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looking at the past, and if you look, you are only

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allowed to look in two ways, forgiving

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or being grateful

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[Applause]

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Oh, how excited it makes me to be here. Well,

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good afternoon, I am Irene Villa, a

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journalist, a humanist psychologist, with this

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training, no. I think you might be surprised that what

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I am passionate about in this world are

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people, human beings, their capacity for

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resilience, their generosity.

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I also like people in the

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inclusion of people with disabilities,

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helping them to help inspire them to

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find their happiness within themselves. to

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emotional intelligence, in short, many

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things, some of you don't know it because you are

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very young, but

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well, my story

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is summarized in many adversities and

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difficulties throughout my entire life,

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but specifically in the year 91 when

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I was 12 years old, something happened that in At

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first it seemed irreversible, it turns out

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that at that time there was a

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terrorist gang that planted bombs that day

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they decided to massacre Madrid, the capital of

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Spain, and well, one of those three

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cars was my mother's, who already

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worked in a police station

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making ID cards and passports

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and Well, he was an easy target because his

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car didn't sleep in the garage and they saw that

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he parked where the police parked. The

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fact is that the bomb exploded just

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before he dropped me off at school.

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Well, that destroyed

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both of our bodies, but miraculously we were saved.

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Well, the health services were

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very close because there had been

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another bomb in the same neighborhood of Aluche

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very close and the ambulance that could not

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do anything to save this lieutenant

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Carballal who left five

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little orphaned children took my mother

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who in fact She was the only one who looked like she

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was alive because she got up

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and shouted, "My girl, where is my girl?

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Well, I was lying on the road,

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apparently dead, and someone turned me

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over and saw that I did have a pulse,

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so they rushed me to the

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hospital." closest

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and there the first one to arrive was my father,

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the doctors told him how he was and

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to know what he said, no matter what, you see,

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I don't want a miserable life for my daughter

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and he preferred to suffer the worst thing

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that can happen to you, that of being killed.

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son, rather than see me suffer,

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the doctor didn't want to save me either, but

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luckily the miracle happened

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to bring me back to life

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and from that moment on, both my mother

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and I decided to give thanks for this

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new opportunity that life was giving us.

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many people who

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have been murdered and in our case

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they were close to it but we had to give

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thanks, logically it was not so easy

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because to assume such a abrupt reality, it is

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good to see yourself in the mirror directly

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without this part of the body

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and suddenly see, well, that your scheme

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body changes that what you like

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is sports, basketball,

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ice skating and suddenly you say well and

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now and now that I had a lot of support and

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a lot of help, I always say that

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social support is essential whenever

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telling what happens to us to That other

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people can give us a hand,

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in my case I had people who came

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from all over, even outside of Spain,

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who had found out because all the

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images were so Dantesque and

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terrifying that they went around the

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world

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and well, for a lot of help and for many

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awards for a lot of recognition and a lot of

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love, one assumes what really happens to one,

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not when one is surrounded by this affection

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but when one faces one's reality

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alone and no one can take that away from

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one. I believe that pain is inevitable,

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which is optional. It is to remain in that

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suffering for life, so I decided

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that I was going to continue being open to the

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gifts that life was going to give me, which by the

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way have been many because thanks to

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integral sport, the first team in the

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world is still adapted today for 11 years.

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After this team was born, I

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continue competing.

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I have been the mother of three wonderful children

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and that has been what has filled my

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life the most with the illusion of joy and strength, a

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heart tripled with the strength of love and

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that is what moves me right now and

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What worries me most, like you, is

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giving them a good education, an education

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in values. I want to strengthen my

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children always

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and I will make you strong and confident, but you must

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stumble to learn, that is why I am going to

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give you human strengths, giving you a lot of

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love and a lot of security. in yourself but I

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am not going to remove the stones from your path

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because the more stones you find and

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the heavier they are, the bigger and stronger

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you will build your castle. That has been the

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main lesson that life has given me

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and that is how I am going to educate my children like this.

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Now it's your turn to ask. I'm very

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happy to be here and to be able to

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spread this important thing to

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young people, especially

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for Irene Molares Elena and well, I

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wanted to tell you that you are an example of

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improvement for me but also for

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many people.

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I wanted to ask you what You have learned

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from the adversities that have happened to you

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in life, well notice that I believe that

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adversity is what you

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learn the most because when change is not easy,

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well, one goes through it naturally,

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normally, but few lessons are

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given when it does not happen to you. nothing and when everything

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is good it is wonderful that everything is

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good but adversity has

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taught me to grab life with

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strength and with a desire to live,

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adversity has taught me that life does

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not end if you do not want to

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and It has taught me to simply value

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the fact of being alive, it is the gift of

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being here, being able to enjoy,

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well, a lot of things. I believe

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that the key is to see more

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possibilities than limitations, when

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adversity occurs, one only sees the

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difficulty. the problem is adversity

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because it changes the focus focus on the

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response to the solution on the good and

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the positive that always no matter how negative

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the reality is no matter how black

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we see everything there is always a light at the end

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of the tunnel that hope is the light at the

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end of the tunnel, which is a hope that

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we have within us and that we

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always have to keep in mind, is

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what will make us emerge stronger from

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that desert and that sometimes there is

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another option, one does not know how strong it is

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until it is Strong is your only option.

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I have seen people who had maybe

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a bland or even boring and

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dull life without a goal but a

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motivation that suddenly, because of a

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car accident, a wheelchair, I

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know a lot of people because I work

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with them and because I play sports. adapted

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and we traveled all over the world and suddenly

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he came out stronger. I think we saw the

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human being from the adversity of

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difficulty and it is the other way around, you have to throw yourself into

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it and face that adversity

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because you are going to meet a new you,

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much stronger than you. the one you had

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before because it is true that

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everything that happens becomes stronger to you

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once you have learned the lesson of

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course because if not life is a

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great teacher but it puts you in

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very similar situations again until

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you learn the lesson you have to

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learn

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but my children are very small but I

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want them to fall and I want them to know

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how to solve a situation by

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themselves they are very small 6 36 years old already

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leaves me amazed by the outings and

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creativity of a child's mind I

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believe which is much more powerful and powerful

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than that of an adult because we are

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corseting ourselves, let

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the younger ones know, growing up is a

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trap of growing up is a trap that

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limits your mind, it is true that it is like

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corseting you, you put on masks.

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layers of onion you go away hiding

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perhaps your essence that inner child

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that inner girl I claim

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and that child that we all have

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inside of us because it is that child who is the one

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who lives is the one who is enthusiastic is the one

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who has creativity without limits

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a super powerful imagination and I believe

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that the way out is often given to us by

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our own children, they have

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answers and a way of thinking that is so

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simple and so pragmatic that I say I wish

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we stayed with that pragmatism

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also with that innocence sometimes they say

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innocence is very daring okay but

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sometimes it is better not to know certain

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things, it is true to live from the world as they

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tell me, not about

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flower power or not, it is not flower power, it is

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simply about wanting to put the focus on

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the good and the positive because for

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What are you going to put in the negative, why are you going

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to suffer? We are here to be

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happy, not to suffer or to cry or

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to hate or curse and the children know

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a lot about this and it is never too late to

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have a happy childhood and

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I last book, my last novel is

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precisely about children who have not

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had it easy and end up in an orphanage

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when it is a wonderful foundation

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that brings out the potential of those children

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and in the end those children have a

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happy childhood and are a little older

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but It is never too late the air in

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the south and Ramón, doctor of youth, I have

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little because I am 83 years old and the truth is

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that that September when you had

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that,

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many people were very injured,

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the strength with what you received is that

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and how you got up is Worthy of

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mention,

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I would like you to tell me where

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you got those strengths from.

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The most important thing is the person

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who gave me the key to my life was my

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mother. She, without an arm and without a leg,

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came to my hospital and gave me the advice

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that I needed. It has not served me well at that moment in

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my entire life daughter,

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this is what we have and with this we are going to

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have to live all our lives we have

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two options to live bitterly suffering

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cursing the terrorists who have

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all the right in the world for what they have

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done to us past or decide that your life begins

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today' and that you are going to fight to have a

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life as similar to the life you

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had as I was 12 years old, it was very clear to me that I was

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born without legs and well, well, you do

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n't have anyone you hate.

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You have nothing to regret if you fall

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well because you were born that way there are many

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people who are born with some disability and

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are completely happy. Even more so is that

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in the end it turns out that those of us who have

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had that extra adversity turn out to

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be happier well when

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you put it in your life, when you accept it,

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of course, whoever doesn't accept it, it's impossible for you to

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flourish. You

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can't flourish until you

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accept that you are what you are, and

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having this example in my house means that

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I couldn't disappoint my mother and

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so many people who were there. I

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encourage you to say, I dare to say, Irene is not alone,

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we are with you, you will get ahead,

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it was certainly a before and after to

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choose that path.

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Hello, Irene, I am Elena. Hello, you will know

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better than anyone in life and situations

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that we do not like but that cannot be

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change and that usually generates frustration. I

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would like you to advise us on how we

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can better manage frustration.

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I think that the main thing to avoid being

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frustrated is to accept what

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has happened because it is true. If we

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cannot change it, why are you going to

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be worrying about it? something that there is no

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going back is like looking

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back and missing and thinking

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that one day I had one day I was and that

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frustrates you because in the present you

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are nostalgic, missing

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things that are no longer going to happen. come back I think

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it is key to accept because also the day

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you

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accept the situation is when

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a lot of possibilities appear your

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future expands however with frustration it is

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like a dead end from there you no longer

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get out of frustration self-pity

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poor me What has happened to me is

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that, look, reality is like this. I

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can no longer do anything to change it. You

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yourself are ending your grave. You are

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closing the fence on your life. I think

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that acceptance is magical because it

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makes you expand a range of possibilities.

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and a rainbow of colors in front of you

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but never with the pain and sadness

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or the guilt of why I did this

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and not that because those are also

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human emotions but we have to

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learn to manage them because they

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greatly limit our complaints. Also in Spain

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we are very fond

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of complaining about everything, it's the food,

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so if the cold is the heat, it

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's true that we don't know what to

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talk about sometimes and well, we're going to complain

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a little, not the national sport and the

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complaint is very toxic person it is of no

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use because of the frustration it is also

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of no use because there is no

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longer anything to do I get

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frustrated and like anger which is true

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that you will say together and sometimes I get angry I

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can't do it control well of course they are

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natural

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and human emotions but we have to transform those

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emotions into positive emotions that

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serve us that help us that help us and

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what

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and that make us feel better sometimes

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they come to send us a message from the

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soul

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for example stage jumps that You are

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like sadder, more frustrated, more

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angry or you don't understand the

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situation and this is because it has to

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happen to me now with how well things were going for me,

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that sadness sometimes that helplessness that

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rage that anger has a message from

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our soul that says something You have to

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change or you move or you expire, move and

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always move forward or backward or

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to gain momentum and have a

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proactive attitude, which is a proactive attitude

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because

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moving your life where you want and

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for that it is very important, I believe it

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is the basis of The education

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that I like is the one that

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empowers your self-esteem because with

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self-esteem in place it is

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very difficult to have it in place, it is very

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fragile and fluctuates but with good

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self-esteem there is nothing in this world that

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the human being sets his mind and does not

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achieve it because that self-esteem that faith in

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yourself that believing that you can and knowing that

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you can do it is what opens the

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doors for you and the frustration of the earth

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hello irene cel claudia and I am 16 years old

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well both in At school and at home

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they tell me that willpower is very important

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and well, you think it is

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so important, of course it is that

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willpower is the driving force

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within us,

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the desire to surpass yourself, people

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tell me, ah, have you? achieved a lot of

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things is that you are a super no I'm not I

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'm not anything different the only thing I have

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willpower because many times we

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start things that maybe or

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because they don't motivate us or excite us we

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leave them half done and I know

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a lot people who quit go for the

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middle career is sport because after

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an injury, for example, they quit. In my

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case, I have had all the difficulties

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in the world. You can imagine in three

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university careers and everything has happened to me,

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but until I finish, I don't

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quit. From studying to doing assignments to

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going to class, it is the willpower of

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wanting to finish the things you have

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started and also

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perseverance is essential and you also

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have to inoculate young people with

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children because it is perseverance that is going to do it. It

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is the virtue that is going to make

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all the virtues that we all have

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bear fruit. They tell me that I

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would not have been able to vote. You think that

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perhaps I had

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special conditions to be a skier as

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my father says, but if it is not that just when

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you had legs because you want to now

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well then willpower and it has not

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been special genetics because there

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are no athletes in my family it has not been

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a special talent either it has been

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perseverance and it has been willpower

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and it has been perseverance is that I think

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That's non-negotiable, that's me with my

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children, that's why I want them to do sports

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because we learn this very well

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by doing sports because there are times when

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you don't feel like training, right, or you don't

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feel like going to a game, in my case, a

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race and well, you have to go and it turns out

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that your life changes completely

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when you are active when you are

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doing sports because in addition

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consistency and perseverance

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feed you back

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and that means that neither laziness nor

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baguette sometimes it is true that we are more

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lazy and less willing to do things well

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Willpower among everything is I

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believe that it is the star ingredient

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in any person's life because we

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all have incredible talents but

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sometimes they are hidden and sometimes it

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costs more. The typical thing is that it's not that I'm

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very stupid, you're not me. ducks to schemes

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coach enough already I am at the

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beginning you can't imagine the number of

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falls I had with sport as

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throughout my life and always a lesson it does

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n't matter how many times you fall but how many times

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you get up and that's how you go

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achieving the objectives little by little

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without setting the bar too high,

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but achieving that and it will

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also strengthen your self-esteem.

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I always talk in my conferences about

00:20:00

the three P's as something essential. Then

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I have other very important values, but

00:20:05

patience and prudence. and perseverance,

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if we don't have this, turn it off and let's go hello,

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I'm Patricia Barreiro and I'm 16 years old. I

00:20:17

read that you are one of the three women

00:20:18

who most inspire us girls in

00:20:20

Spain today and well, I wanted to

00:20:23

ask you what message you could

00:20:25

convey to us. All those people who

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consider you an example to follow,

00:20:30

thank you very much. I am still assimilating

00:20:32

being there among the women who are a

00:20:36

reference for girls. It seems

00:20:38

incredible to be with an

00:20:40

Olympic champion like Mireya, who, by the way, I have

00:20:43

trained with her many times in the

00:20:44

race. Sierra Nevada because there is

00:20:46

altitude training, it's where we are

00:20:47

and she is always there swimming and with

00:20:50

Michelle Obama, imagine no, and with other

00:20:53

women that I admire, for me it is an

00:20:55

honor because honestly, if my

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philosophy of life serves as an example and a

00:20:59

welcome reference, Maybe because it

00:21:02

has worked for me and I think it works for me,

00:21:04

it works for you and I believe that

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what I always said in the

00:21:09

hospital when amputee people came to

00:21:12

see me with their prostheses and with their

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disability, people came with crutches

00:21:16

with a wheelchair and such and with a

00:21:20

smile from ear to ear I told my

00:21:22

father, son, dad, well, if they can do it,

00:21:24

why not, then if people, the

00:21:27

girls, specifically the girls,

00:21:30

see me and say well, yes, she can, mom,

00:21:34

I Also, since we had a mission

00:21:36

accomplished, I already feel a sense in my

00:21:38

teeth because that's really what it is, it's

00:21:41

a great legacy to leave to

00:21:45

everyone because I believe that that

00:21:48

inner strength that no one can take away from you,

00:21:51

that only you nourish when you believe in you

00:21:54

when you know that you can achieve it when you

00:21:57

also have responsibility

00:22:00

because it is what will make you invincible no matter how

00:22:02

much later inevitable things appear,

00:22:05

problems in life,

00:22:07

difficulties that sometimes are not as much

00:22:09

as what we imagine, which is worse, the

00:22:12

imagined penalty than the reality. sorrow that has happened

00:22:15

because many times we put our

00:22:18

hands on our heads and anticipate things

00:22:20

that have never happened and will never

00:22:21

happen, fear is the greatest enemy,

00:22:26

fear is the greatest barrier, fear is

00:22:29

inaction, it paralyzes you and also scares away others.

00:22:33

Our main driving force is love,

00:22:36

so you choose whether you stay with

00:22:38

love or fear, they are incompatible. If there is

00:22:41

one thing I have learned from this whole life of

00:22:44

struggle and not throwing in the towel, it is that

00:22:47

having love in your heart,

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everything else is It surpasses and for girls

00:22:53

and this is an example and a reference because

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I am delighted because I am convinced that it

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is like that. Hello and without a majority and I am

00:23:02

16 years old, I would like to ask you what

00:23:05

advice would you give to a boy and girl

00:23:06

our age who is going through a

00:23:08

complicated moment, what I would do what I

00:23:12

always do is tell it because

00:23:15

many times one vents it and tells it and

00:23:18

as he is telling it he says ah, well yes it

00:23:20

wasn't that big of a deal, what happens is that

00:23:23

our machine mind spins and

00:23:26

sometimes makes that imagined reality much worse.

00:23:30

The fear, the uncertainty, the worry comes back as a threat

00:23:36

in him and if I do this and if I do that and

00:23:39

if I call and if I don't call

00:23:41

and what will people think, what will they think of

00:23:43

me, the judgment of others, that is sometimes what the

00:23:47

adolescent especially finds It constrains you, it

00:23:51

limits you and it makes you feel very

00:23:54

bad. I think that you have to get rid of your

00:23:56

fears,

00:23:58

express and communicate everything because sometimes

00:24:02

that lack of communication makes the problem grow.

00:24:08

That's what

00:24:11

psychologists are for you to tell and in the

00:24:14

end and he left the email and simply to

00:24:16

tell him well that is

00:24:18

very important that's why sociability

00:24:21

we say that having friends is a predictor of

00:24:23

happiness because because

00:24:27

you can let off steam you can tell you can

00:24:29

share your sorrows and that they become

00:24:31

smaller and more bearable, Pérez, that we also

00:24:34

share the joys that

00:24:35

multiply and in adolescence sometimes

00:24:37

you close yourself off and it is the opposite, you have

00:24:40

to open up, you have to talk and even more so now

00:24:43

in the digital age, social networks

00:24:45

sometimes isolate you. of contact and as I

00:24:48

say it makes many things easier but it worsens

00:24:51

what matters most to me, which are the

00:24:54

people, human relationships

00:24:56

or the air in that and Monica,

00:24:58

the first time I heard you, you were

00:25:00

pregnant with your eldest son

00:25:02

and I remember that leave the conference

00:25:03

thinking that all the good that life brings you

00:25:05

is little

00:25:07

that day you talked about forgiveness

00:25:10

and very often you talk about forgiveness and I

00:25:12

would like you to explain to us why it is

00:25:14

important to forgive because look,

00:25:17

I believe that forgiveness is the basis to

00:25:20

have a full and happy life who does not

00:25:23

have something or someone to forgive, that

00:25:26

is, everyone at some point in our

00:25:28

life for a person who consciously or

00:25:31

unconsciously hurts us, yours

00:25:36

because you have that pain in your heart, that

00:25:40

resentment, like I always say that

00:25:43

I have enough things amputated from two

00:25:45

legs to have my heart

00:25:47

also amputated. Schalke does not forgive.

00:25:50

Somehow, the heart is damaged in some way.

00:25:54

When you forgive, you have

00:25:58

your heart whole again and with a lot of strength and

00:26:01

a lot of light, and many people tell me, but

00:26:04

why are you going to? Forgive if they haven't

00:26:06

asked for your forgiveness, it's because I don't need them to

00:26:08

ask for forgiveness. I don't ask. I don't

00:26:10

forgive for them because of their peace of mind. I

00:26:14

forgive for my happiness, my peace of mind,

00:26:16

my inner peace for being good with

00:26:19

myself. Furthermore, when someone doesn't forgive, this

00:26:22

is very very visual but I think that for

00:26:25

younger people and for everyone like that we

00:26:27

never forget

00:26:29

when someone hurts you it is created like

00:26:32

an invisible thread

00:26:34

that goes from you to that person who has

00:26:36

hurt you and in a certain way you follow

00:26:40

your life but it still hurts you in some

00:26:42

way you remember this person look

00:26:44

what he has done to me and he has not asked for my

00:26:46

forgiveness and also with what

00:26:50

shamelessness what he has done and I why I

00:26:53

had to deserve this and then you have that one

00:26:54

person with that bond in your home

00:26:58

at your work in your daily life in your

00:27:00

family and even if you are fine because

00:27:03

life goes on you have there that eat eat not

00:27:07

thinking and because he will have done it and will

00:27:11

regret it and one day he will call me and

00:27:14

how will it go life well because when you

00:27:16

forgive him you know what you do with that

00:27:18

thread

00:27:20

you cut it like with scissors you cut

00:27:23

that bond with the person who has hurt you and you

00:27:25

let him go if you do not imagine the

00:27:28

liberation that comes from forgiving is

00:27:33

freeing yourself from that person and not You know what's

00:27:36

going to happen to him or maybe yes, but

00:27:38

good that he has his life, you don't wish him anything

00:27:41

bad, although you know that in the end I do

00:27:44

believe in that justice that the one who

00:27:47

does it pays, if it's not one way, it's

00:27:49

Another is the same that I believe in justice

00:27:52

that whoever gives love receives love and on top of that

00:27:56

multiplied, then I say well, I

00:27:59

forgive him and well, life

00:28:03

or his path will take care of putting him in his place

00:28:05

because, as I told you, so I think that

00:28:07

whoever does something consciously wrong,

00:28:10

above all, in

00:28:12

some way he pays for it. For example, in

00:28:15

my case, the statute of limitations was not culprit in a

00:28:18

trial and in a murderer imprisoned,

00:28:22

thanks to this thought, I don't care, of course,

00:28:25

it would be if not super wrong, saying,

00:28:28

look at the ones who almost killed us outright,

00:28:31

well, how do I think? Well, I stay

00:28:33

calm in the end. I think that one has

00:28:35

to think about what helps you be happy.

00:28:39

If they call this living too much, I don't

00:28:42

know in an ideal world, I prefer to

00:28:46

live in an ideal world than to live in the

00:28:48

world that they show us. I am a journalist

00:28:51

and I believe that what I always see

00:28:55

is corruption, interest,

00:28:57

confrontation, violence, that does not

00:29:00

represent us. I believe that

00:29:02

other news that comes out represents us much more,

00:29:04

but there are many more wonderful

00:29:06

and good people who help and cooperate than He is

00:29:10

interested in others, he helps in

00:29:13

education and progress in the

00:29:16

human being, in which we have a happy

00:29:18

coexistence in which we all move

00:29:22

forward together, we grow internally,

00:29:24

we have better jobs. I believe that the

00:29:27

majority is like that, what happens is that

00:29:29

a tree makes more noise. When you fall, a whole

00:29:31

jungle is growing, but when you

00:29:36

realize that life is wonderful but

00:29:39

so fast and fleeting, then you forgive,

00:29:42

you have no other option but to forgive,

00:29:45

Louis.

00:29:47

Well, let me tell you that you have talked about

00:29:50

national education that you would like to

00:29:52

transmit to your friends. children and I am a teacher

00:29:54

on this topic. I am interested in dealing with

00:29:56

adolescents with children every day and I

00:30:00

would like to know your opinion on what

00:30:02

values we can transmit to these children

00:30:04

and adolescents today. The truth is

00:30:07

that this is the most important thing:

00:30:09

human values. that we transmit to the

00:30:12

kids because it is true that in

00:30:14

school we study the subjects that

00:30:16

are studied now and increasingly

00:30:18

also the emotions,

00:30:20

emotional intelligence, but the values of

00:30:23

the three Rs I return to this so that

00:30:26

the mnemonic rules help me They love them

00:30:28

because this way we don't forget to respect

00:30:31

ourselves, above all, because if you don't

00:30:34

respect yourself, it means that no one respects you

00:30:37

and if you don't respect others, don't expect them to

00:30:39

respect you either.

00:30:41

Responsibility and the third thing is that this

00:30:45

is something very characteristic. of the human being

00:30:50

and specifically all of us who have

00:30:51

suffered adversity have had no

00:30:53

other option, which is called resilience, which

00:30:56

is the ability of the human being

00:30:59

to remain unwavering in the face of

00:31:03

a tragedy. A resilient person means that no

00:31:06

matter what happens, It will

00:31:08

cost her more or less to succeed, of course

00:31:11

there has to be an adaptation process

00:31:14

but in the end she will come out stronger,

00:31:16

even that is resilience and that

00:31:19

must also be instilled in these

00:31:22

kids and in the children because they are going to have to turn

00:31:24

around. to the tortilla because

00:31:26

life is not a bed of roses and what

00:31:29

has happened to me is not going to happen to you,

00:31:30

logically fortunately and I hope that

00:31:33

terrorism disappears from the world but

00:31:36

other things are going to happen I had other

00:31:38

serious things I

00:31:39

had periods the truth is quite

00:31:41

dramatic and then I realized that the

00:31:44

number one enemy is fear because

00:31:48

people told me how strong you are

00:31:49

if you have overcome what you have overcome, this

00:31:53

is sucked one when you are afraid it

00:31:56

is not so easy it is not so easy but

00:31:59

well if we educate them respect

00:32:01

resilience responsibility

00:32:04

and good that they collaborate at home ah well

00:32:07

of course I have already said it before sociability you

00:32:11

are not alone in the world I am

00:32:14

lucky to have this character he is not an

00:32:16

open extroverted person but

00:32:18

if your son It is not, you have

00:32:21

and encourage that because it turns out that it is a

00:32:24

predictor of happiness hello, hello, I'm

00:32:28

Carmen.

00:32:30

Before, you have talked about self-esteem and

00:32:32

I wanted to ask you how important

00:32:34

self-esteem is in our lives, but

00:32:36

above all, how we can strengthen that

00:32:40

self-esteem and teach it to our children.

00:32:42

Self-esteem

00:32:46

is the origin of a full and happy life,

00:32:50

but it is extremely fragile. I have

00:32:54

to work on it almost every day. I

00:32:57

think everyone does, because suddenly

00:33:01

someone says something to you that you didn't expect, you

00:33:04

feel offended or you even

00:33:06

say something yourself. What you didn't want to say and then

00:33:09

you think about why I

00:33:11

said this and then your

00:33:13

self-esteem is diminished. We have a lot of

00:33:16

responsibility, dad and mom, to ensure

00:33:20

that self-esteem is not so fragile

00:33:22

that it is going to be because that is how

00:33:24

human self-esteem is. but tell him

00:33:28

positive reinforcement what is worth how well he has

00:33:31

done encourage that reinforce the things

00:33:34

that they do well and that they

00:33:36

never compare themselves with other children that I believe that the

00:33:38

self-esteem of a child

00:33:41

is often too fragile because it

00:33:44

is not that so-and-so gets better grades

00:33:47

than me is that he does it better than me is

00:33:49

that he has a talent I he knows I don't

00:33:52

know I am not worth as much and tweet as a

00:33:55

father and as a mother and the educators

00:33:57

also have to say one is that it

00:33:59

will do him good some things,

00:34:00

but you will do other things well, each of us

00:34:02

is here with a different talent and

00:34:05

absolutely all of us have

00:34:07

incredible potential. In my case,

00:34:10

sport helped a lot. I think that sport

00:34:13

gives you an inner strength that

00:34:18

reinforces your self-esteem because it

00:34:20

also makes you being in contact with

00:34:22

other people and as you know that is

00:34:25

basic for your self-esteem laughing with

00:34:28

someone that is feeding your

00:34:30

self-esteem your spirit

00:34:32

sport also gives you

00:34:34

teamwork which is being in contact with

00:34:37

people teams always give a lot of

00:34:40

inner strength because You know that

00:34:45

you can contribute something there, so the

00:34:47

psychology of groups is not about feeling like

00:34:48

someone, feeling that your opinion counts,

00:34:52

feeling that you are worth it, for example, when you

00:34:55

arrive, you are retired or you don't have or ca

00:34:58

n't find a job, the worst thing

00:35:00

you can do is stay at home because

00:35:02

there the self-esteem is decreasing, you have

00:35:05

to find an occupation to

00:35:07

continue feeling useful but it doesn't have to

00:35:10

go by what others say or

00:35:13

think of you, your self-esteem doesn't have to

00:35:15

depend on anything external, it has to be

00:35:18

something from within and that, as I say, is

00:35:23

enhanced by having a

00:35:25

I like commitment and sport because it is a commitment

00:35:27

that, as I tell you, even if you don't feel like it,

00:35:29

even if it's raining, 'huge flakes don't fall

00:35:32

or it's a horrible wind and you can't

00:35:35

see it. I've had to go to train. I

00:35:38

think that makes you tougher, but At the same time, I

00:35:40

give you self-esteem by projecting, you have

00:35:41

finished that hard day,

00:35:43

you say, my goodness, I was going to stay at

00:35:45

home without going out and look, I have

00:35:49

achieved it, so I believe that

00:35:51

self-esteem is putting yourself through daily tests.

00:35:55

Work often tests your

00:35:57

self-esteem because It is giving your best to

00:36:00

study also because you are

00:36:02

strengthening those abilities that you

00:36:05

have to learn to assimilate new things.

00:36:10

I believe that in the stages in which one

00:36:11

has the lowest self-esteem one has to

00:36:13

look for this type of occupation or

00:36:16

Irene, my name is Marta. The truth is that it is

00:36:19

incredible to listen to you and also to read

00:36:21

all the books that you have written the

00:36:23

articles and that we live in a society

00:36:26

whose objective is success and this is

00:36:29

also reflected a lot in

00:36:30

social networks that always show the

00:36:32

beautiful side of everyone's life. the world that

00:36:33

is successful

00:36:35

and failure are also part of

00:36:37

life so what can we learn from

00:36:40

failure

00:36:41

failure is that it is within life

00:36:44

and it is almost in our

00:36:46

daily and everyday life what we need to know

00:36:49

is that failure is part of life

00:36:53

and you cannot look the other way,

00:36:56

you have to face it, assume that failure

00:37:01

if it is on your part to know where you have gone

00:37:03

wrong and with all the humility in the

00:37:06

world because I also value

00:37:09

humility so much because there are people who

00:37:10

do not It is allowed to fail

00:37:13

but let's see, you are the worst

00:37:14

boycotter you have, it is you yourself, how are you

00:37:17

not going to allow yourself to fail,

00:37:20

perfection does not exist there, you are going to

00:37:22

fail and also thanks to the fact that you are going

00:37:24

to fail, new

00:37:27

paths and new things are going to open up for you. ways of creativity

00:37:29

because failure sharpens ingenuity. Let's

00:37:31

also see if I haven't done it well. In

00:37:34

this way you can know what other

00:37:36

options I have. Failure is also a

00:37:40

very necessary bath of humility for

00:37:42

more arrogant people

00:37:44

and failure teaches you what success

00:37:46

Success does not teach you, it is that you have

00:37:50

done well but you meditate on your back,

00:37:51

congratulations, they are all

00:37:53

nice words that you learn from there,

00:37:55

nothing, however, failure teaches you

00:37:59

that if you really like what you are doing

00:38:01

and are enthusiastic about it, you are going to have to

00:38:04

work much more it teaches you that you

00:38:07

have to have more self-discipline it

00:38:10

teaches you that you need more self-confidence

00:38:13

failure teaches you that you have to

00:38:16

improve and failure has to be there

00:38:19

all your life because there is always something to

00:38:20

improve

00:38:22

I have to thank

00:38:25

adversity because it helps me They have made me

00:38:26

stronger but the failures because they have

00:38:29

made me learn and above all to know that you do

00:38:32

n't have to take life so seriously

00:38:34

and that if you take life seriously

00:38:37

you are lost because you don't enjoy it

00:38:42

and it's true well then if you make a mistake

00:38:45

Find another way to do it,

00:38:48

hello Irene, I'm Ricardo, I'm a

00:38:51

secondary and high school teacher,

00:38:52

Todd. You've said before that you collaborate with

00:38:55

many projects with disabled people, so I'm

00:38:57

asking you if it's necessary, what

00:39:00

importance do you give to raising awareness

00:39:02

about disability in schools, in

00:39:05

educational centers, well, I I think

00:39:07

it is important because first everything that

00:39:09

involves opening your mind and removing prejudices

00:39:12

is essential before you see a person in a

00:39:16

chair or a blind person with a cane

00:39:18

and alhama look it was something strange no no it

00:39:22

wasn't there this thing we call

00:39:25

inclusion did not exist integration

00:39:28

I think that is not good I think that

00:39:30

diversity has to be seen that we are

00:39:34

different we are unique and that there are people

00:39:37

who are whole and there are people who are missing

00:39:40

an arm

00:39:41

well my children see it as super normal but

00:39:43

of course there are people who do not He doesn't see it as

00:39:46

normal, a chair, rare diseases,

00:39:49

severe disabilities,

00:39:51

and a ski partner of mine, for example,

00:39:53

has gone from being a little different, a

00:39:57

little apart from her class, to being the

00:40:00

protagonist for having won the gold that

00:40:03

I lost in slalom, not today. year she

00:40:05

has won me again, she is a 13

00:40:08

year old girl who doesn't have legs either and here

00:40:11

we go she gives me three thousand turns

00:40:14

so you can see how important this

00:40:16

inclusion and this integration is that she

00:40:18

is no longer the person with a

00:40:21

disability. to be the heroine or the

00:40:23

medalist I think it is important to be

00:40:26

seen I think it is important that people with disabilities and people without disabilities do

00:40:27

sports and overcome their

00:40:30

difficulties and barriers

00:40:34

but being together I think it makes us

00:40:37

learn we have projects

00:40:40

with people with

00:40:41

intellectual disabilities and companies are

00:40:44

thanking us that there are people, for example,

00:40:47

doing something that they can perfectly

00:40:50

do with the Dawn Me Center, for

00:40:53

example, and who not only do their

00:40:55

job

00:40:56

correctly but also the energy that they

00:40:59

transmit to the rest of the employees with their

00:41:02

joy and smile. The hug that you get

00:41:03

when you come in in the morning is not given to you by

00:41:05

a person who has an intellectual disability

00:41:09

because that was the fundamental message that

00:41:12

wanted to say that childhood is

00:41:16

wonderful because they are sponges, a

00:41:19

diamond to be polished, that we help these

00:41:22

children and those young people to bring out the best

00:41:24

that they have within them than their ability to

00:41:27

get what they want and for this there is

00:41:31

something that helps me which is not to look

00:41:33

at the past and if you look you are only allowed to

00:41:36

look in two ways,

00:41:39

forgiving or being grateful to live in the

00:41:43

present with joy and with enthusiasm

00:41:47

every day with full attention and

00:41:50

enjoying every moment and looking to the

00:41:52

future with hope and optimism

00:41:55

I think that all of us

00:41:57

who are here can have that and we carry it within us

00:42:00

thank you very much

00:42:02

[Music]

00:42:14

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