your feet and then start walking and01:13:44
run and so on01:13:47
before I tell you there are some01:13:50
comments01:13:51
Well01:13:52
defenseless child immediately like not needed01:13:56
along the way01:13:59
a man just sat down on our taba01:14:02
the rest may have written to themselves there01:14:05
ok ok that's how it goes with everything01:14:09
work work we are with exactly that internal01:14:11
child01:14:13
which you have now, if it hasn’t disappeared, then01:14:16
it’s not entirely clear why01:14:18
make an effort but here it opens01:14:22
your own please here he is now01:14:25
We always work in three directions01:14:28
first this trauma therapy01:14:31
this is a direct study of them01:14:34
scenario in past situations so on01:14:36
this is what psychologists do01:14:39
by the way tape you are not enough because01:14:41
Since we were there, I was at the bottom of the static01:14:43
conferences and I was very surprised that01:14:46
there are psychologists there01:14:47
for years who has been performing venerably and so01:14:50
then they are afraid to perform, you can see from them01:14:55
like that and then I thought the pancake was drying and01:14:59
psychologist you should be working on me01:15:01
[ __ ] you and must be decided by yourself01:15:04
what the hell are you working with?01:15:07
turns out to help them then01:15:09
actually01:15:10
the reason is that when the injury01:15:12
worked out but new experience what it's like01:15:16
mature and will appreciate it themselves01:15:20
they have no skills and they continue01:15:23
worry because they won't accept how01:15:26
behave they do not understand the rules of the game01:15:29
further01:15:31
second point which is the second direction01:15:34
then we work it’s just us energy01:15:37
inside game setting new belief01:15:39
build neural connections here01:15:41
today we'll do it01:15:43
this is what modern business practices01:15:47
psychologists on the business of youth it was and01:15:49
so on and it works they perform01:15:53
they pump up the audience they demonstrate01:15:56
confidence but if they work through01:15:58
past traumas are also noticeable because01:16:01
what are they for just like that01:16:02
they have to download extra01:16:04
mobilize therefore clearly understood nexia01:16:07
the rhythm there is very strong in their heart01:16:09
test for 150 even though they don’t run01:16:11
I’m just performing, I’m telling you that they are01:16:13
confidently they give a not very clear picture01:16:16
and so on, but it also gives very hard and01:16:18
then you need to rest and01:16:20
the third direction is new habits and01:16:24
formation of a new context but lifestyle01:16:26
so that life itself can train you01:16:28
so you don't have to every time01:16:30
run to the therapists of any ace like these01:16:33
201:16:36
year01:16:38
this is of course more01:16:41
a psychologist in this case, contact me if01:16:44
accounting is very complicated, it’s better than private01:16:47
ok01:16:48
Here are the energies we are simply unequal connections01:16:50
Now that’s exactly what we’ll do, but here’s01:16:52
I'll give out the house for just an exercise01:16:54
new habits are addictive01:16:56
implementation01:16:59
actually how can you train these01:17:03
new neural connections01:17:04
the easiest option is to dial a lot01:17:07
experience I would say in unity01:17:10
but for this, in theory, you need to further01:17:13
you can find a person who01:17:17
knows how to do it, ask his students01:17:21
fix it with him, work it out and01:17:24
do this several times so far01:17:25
until you have and01:17:26
gaining a foothold new god is long but good01:17:31
again the fact is that you know the torrent to ours01:17:33
the brain does not always distinguish01:17:36
Here01:17:37
realistically, this is why these things can be done01:17:41
in the mind but not just visualizations whatever01:17:44
I'm not very brave and so on, that's in general01:17:47
then pop I'll now show you another way and01:17:51
pine trees and now I just wanted to suggest01:17:53
to your attention the process process and01:17:56
such and such an event where you dive01:17:58
inside yourself and where it will be directly01:18:00
census of these here01:18:01
situations01:18:03
local moment needs to be made small01:18:05
pause for people to prepare01:18:11
the service just sat down comfortably and so that they wouldn’t01:18:15
distracted01:18:19
OK then01:18:22
let's start memory made01:18:27
it will be a process where you borrow01:18:32
someone else's experience without leaving home01:18:37
the first thing that is important to do is to01:18:39
always do in such processes01:18:41
typhus correct condition01:18:44
I benefit him by default we live in01:18:47
ours constantly think about this or this01:18:49
colored box and we need to enter01:18:51
the state is greater than such physicality01:18:52
emotionally, that's why you take it01:18:56
place your feet on the floor for support01:18:58
this is important in such a deep way01:18:59
psychological level and just01:19:03
breathe01:19:05
what a breath01:19:09
as deep as possible but not so much01:19:11
paint over the limits comfortable and deep01:19:14
exhale as if at the end of the working day01:19:17
just like that, with an exhalation, everyone was released and01:19:22
the weekend is ahead and then vacation and beyond01:19:27
there is everything you want and complete freedom and01:19:30
breathe like this01:19:34
so completely relaxed01:19:36
relaxation letting go of everyone and after and everyone01:19:39
states and can cover up a little01:19:42
eyes or defocus your gaze to01:19:45
eyes did not cling to any objects01:19:48
ideally would be in a state of half-asleep01:19:51
so that the controlling mind does not come out but01:19:54
you can overcome without it01:19:57
and take any situation and where are you01:20:01
would like to be more confident01:20:05
this could be a client situation01:20:09
which one would like to call taller01:20:11
check this could be a situation where the client01:20:14
I don’t know, on the contrary, it somehow requires some01:20:16
there are finishing touches and so on, but you don’t want to01:20:19
do count the milk or where are you01:20:22
Are you afraid that someone will be offended at you or something?01:20:25
will happen at all in this situation01:20:27
there must be a second party01:20:30
client01:20:31
even if you mean the situation01:20:35
writing posts then you are afraid of something01:20:38
For example01:20:41
negative assessments then these people too01:20:44
appear in the form of some kind of figure01:20:47
may be a direct image of specific people01:20:49
or maybe something is not very distinguishable01:20:51
but nevertheless, also like a figure for a prize01:20:58
where is the problem and is01:21:02
another figure but don't come to me yet01:21:06
just park it, support it and that's it01:21:09
let's think01:21:10
if we have problems in this situation01:21:14
Well, you don’t know what to do right01:21:16
not even sure enough01:21:19
let's look for which character01:21:22
what kind of person01:21:24
these capabilities are there01:21:28
it could be some real person01:21:31
which you came across in life01:21:33
it could even be some kind of movie01:21:37
character01:21:38
the main thing is that you do it long enough01:21:42
watched for a few minutes from 5 minutes01:21:45
on him, well, when you knew him01:21:48
to feel what it's like01:21:52
be that kind of person01:21:54
you know what the first impression is of01:21:57
there are literally a couple of people01:22:00
seconds and in five to seven minutes already01:22:02
appears within us specifically01:22:04
image of this man01:22:05
so if you are for your life and01:22:08
contacted such a person as01:22:11
It’s strange that you already have that experience inside you01:22:14
which he has read but by you he01:22:17
not yet assigned you are very important01:22:21
moment of allegiance we need to say this01:22:23
we have so-called mirror01:22:25
neurons and not only in us and in animals01:22:28
including thanks to which but very01:22:29
we clearly know how to unite, that is01:22:31
to model another person, that is01:22:34
look, I did it exactly like that, it works01:22:36
at some deep cellular level01:22:38
when when we look after someone01:22:40
literally someone has it inside themselves01:22:42
rehearsing that's when we watched for a long time01:22:45
then how a professional works several times01:22:47
We can take a few minutes to create this impression ourselves.01:22:50
working differently is cooler working I01:22:53
when I went to one of the startups01:22:55
lucky to work with him very much01:22:57
he sat like a cool professional and I understood01:23:00
it doesn’t even go that he’s walking, that’s exactly it01:23:02
state how he does how01:23:04
calculated01:23:07
spinal not like that01:23:08
with reflexes I worked in his field01:23:12
much easier although here it is for me01:23:14
not very intellectual01:23:16
famous and figurine mechanism on it even01:23:20
forget to teach Eastern countries information and01:23:23
then don’t take it for the master01:23:25
just like a movement from exactly like that01:23:27
this flow of energy is the mechanisms now01:23:29
let's use it, remember that person01:23:33
or several whom you would like to take for01:23:36
model from whom to model it and01:23:40
put it there in its place in that01:23:45
situation instead of yourself01:23:48
and then let yourself look01:23:51
it's like a movie01:23:54
it's just a situation, this man is there01:23:57
cool in your place is the wrong client and01:24:00
just look and let him start there01:24:04
run01:24:06
And01:24:11
its base01:24:13
some ideas come from the position of another01:24:16
people usually come to others01:24:18
in fact, if they don’t come about you01:24:20
take another character just go through01:24:23
there are several of them and01:24:26
find that his behavior don't see it01:24:29
his behavior would kill you01:24:32
for example when that person can01:24:35
calmly explain your position to the client01:24:37
so the client agrees and even for01:24:40
respects01:24:43
this was the first stage01:24:45
find such actions like this01:24:49
that this whole situation is being resolved01:24:50
was the first step 2 step01:24:53
now slowly and carefully01:24:55
[music]01:24:58
leave this dramatic situation01:25:00
movie and kind of go there third and01:25:05
approach that person to your model01:25:08
for whom everything worked out there and01:25:13
literally like an avatar go inside01:25:18
And01:25:19
after that01:25:23
turn back time so there again01:25:26
this situation was playing out when he01:25:28
the man you model solves the issue in his own way01:25:30
benefit and everything is good there is great01:25:34
And01:25:35
you literally look inside01:25:40
through his eyes01:25:41
feel it with sensation feel it01:25:45
feelings01:25:46
perceive it with perception and in this01:25:50
moment you will have access to01:25:52
I count the lines and01:25:55
look, I just dreamed about nothing01:25:57
keep it simple01:25:59
join in with his feeling and watch01:26:01
thanks to which he succeeds in this01:26:04
you failed01:26:07
he has a feeling of confidence where she is01:26:10
body01:26:11
if you feel his feelings then in01:26:13
this moment this confidence now01:26:14
do you feel01:26:16
I know some kind of perseverance, okay01:26:19
what they look like and how you feel about perseverance01:26:21
he has a feeling of superiority01:26:24
he's not calm yet01:26:27
maybe he's super supportive he's something01:26:30
knows about himself in general everything from this01:26:33
you will be able to find new figures that are unusual for you01:26:35
read this one and find out01:26:38
And01:26:39
now here's an interesting moment01:26:42
this is what he has new now this01:26:47
feel it yourself01:26:50
this is the very new experience that you01:26:53
you get it instantly just by logging in01:26:56
figures just identify with her01:27:00
And let this situation play out01:27:03
several times on film01:27:05
scroll several times 3 and 4 and01:27:10
just be a witness01:27:13
are in that model and01:27:16
feel it all01:27:21
feels those qualities thanks to which01:27:23
there the model can do everything and01:27:25
little by little01:27:27
try to do the same in01:27:30
being inside it, that is, a little01:27:32
to appropriate these sensations to make them01:27:35
their01:27:37
take them all these resources and01:27:41
repeat the inner one with him01:27:45
and you'll do it like this several times01:27:48
until you no longer need it01:27:49
this model, we ourselves would be without it in this01:27:52
you will do exactly that in specific situations01:27:54
with these feelings01:28:00
it's possible here01:28:02
achieve experiment01:28:04
Well, who has good contact with you?01:28:09
dangle the letter n there it turns out from the first01:28:10
times01:28:11
corner o not very good laptop with 501:28:16
but in general it works out for everyone because01:28:19
that the mechanism is the period with the achievement01:28:21
basic we used it while we were there01:28:24
children, otherwise we would not have mastered the language01:28:27
walking is not a habit at all01:28:30
habits that we always take when01:28:32
we are introducing a new team01:28:38
Fine01:28:41
next step now you get out01:28:45
person who is a model and back01:28:48
become the 3rd figure and01:28:51
pay attention to that client yes01:28:55
that's who the other party was with who it was01:28:56
problems and01:28:58
now your task is exactly the same01:29:02
stop time and go into that01:29:04
clients and01:29:07
look at how he looks at this01:29:11
situation01:29:13
feel him with your feelings see him01:29:16
eyes01:29:20
see his thoughts perceive him01:29:23
perception01:29:25
and here it is very important to pay attention01:29:27
that's what to guess about01:29:31
doesn’t know his motives and intentions, but he01:29:34
obviously evil hates us01:29:38
they don’t like us there so on and so01:29:41
you literally feel it from his figure01:29:46
very often we understand it01:29:49
real motives01:29:52
because even the check didn't tell us very much01:29:56
we often read its state and go01:29:59
inside become him we can even find out01:30:01
something we never say01:30:05
And01:30:07
look what qualities he has01:30:10
client who gives him the power of right01:30:15
power and so on, join us01:30:18
to them and01:30:19
pick it up and01:30:30
[music]01:30:32
even if you don't love that person and01:30:36
I don’t want to hate him at all, it’s not my thing01:30:37
case please note that the quality is01:30:40
and a person perceives different things01:30:43
it's like taking it apart for parts01:30:46
that is, the confidence is that both transactions are not01:30:49
it is important where the benefits are with the military01:30:54
after that you want and01:30:58
you can play the situation again01:31:03
already the same original problem01:31:06
yourself with the resource you took01:31:09
into characters and01:31:16
All01:31:20
that is, you just get another one01:31:25
experience experience of successful people you have01:31:29
there is also even an average pass on you01:31:32
learned this but you communicated than01:31:35
rabbits you have calculated and you can01:31:38
use to appropriate01:31:40
give it to yourself and grow up very quickly01:31:44
I recommend doing this technique to everyone01:31:47
when you are either fighting for something or01:31:50
scary01:31:51
very always when there is some kind of figure01:31:53
With01:31:55
which01:31:56
it’s a little unclear I’m human01:31:59
figure and even some kind of image of fear01:32:02
not humanly defined anyway01:32:04
doesn't matter01:32:06
if they01:32:09
now I'll ask01:32:12
write01:32:14
impressions or questions01:32:19
I'll tell you a little about how it is01:32:22
It works and objects for example01:32:26
So I already said that that experience01:32:29
which we at home we have is far from01:32:33
the only one in the swastika knowledge and01:32:36
much more experience than we are used to01:32:39
you can identify with yourself very much01:32:42
It's good to check with the following example01:32:43
that's when you and someone have sports in your head with01:32:46
another perception and then on the coffin01:32:49
such a situation when it resembles an argument01:32:52
you could have a window and then go for a week and think01:32:54
How can I answer a week with this brain?01:32:57
your change your mind flood found brilliant01:33:00
argument01:33:01
answer him and he instantly distinguishes01:33:04
some other argument in this thread01:33:06
a week and then one, how does this happen?01:33:09
what is it that's the same I should have01:33:14
just why am I thinking from my position01:33:17
the week is full, they'll kick you out instantly01:33:20
it turns out our brain works as if for01:33:23
for two of us, but this figure is more01:33:25
successfully, this is how we have it01:33:29
inside in our psyche apart from us01:33:31
there are many other parent figures to us01:33:33
friends teachers and so on and for each01:33:37
the figure actually hides a lot01:33:39
interesting experience and condition and they have01:33:41
we are there but there are no trailers for us and that’s when01:33:44
we period are divided into that figure we01:33:47
we get access to that experience and so01:33:49
was with us yes but but was kind of inactive01:33:51
and he shows right and this is very01:33:54
clearly and technology in order to01:33:57
collect the experience that you have but01:33:59
you don’t use it, but I told you about it01:34:01
endlessly because we are so many things01:34:03
four times this life which is not even here01:34:05
we know that I'm not telling you I did it01:34:09
dozens of times dots cool effect I01:34:12
did this with those who irritate with01:34:14
those whom I don’t understand whenever and every time01:34:18
understood what was happening there and this experience01:34:21
to myself01:34:24
sometimes it was a holiday01:34:27
simple to do regularly and01:34:31
if there are any comments or01:34:33
questions are the child01:34:37
nothing worked out, I don’t know how01:34:43
Olga does and sometimes purely intuitively01:34:46
but it’s a little wrong, that is, she01:34:49
as if he thinks what the other person would do01:34:52
in this situation I perceive it01:34:54
rather, because everyone has such a brain like01:34:58
to do this man so not01:34:59
it works it won't work you need it01:35:01
exactly01:35:03
semi-trance state that the people01:35:06
feel this here01:35:09
Stasya says it’s really cool01:35:11
exercises need more time that is01:35:15
meaning it takes more time01:35:18
need to practice01:35:22
Osinsky felt better, by the way01:35:25
worked out this situation very cool01:35:27
despite the fact that now I’m sitting thinking like this01:35:30
I didn't do that I can01:35:32
tell briefly01:35:34
about the project in general and the client more precisely01:35:37
manager from the client side there is a girl01:35:39
she called and really liked to talk01:35:42
she has it if she calls at this hour01:35:44
for two, well, it’s just that I have time01:35:47
no talking then I'm like yes yes01:35:51
yes of course I and consultations there in general01:35:54
but in a royal manner, in general, he advised everyone01:35:56
at the same time I sit like this inside myself01:35:58
I think why am I doing this for free?01:36:02
I'm wasting my time, I mean I'm01:36:05
I don't understand why I'm doing this now01:36:09
I understand now I have worked through the situation01:36:11
just to complete the character01:36:14
Natalya said there, sorry please01:36:17
but I don't get paid for this consultation01:36:20
I was paid for the work I owe01:36:23
complete it I must complete it on time01:36:26
just don't distract me that's all01:36:30
I was paid for the work they did for01:36:32
consultation is a completely different job01:36:34
was that is and now I understand that I would01:36:37
now there is no feeling at all01:36:39
there I'm good bad you're just that01:36:40
I would have said more like this01:36:43
moments I think are really great for everyone01:36:45
a moment that is no longer01:36:48
probably comfortable and that’s what you do01:36:51
no longer of his own free will, as if a slave01:36:54
it's someone else's will to just do this01:36:58
take anyone there01:37:00
bill gates there or but bill gates became01:37:03
If I did this, I wouldn’t do it to him01:37:06
It's probably impossible to get through01:37:09
that is, it's just a thrill, so I'm not really01:37:14
I understood how to enter this trance state01:37:17
this is how this is the state of the ladder suite01:37:21
it's when you just breathe and01:37:26
letting go of your thoughts and immersing yourself01:37:30
with closed eyes is a state when01:37:32
the images of the pictures begin to pass01:37:35
like a dream, yes, but not quite yet01:37:38
I didn't call myself01:37:39
that is, with us it’s as if consciously01:37:42
part when we we think think we know01:37:44
what do we want to say in a second01:37:45
alaska spontaneous things creeping out01:37:48
who would not call for example01:37:51
on if it passed01:37:53
as if a01:37:57
whatever flower it would be in everyone would come01:38:02
some of your own01:38:03
who started thinking so wait what01:38:05
flower you need to intercept the intellect01:38:09
spontaneous process subconsciously then01:38:12
I recommend staying more asleep01:38:16
this is the very borderline state of sleep01:38:19
when there are no cuts yet there are already some01:38:21
sounds come voices these pictures here01:38:24
this is the coolest state when01:38:27
there is a balance between the conscious and unconscious01:38:29
And01:38:30
in that . then it is important to train01:38:32
because when there is balance consciously01:38:34
the unconscious is generally very cool01:38:36
you can think like this, you sit down maybe01:38:38
what state are you entering and01:38:42
we pose the question consciously and then01:38:44
watch how it unfolds inside01:38:46
The answer is definitely to press this picture01:38:49
think and so on and you don’t strain yourself01:38:51
brains just just follow the associations01:38:55
this is how coaches work and immerse a person01:38:58
who is good at it01:39:00
any of the people can work this way too01:39:04
I've been on my own for a long time01:39:06
I try to think this way because01:39:08
otherwise you can just break your head a lot01:39:11
questions and this is strange as it may seem for you01:39:14
it turns out 100 percent in household01:39:17
situations when we were sitting thinking stupidly01:39:20
We didn’t know the solution to some problems01:39:22
lost their minds and went to smoke he01:39:25
says yes or take a walk will send a trick01:39:28
scattered like you, why are there still birds in the forest?01:39:30
something is not very good, just these ideas are in01:39:33
this moment you will feel your condition01:39:35
what do you find that it comes by yourself01:39:38
this is semi-trance01:39:40
state when there is defocus and01:39:42
there inside she continues01:39:47
two moments before or when you leave01:39:49
take a walk and relax on this day on this01:39:51
catch the moment or when you fall asleep01:39:54
at all other times, as a rule,01:39:56
us inside the dialogue try everything01:39:58
control and so on but I still01:40:01
I do01:40:02
creative people are counting on this01:40:05
skelita that this is something spontaneous01:40:07
so here you have a feeling of spontaneous01:40:09
actions on familiar sos but this one01:40:11
spontaneity and release it too as01:40:13
once a manifestation of our subconscious traumas01:40:16
when burning01:40:17
I hope I answered, well, you can get hooked01:40:21
I can’t write this down either01:40:24
state to enter the brain does not resist01:40:26
wants to do nothing just white noise01:40:28
about this01:40:30
I remembered one thought: I was a client01:40:33
permanent and collaborated with him01:40:35
like 5 years old and he every time I01:40:37
I called about some issue, I was at the cinema01:40:40
I was sitting on the bio gold treadmill01:40:44
something else and he didn’t understand it01:40:47
he's like, I don't understand, he says, and when did you01:40:49
you work on a yacht and I won’t call you all01:40:51
time01:40:52
I was busy with something else, I explained to him01:40:55
I say look my job is not01:40:58
in a dream sitting in front of the computer my work01:41:02
the other thing is I make it all up01:41:06
not being at the computer, but at the computer I’m already01:41:10
I sit down and implement what I came up with01:41:12
it was difficult for him there was a trader there but it made sense01:41:15
that's for designers up to01:41:18
it's impossible to come up with something or01:41:21
generate some idea or01:41:22
concept01:41:23
retreating to the monitor and trying something01:41:26
come up with this one doesn't work like that01:41:28
pouring out there running conditionally oh my god01:41:32
there are like giving in yes it is01:41:34
it’s just that such images creep in, it’s all simple01:41:36
running favorite music and that's it and then you01:41:39
on this charge01:41:42
you move to an office and you literally have01:41:44
2-3 hours of this fuel01:41:47
maximum productivity from morning to01:41:50
this evening from 9 to 6 I will be all for01:41:53
computer and do design but this01:41:56
complete nonsense01:41:59
I confirm as an IT specialist only01:42:03
developer01:42:04
the main ideas come in the evening and01:42:08
moment of freeness when you go home and01:42:12
dice buried his forehead on the trolleybus home01:42:14
means glass you're looking at what's happening at home01:42:17
the trees flash then he comes01:42:20
by morning they are formalized into specific01:42:23
decisions and sit down and walk around01:42:25
just writes out what already exists01:42:27
speak according to this image01:42:29
image everything is implemented everything is empty there01:42:32
sorry don't give a damn go for it like01:42:34
once you go out to smoke and take a walk and so on01:42:37
form new ideas like this01:42:39
works this is how this creates an image of an idea01:42:43
before its implementation, drawings are already in hand01:42:46
there's the entrance01:42:47
hasn’t worked yet so well, still knots01:42:52
I’m bad with images, well, I’m also about images01:42:56
I think that all this also needs to be practiced01:42:58
oh it's easy to earn money from me01:43:01
yoga and qigong, well, that's all01:43:04
so there are no problems at all if anyone has01:43:07
about bad with images practice go01:43:10
sign up for yoga without bothering01:43:13
qigong practice maybe this01:43:16
what is there still far away, just download it01:43:19
there is a wonderful meditation app01:43:21
recommended but everyone is fantastic01:43:23
meditation literally takes 10 minutes01:43:25
this is something incredible, well, in general01:43:28
need to practice01:43:31
now just information to think about01:43:35
everything logically doesn’t work out for us one of01:43:38
the only salvation is to use your01:43:40
spontaneous and bodily thinking about what01:43:42
we're talking now01:43:44
who wants01:43:47
experiment with directly entering01:43:49
this is the condition I recommend the technique01:43:52
self-hypnosis is not called, although actually01:43:54
Case of the day of self-hypnosis in these Ericsson01:43:56
cases than simple is when chosen01:44:00
one point and look at it01:44:03
on the wall there for half a minute01:44:06
then the dirt somewhere is another point and01:44:08
watching two at the same time01:44:11
dots look painting fails01:44:14
glance but in the end all attention01:44:16
chained to two points and it is necessary01:44:19
generally attract all attention as if01:44:20
wouldn't know there to look at the optical01:44:22
sight and followed someone that is01:44:24
only at 1. and nothing else01:44:26
exists then in exactly the same way 3 . But01:44:29
live together01:44:30
after vision is occupied by three01:44:34
start selecting some noise with dots01:44:37
for example, in a big way your breath01:44:39
seam room fonzo ru01:44:42
it turns out six frogs at the same time01:44:45
attention of contemptuous and 3 auditory and01:44:47
after that everything at the same time and after01:44:51
this you also choose 301:44:53
tactile fox for example when sitting01:44:55
how warm and pay attention to the tip01:44:58
nose and it will be an overload of attention and she01:45:01
will go from all thoughts to this one01:45:04
hold ready clearly clean01:45:06
perception and then bring it all into01:45:10
one feeling inside yourself and this01:45:12
there will be complete concentration and silence01:45:15
lack of internal dialogue and so01:45:17
if there are 200 each then the question starts01:45:20
these states unfold01:45:24
these technologies are very good01:45:27
examined, took out cool01:45:30
classic new year europe and01:45:32
there are several exercises the easiest one01:45:35
of which it is a matter of juggling when01:45:37
you can juggle three balls with two01:45:40
It’s hard to try with two hands01:45:42
apples-to-apples methods01:45:45
won't even fall all the time don't judge01:45:47
I'm full of this feeling01:45:50
it already provides inclusion and uptime01:45:53
state of complete coordination and if01:45:55
after juggling a little01:45:58
just remember the problem and just01:46:00
don't think anything just stand there01:46:04
the states themselves will begin to be born01:46:06
decision01:46:08
this is how entering trance works through either01:46:12
someone on a bike somewhere else01:46:16
no hammock for example yes here in the room01:46:19
straight up hanging for thought01:46:20
swing a lot of wild ones will cover in general01:46:23
fantasy and01:46:27
when you do01:46:30
exercise this technique one by one01:46:34
experience and condition of other characters01:46:36
light up the figures we carry inside and there01:46:39
there are very cool effects like me01:46:42
I wanted to share one case there was one01:46:45
than who has a million on Instagram01:46:47
subscribers but let’s see how he spent it01:46:50
I was shaking a little because I was over discharged01:46:53
you want to turn on the music01:46:56
I think 100 books for diet recommendations but01:46:59
something somehow01:47:00
it’s not serious, but he’s so calm about01:47:03
you say this so it’s interesting here I am01:47:05
I watched a few of his videos and thought that01:47:08
I examined this image every minute in 3001:47:11
yes, I don’t know him, I needed it01:47:13
himself this image his condition all that01:47:16
I catch it and then I go in and see this figure01:47:19
its such a state that first of all01:47:23
It's comfortable inside and it feels01:47:26
valuable it was a feeling of value01:47:29
which I myself have come up with01:47:31
I couldn't stand the height of my finger01:47:33
felt such value that he01:47:36
the fact that you are simply standing as a person already01:47:38
a reason for him to thank you01:47:42
just this presence here01:47:46
that's how he feels it, that's why he can01:47:48
allow yourself to say any [ __ ]01:47:51
because he works where information about01:47:54
condition and he sees the results of the work01:47:58
your condition your condition01:48:01
nothing to do there, nothing to do there, nothing to do there, it was exactly in01:48:04
energy but he had it01:48:06
inner confidence that no matter01:48:09
no matter what the problem was, he didn't care01:48:11
will reveal, unfold and solve this too01:48:15
allowed me to be very smooth and calm01:48:18
this is exactly what I broadcast01:48:19
I guess that's what people are after01:48:21
looks with the feeling of the field more than that01:48:24
what he01:48:26
like this and this is what it was for me01:48:29
discovery I really expanded my world01:48:31
attention that's why it was always not for you01:48:35
just like that I highly recommend it01:48:39
do this exercise and01:48:43
your internal states will change but01:48:46
you can probably take more than one01:48:49
you will notice something new but you can notice01:48:51
that your attitude towards the situation has changed01:48:54
sometimes it sounds something like this01:48:57
there was no problem yesterday I was actually killed01:49:00
it happened but they decided and it was forgotten and01:49:04
has become irrelevant01:49:06
so if it is very that I was not01:49:08
the problem you know to win or you01:49:11
you did it, you decided everything was cool01:49:14
And01:49:17
I01:49:19
I look forward to you doing this01:49:21
practice and all these bonuses that we01:49:24
said those who you yourself will notice them01:49:26
get it but I want to say a little01:49:29
how your attitude might change when01:49:32
working with01:49:34
client01:49:36
first of all what will change01:49:39
you will feel cramped within your own01:49:43
here are the excuses for your own suit01:49:46
want to go out to people about this unit01:49:49
will feel like great curiosity01:49:51
bring something out ask take an interest01:49:54
try and there will be no fear sooner01:49:57
interest or curiosity01:49:59
you will stop being interesting01:50:02
worry and worry about the future01:50:05
because instead it will be like this again01:50:07
thought before how it will be when in general01:50:11
fidelity let's see as if the roofs01:50:15
thoughts will appear more often but I am me01:50:18
what do you want01:50:22
And01:50:25
Relationships with clients will change if01:50:28
Now the client can be perceived as01:50:30
very stern guy to fly to01:50:33
will appreciate us and to whom we owe01:50:35
curry favor, then it will be completely different01:50:37
the feeling that you are the main thing is he comes01:50:42
to bow they film it's for sale01:50:44
slavery and if you are really like this01:50:47
feel you see the client when01:50:49
problems with the agreement between the ministers01:50:52
it won’t be because he’s wearing something like this01:50:56
I don’t understand what you did there01:50:58
attempts to abandon the feeling of guilt will be01:51:02
come quite competitively in those01:51:04
wait, don't let me be normal01:51:07
I’m telling you now we’re fine01:51:08
let's talk let's discuss I'll explain to you01:51:11
where were you wrong or something01:51:13
you and I will understand, but all this is not necessary01:51:16
this is unworthy kids like us01:51:18
something like this comes to this comes01:51:21
itself a competitor I now call it01:51:23
in words maybe you catch some01:51:24
Feel01:51:26
but it must come from within very01:51:31
if practice nevertheless goes very well01:51:34
it’s hard or there’s something traumatic01:51:37
that in front of me it swells behind fear then01:51:40
wolf for consultation and therapeutic01:51:42
this is specific to your situation01:51:46
about prevention on this too01:51:50
the last point is today01:51:51
performances planned I can that01:51:56
say, let's say you practice01:51:59
this exercise was worked out there by some01:52:01
injury and now you need to change it01:52:03
what should be done01:52:06
remember one thing our confidence in01:52:11
in the most general sense depends on 301:52:15
component is our confidence in our01:52:18
competencies in product knowledge and she01:52:21
determined by what questions you answer01:52:23
you can answer01:52:25
that is, if for example you asked01:52:27
how to take the exam and answer all the questions01:52:29
replied repulsed here this means01:52:31
competent in product knowledge01:52:34
further 2 it is within your power and01:52:39
possibilities, that is, for example, there are01:52:42
he's a smart man, he knows everything but01:52:44
does not take any risk at all01:52:46
responsibility, well, yes, he would be glad01:52:49
suggests on the second roles on the first01:52:51
he will not take on one project as a leader01:52:52
for this you need some more me there01:52:54
inside the uncertainty of the eggs there are the rest01:52:56
so on, if you are in their01:52:58
possibilities which is even called01:53:00
If I'm not a bomb in this matter, I don't care01:53:03
I’ll find out how to do it or I need to tighten it up01:53:05
mozilla specialists because I01:53:07
entrusted some kind of force with responsibility01:53:09
this confidence is the second component and01:53:12
the third component is confidence that you01:53:16
has the right to claim respect and01:53:19
good relationship regardless01:53:22
if you have all these three components01:53:24
there is bingo then you are unshakable01:53:28
Usually there is only 1 product and skill01:53:32
but the rest are not there, so this is just it01:53:35
impostor syndrome learn something else01:53:37
to01:53:39
but if you know01:53:42
that they wouldn’t ask even if they didn’t01:53:45
you know you'll find the answer or with a ball01:53:47
agree then fear of appearing01:53:50
impostor at 1000 for01:53:52
how to boost these three types of confidence01:53:57
everything is very simple the first thing to do is01:54:01
pump up loyalty in knowledge then01:54:04
I'm just making lists that you already have01:54:07
can you do this list of your competencies we01:54:09
usually we forget we devalue but01:54:12
actually, if you leave it you can01:54:15
see how much it really is01:54:17
you know and then invite your friends and01:54:20
say listen, but this crumpled tuna01:54:23
I'm using this method if I die and it will be revealed01:54:27
very interesting thing01:54:30
the thing is that when we do something01:54:34
we study we pass 400 don't know01:54:36
unconsciously incompetence consciously01:54:39
conscious incompetence01:54:41
competence and unconsciously shorter01:54:44
the first will be when we relatively speaking about01:54:46
and we don’t know about it, this type of logic01:54:52
shoulder to the moon like children they don't even01:54:55
understand it it's worth how much it is01:54:56
It’s difficult for her and me, but we start there01:54:58
the prospect is very happy that everything is easy01:55:01
1 2 3 just think about collecting cars for 501:55:04
I read test number two for decades01:55:06
Here01:55:08
we start working and it turns out that01:55:10
we will see the whole volume of problems all01:55:13
complexity and then delve into the unconscious01:55:15
created what topics that we understand that01:55:17
we're nobody, that's how much there is, but if01:55:22
we don't give up at this moment and start and01:55:24
to understand all this, then we are in this01:55:26
moment at what time01:55:27
becomes consciously competent then01:55:30
Yes, we understand how much we are against01:55:32
how masterful we are, how cool we are01:55:33
because we just went all the way01:55:36
this one is 100 kilometers there and be it there01:55:38
this marathon we did this and this is us01:55:41
got this this this this all manas01:55:43
I remember at this moment we feel01:55:46
very confident and then very01:55:48
popular thing it's becoming01:55:51
it becomes a habit and goes into the subconscious01:55:53
the head remains empty and the husband does not remember01:55:56
what did we know01:55:58
they no longer remember what it cost us and01:56:00
it seems to us that we know anyone knows01:56:04
Always01:56:05
so what you are really very01:56:07
cool you know you don't know what you know01:56:10
because it seems natural01:56:12
process, therefore it is important to write down everything that01:56:15
you know and can and and literally by01:56:18
ask people to remind you01:56:21
to what extent are the competencies that01:56:23
you have how cool you really are and01:56:25
because we really forget it01:56:27
the curse of the experts is that he is not01:56:29
understands what kind of specialist01:56:31
that's when you wrote this list01:56:35
Of course you might want to devalue it01:56:37
but at the very least it will remind us of how much01:56:39
all you have next if you're scared01:56:43
some situations you will describe the answers to01:56:45
The question is how will you behave if01:56:52
if there are no answers then select those01:56:56
figures that you think have this01:56:58
the answer and even the technique of making the language itself01:57:00
just take the figures and answer exactly01:57:04
You can also answer a couple more01:57:06
questions what are your advantages over01:57:08
others and this can be written down as they are01:57:11
Now you can collect other figures01:57:13
because everything is your figures if01:57:14
you01:57:16
answer question why are you good01:57:18
specialist and01:57:20
what were the victories of your life 3 and01:57:22
thanks to your quality01:57:25
after high and finalized with you01:57:28
here the memory picture of your experience arises01:57:33
how much pain is connected by what we are like01:57:35
we lose the rule we did therefore01:57:37
restoring and we get to know each other01:57:40
again with everything we know servants is01:57:43
gives us a feeling of confidence01:57:44
experts are so specialist01:57:47
this is the first one yes we are downloading the first part01:57:50
confidence your knowledge or rather not even01:57:52
we download as much as we remember01:57:53
how much we know let's refresh it in01:57:55
memory is further second01:57:59
to feel that we01:58:04
how to say has the right to claim01:58:08
respect regardless of the result to us01:58:11
need to get support01:58:13
surroundings, that is, you can take01:58:16
specialists we respect01:58:19
somehow introduce them to communicate with01:58:22
them and collect feedback on01:58:24
own skills because if in01:58:27
your circle01:58:28
you are in good standing and those people whom you01:58:32
respect they tell you to put on01:58:36
feedback and some kind of cage and up01:58:38
1000 didn’t do everything at once, you can01:58:40
estimate com ways to believe more01:58:43
those whom you respect among yourself01:58:46
I know market specialists01:58:49
at the place of work or someone who is not01:58:52
climbing on came as a client and that's what01:58:56
you have more specialist support and01:58:59
support in general from the spouse’s environment in01:59:02
including regalia and01:59:04
some certificates of commendation and01:59:06
gratitude not just certificates but01:59:08
studying information diploma namely01:59:11
joint photos reviews and so on01:59:14
further and the more calculate what you01:59:16
you have the right to approval and respect01:59:19
just like a person already without a suit and01:59:23
third is self-confidence and01:59:27
opportunities to drag and solve the topic even01:59:29
if you don't understand something about it, then it's01:59:32
kill the inner critic who would01:59:35
it's you who can't do anything and so on01:59:37
a lawyer who is clearly structured01:59:41
step by step why you get this01:59:45
for some reason this happens for some reason01:59:46
good enough for something worthy then01:59:49
is it is done in the form but in reality01:59:51
for mercy, you just write everything in your01:59:54
protecting your favor and here you are again01:59:57
you can resort to figures up to some01:59:59
simulated which can help and and02:00:02
calling Christ is all necessary for this02:00:05
so while you meditate and write this02:00:07
text02:00:08
so that while you are thinking to yourself in02:00:11
build and uneven cut02:00:12
take it as practice practice02:00:15
creating a new behavior and a new image02:00:17
yourself new concepts here02:00:20
this can be done regularly at first until02:00:24
these are just the first steps and then it’s just02:00:27
panic support according to the situation02:00:30
choose any method that suits you02:00:33
now we are responding the most02:00:35
relevant there is no point in doing everything at once02:00:36
simple and sad after doing one thing02:00:39
but exactly what is most important now02:00:42
in demand, how do you feel?02:00:44
then again all the recommendations02:00:49
if you have any questions if any02:00:52
comments then I'm ready now02:00:54
To answer any questions, write02:00:57
questions02:00:59
By the way, I’m on one topic while they write questions02:01:02
If you have any questions, write to02:01:04
chat then if not, write as usual02:01:06
gun will be bomb rocket02:01:08
our final topic is this02:01:11
was when I launched the first course too02:01:13
told me about it02:01:17
no experience getting final02:01:20
result I don’t know what will happen in the end02:01:23
naturally it's02:01:25
it turns out something like this is superimposed02:01:28
I gave the material in general, I know how to do it02:01:31
ok man that is the answer I took on02:01:35
take responsibility for the result02:01:37
student and02:01:39
the experiences were kind of wild and when02:01:41
first work done first stream two02:01:44
years ago I saw results like this02:01:47
god wow I'm a genius like that I am02:01:51
I took a portfolio myself, I need it02:01:53
improve it on well started products to sit down02:01:56
on to improve and improve and improve and02:01:57
I already started not having enough results02:02:00
in the form of layouts, I began to wonder what it was like02:02:03
damn they don't need to settle for02:02:07
work or freelance good money02:02:09
they were earning money, that is, I didn’t have enough already02:02:12
this result and then I started02:02:14
receive02:02:15
reviews from guys who took the course02:02:19
got a job or took on a client02:02:22
and we did everything according to the course according to the manual02:02:25
the client was happy and that's when I dialed02:02:28
I don't know, maybe I needed it02:02:30
about 10 cases like this I’m like that for sure02:02:35
top program I did it well02:02:39
yes I don’t know if this is correct or not02:02:43
from the point of view of its own significance, but already at02:02:45
I'm not collecting for fuel at the moment02:02:50
I already know that it works, that is02:02:52
now it's my responsibility to provide content02:02:55
whether you will succeed or not02:02:59
this is 50 percent of your zone02:03:01
responsibility that you can like cartoons02:03:03
look one person wrote to me02:03:05
such a comment by the way client cartoons02:03:08
He showed us mustard and I left for myself02:03:12
By the way, I was very angry with him02:03:15
how unprofessional I fell for him02:03:18
got angry because you didn't02:03:21
nothing, that is, I gave you nothing, you didn’t ask anything02:03:24
I didn’t have one question, I didn’t fill out my portfolio02:03:27
didn’t write to the client and didn’t enter the chat02:03:30
didn't do anything and02:03:33
called what I made a cartoon which02:03:35
I just helped people change their lives02:03:38
I think yes, how did everyone describe the gun?02:03:42
fire02:03:43
bomb rocket02:03:45
thank you very much thank you but I'm still02:03:49
I ask you guys, I created a topic, take a bite02:03:52
I’ll ask too when they’ve already digested it02:03:54
leave comments reviews there to02:03:57
it was all then, thank you very much02:03:59
let's attach this summary later to02:04:02
that's all, here are the contacts, that is,02:04:05
who is in the chat today and by the way too02:04:08
there was such a remark in the chat02:04:10
comment that02:04:12
the therapist should be contacted as a last resort02:04:15
in case guys, I’ll tell you this to a therapist02:04:17
need to contact in case of emergency02:04:19
didn't happen, that is, in order to02:04:23
don't pull yourself out of the bottom or out of the minus02:04:26
just to live happily02:04:28
enter into a resource state in general02:04:30
feels great, don't worry02:04:33
to the point where I don’t want anything anymore02:04:35
I can't do everything02:04:38
in extreme cases, a psychiatrist is absolutely02:04:41
the other is already there, the tablets are already there02:04:44
It's a different story, it's just me02:04:46
came across familiar people passing by02:04:48
through this it’s not very pleasant that’s all02:04:51
Thank you all very much, see you at the club02:04:54
if you are bye02:04:58
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Техники избавления от страхов проявить себя, повышения самооценки дизайнера! Живой тренинг от гештальт-терапевта Александра Герасимова https://vk.com/alexander.largo
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UDL Lite is a really convenient way to access a website from your mobile device. With its help, you can easily download videos directly to your smartphone.
Which format of "Терапевкаст" video should I choose?
The best quality formats are FullHD (1080p), 2K (1440p), 4K (2160p) and 8K (4320p). The higher the resolution of your screen, the higher the video quality should be. However, there are other factors to consider: download speed, amount of free space, and device performance during playback.
Why does my computer freeze when loading a "Терапевкаст" video?
The browser/computer should not freeze completely! If this happens, please report it with a link to the video. Sometimes videos cannot be downloaded directly in a suitable format, so we have added the ability to convert the file to the desired format. In some cases, this process may actively use computer resources.
How can I download "Терапевкаст" video to my phone?
You can download a video to your smartphone using the website or the PWA application UDL Lite. It is also possible to send a download link via QR code using the UDL Helper extension.
How can I download an audio track (music) to MP3 "Терапевкаст"?
The most convenient way is to use the UDL Client program, which supports converting video to MP3 format. In some cases, MP3 can also be downloaded through the UDL Helper extension.
How can I save a frame from a video "Терапевкаст"?
This feature is available in the UDL Helper extension. Make sure that "Show the video snapshot button" is checked in the settings. A camera icon should appear in the lower right corner of the player to the left of the "Settings" icon. When you click on it, the current frame from the video will be saved to your computer in JPEG format.
What's the price of all this stuff?
It costs nothing. Our services are absolutely free for all users. There are no PRO subscriptions, no restrictions on the number or maximum length of downloaded videos.