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uterus briefly formulate I will be glad00:01:31
if you imagine00:01:32
where the everyday way and raise your hand gives00:01:38
functions raise your hand and I will see I can00:01:42
match you in the chat until your00:01:43
it turns out and raised your hand on you We00:01:47
’ll even include one of the participants00:01:50
so that they can ask their question00:01:55
because there is a way to channel00:01:58
this lesson to the address of who you can00:02:05
connect to the channel to become a participant00:02:09
pressure to contact recordings of past lessons00:02:13
link to the channel as I said you will receive in the00:02:15
next few minutes in an hour and after the lesson00:02:18
I I’ll try for the honor of the00:02:20
WhatsApp number of the strike you can also get00:02:22
drunk Irina’s walkie-talkie you can be added00:02:25
to the video00:03:01
you are00:03:10
rum well yes good evening borrow you can hear00:03:17
me00:03:20
I can’t hear you apparently there’s something with the sound of00:03:24
the voice here we are if you can hear me00:03:29
yes good evening to all of ours dear00:03:34
listeners, I’m very glad that you joined00:03:38
and the classes on the00:03:40
topic are apparently very important,00:03:44
it’s hard to avoid anger,00:03:48
each of us experienced this feeling, it’s the00:03:54
disappointment that comes00:03:56
after we failed to restrain00:04:00
our anger, I don’t think that anyone was happy about00:04:03
this event, most likely it and00:04:07
is of great interest00:04:08
so many people want to know how00:04:11
to deal with anger00:04:13
we have a lot of not a lot of time00:04:16
so we will concentrate only as00:04:18
if basically in the definition we will give00:04:22
just a few tips I hope that they00:04:24
will be useful for why we get angry well00:04:29
let's start maybe with examples, I00:04:31
hope each of you00:04:36
can give them when we get angry00:04:40
when we get angry, apparently00:04:42
when something is out of our00:04:46
control when we wanted to00:04:48
achieve something and00:04:52
unfortunately some circumstances do not00:04:55
allow us to do this someone then he doesn’t listen to us,00:05:00
that is, the situation is completely ordinary in the00:05:03
generally defined reports to speak00:05:06
came home not selected angry children00:05:11
are making noise anger screams and came to the bank and there they have to00:05:17
stand in line for two hours the00:05:22
employees there are throwing them away she says on the phone he is00:05:25
minding his own business someone made an00:05:29
appointment with you is an hour late,00:05:31
naturally that is a reason to get00:05:34
angry or we are late for work00:05:37
offer to the bus stop the00:05:39
bus leaves at the last moment there are00:05:42
many examples when we get angry00:05:46
yes it is natural that the corona is that00:05:49
we are all in one place in the house for00:05:52
what definitely a big reason to be00:05:54
angry with our loved ones,00:05:58
other friends, what happens00:06:02
if there is control over this to many, the00:06:05
formulation of the question is that00:06:07
look, this is what I am, I’m a00:06:11
nervous,00:06:13
unrestrained person, it’s completely00:06:16
uncontrollable, it’s quite00:06:19
possible that in the world00:06:23
they can look at it like that and maybe he offers00:06:26
some ways to fight this, but we00:06:27
understand that this is the way it is and the top is00:06:31
for now, but we are angry with the00:06:34
visa in the past, is it possible to00:06:38
control anger00:06:40
at this very sensitive point,00:06:43
it must be said clearly and obviously that00:06:47
they can be approached control the field that we are00:06:51
people who are angry, we ourselves00:06:55
control this anger and each of us00:06:58
knows situations in which we00:07:02
would live in the same conditions in one water in00:07:06
one situation before we are angry in another00:07:08
situation, not but we are angry why this00:07:10
happens because there somewhere inside00:07:13
us there is a certain trigger, you know,00:07:16
to turn on and off, that is,00:07:18
something that we control, that is,00:07:20
when we allow ourselves to00:07:23
be angry and when we do not allow ourselves, the00:07:25
Germans with a person who, as it were, we00:07:28
consider for some reason to be lower than us00:07:31
or anger due in relation to him should00:07:35
return to us our sense of self,00:07:38
our good knows and there is a sublime00:07:41
feeling, we allow ourselves this and the people00:07:44
who need us more respectfully00:07:46
are comfortable in front of him, are we just afraid00:07:49
to express this anger, the hand turns out that00:07:52
my ability to control means without00:07:55
even entering into an example and It’s a pity to waste00:07:57
time on this, as well as the introduction to everything that the00:08:01
tables allow us to carry out this00:08:04
lesson, we control anger, we can00:08:08
control me, that is, no one00:08:10
can say that he is completely00:08:12
uncontrollable, now people will say that there are00:08:15
people with different temperaments, that’s right,00:08:17
we usually turn to revenge00:08:20
like most people with ordinary00:08:24
combined qualities, it is natural that00:08:26
somewhere there at the end00:08:28
of people absolutely know to carry a00:08:29
small percentage that is completely00:08:31
uncontrollable00:08:32
Agnes but basically all almost all people are00:08:38
normal people they are ready they can00:08:42
who are with you what is the reason00:08:45
book why we are angry00:08:47
in At this point we strongly disagree with general00:08:53
psychology in understanding the nature of anger,00:08:56
accordingly this is not the way and how to00:08:58
deal with it,00:08:59
although somewhere at the end we will be00:09:01
some actually my proposals00:09:04
let's be similar00:09:05
but but but about making a diagnosis and because it00:09:09
can cure it even initially there is a00:09:12
big difference in how we understand why00:09:16
anger is what00:09:18
anger is only the result00:09:22
and what it gave birth to and what happened before00:09:24
why a person was able to awaken at all00:09:28
why this feeling for them did not awaken at all00:09:31
so you need to know that I am00:09:35
here you all already know everything this hearing00:09:37
is a multiple of good again this is hearing00:09:39
anger this is a product of the quality of arrogance00:09:44
because a person has several roots and00:09:48
spiritual each of us is the same in this00:09:52
snowball structure00:09:54
small sleep in one word only00:09:56
the introduction is the upper roots with the lower00:09:58
core the upper crust is called in our country the hump00:10:01
to the chamber the lower crust is called then in00:10:03
lust lower and now does not touch the00:10:08
upper wampa what is called00:10:10
arrogance for burning in Russian and it00:10:14
comes from personal self-awareness here00:10:18
we also call it I the feeling of myself in00:10:21
principle this is what holika but besides this is00:10:25
part of the creator himself that fact that I00:10:28
feel like I am, this is this, this is a00:10:32
somewhat divine presence in00:10:35
me, this is what is written in the Torah00:10:37
like the image of how he created man, this00:10:40
is the image and likeness, each of us00:10:42
feels almost like God, that is,00:10:45
I am this something, I am someone I am very00:10:47
significant and the court what comes from if I do00:10:50
this means they shouldn’t obey means00:10:54
I am correcting the world I am here master I am00:10:56
establishing how it should be in the world how00:10:59
so it’s not like that they don’t00:11:01
listen to me like that the bus I00:11:03
ran away to can’t happen that I am the00:11:07
master in this world of sand, yes, we live with an00:11:09
uncontrollable feeling00:11:11
and do not understand where all this comes from, but a00:11:14
simple person lives only according to his00:11:17
feelings, he is simply called and rides00:11:21
with him, then he does not understand at all00:11:23
why this awakens in him, we know00:11:29
that everything Jewish life all all00:11:31
Jewish you study everything that is called00:11:34
conduct ethics garbage it is in order to00:11:38
develop self-awareness in a person00:11:42
got angry, great, let’s now00:11:45
do an experiment right on the spot let00:11:47
everyone remember the00:11:48
last time we got angry00:11:50
just angry00:11:53
let’s think for a second and think about00:11:56
what not so, well, it hurt why I00:11:58
got angry now when you remember00:12:00
it’s not your heart or suppose it’s still00:12:03
gray, maybe it happened just a00:12:05
few minutes ago00:12:07
and in 10 hours in two00:12:12
weeks. herring we will remember it00:12:15
suddenly the head returned the mind returned00:12:19
why were you angry friend starting to00:12:22
understand that in fact the reason for this is00:12:24
she she she she very simply I saw00:12:28
myself and as the ruler of this world, in00:12:33
principle, everyone should obey me, it is important to00:12:37
fulfill my requests of obedience the world00:12:42
should be arranged so that it fits00:12:45
according to my understanding,00:12:48
that is, in this there is a certain world, I00:12:52
just pretend that we have as they say,00:12:55
that is, I know, let’s call this an00:12:59
atheist00:13:00
who sits in the soul of a religious00:13:03
person, that is, I’m not about disbelief, in00:13:05
fact, in holding the Almighty, this is00:13:08
also in addition to everything goes00:13:11
together because when a person feels like00:13:13
someone who has been pulled from the place of God00:13:17
in his world, the more there is a place for the creator of the00:13:20
Almighty God in his world, the less he00:13:23
has left to walk around and00:13:24
yes, the person somehow perceives everything more calmly00:13:27
it all depends it’s not he who00:13:31
controls this world at the moment when it00:13:34
happens from flint nothing what to00:13:39
do now we’re not talking about it00:13:41
now we’ll talk about how long maybe we’ll talk about the00:13:43
whale in fact the advice doesn’t know maybe it00:13:45
will help someone everything is very good00:13:47
who wants to follow the proven path00:13:50
drip sheathed all the Jewish sages from00:13:52
whom we saw that they almost00:13:56
completely overcame this quality of anger00:13:59
when they did not see that they could be00:14:02
awakened rotten the shortest path the00:14:07
hardest the00:14:08
most confident path is pay00:14:12
attention to yours with yours with your00:14:15
vision of the world this can only be done so00:14:18
far to00:14:19
or after this work think about00:14:21
yourself just simply00:14:24
remain yourself00:14:26
estimate Prague wall remember a few00:14:29
examples of how I introduced analyze00:14:33
understand I realize in another body I yes I00:14:39
just gardens yes I just I see myself00:14:42
above everything is completely clear that I00:14:45
As a dad, I have the right to yell and doesn’t know to us00:14:48
at his children who told you that you00:14:51
have the right, it could be a wonderful check00:14:54
in this very place because already being00:14:56
so unhappy, all of you lecturer00:14:58
are offended at work00:15:01
except for release to a place where I can show00:15:03
myself as expected we are children, therefore,00:15:05
in the cities, well, they suffer only00:15:10
because you have complex00:15:11
usefulness; the same wife often00:15:15
sees that she, like a mother, is completely00:15:17
unrestrainedly written, waiting for change, in addition to a00:15:20
lot of other reasons that all this00:15:23
all comes from childhood and prototypes of00:15:25
parental behavior everyone now notable money everything is00:15:27
true all this is in fact not00:15:31
exactly the same problem she is there00:15:34
inside she feels that I am also a god but the00:15:36
goddess herself is above who there is alone even when00:15:39
the rocket is in command and they don’t even00:15:43
listen to me there is naturally no00:15:45
reason, dear friends we have a very00:15:49
accurate diagnosis of the arrogance of a00:15:54
person, his pictures, that is, when we00:15:56
see ourselves a little more than we are, in00:15:59
fact, we sell ourselves the importance of more than we are,00:16:02
in fact, we are inevitably candidates,00:16:06
of course, nothing will help, then00:16:09
we will talk again will whale patents00:16:11
for the channel this is again and again the struggle00:16:14
will be again and again why because the00:16:16
force that moves us to anger is not00:16:21
eliminated the only possibility is00:16:28
the awareness that we are not the center of the world00:16:32
we do not rule the world the principle of direct00:16:35
counting no one owes us anything00:16:38
to write this france no one owes anything,00:16:43
the wife must serve the children, stay at00:16:46
work, I need the world to be arranged already,00:16:49
since my thoughts are in groups and there00:16:52
were no one at all, this is the initially00:16:54
correct premise, if they just00:16:56
think a little bit like the word00:16:58
people from decimal exactly the opposite,00:17:00
people partially even the trees and the look00:17:03
that there is a creator of my creation, the more00:17:07
he thinks about it, the more he smells00:17:09
about the fact that it is completely inappropriate to consider00:17:12
oneself the navel of the earth of irrelevance00:17:13
from the person who manages this if00:17:16
I do not manage this world on the principle of00:17:19
giving did not come00:17:21
that to everyone I would never encountered no00:17:24
reason for anger00:17:25
you understand that if I'm late the moons00:17:29
around the person is religious what am I saying00:17:32
to these I left on time you got into the00:17:36
tube what do you want there there there the00:17:40
meeting is disrupted the meeting is being disrupted00:17:41
maybe even I can make it is disrupted made00:17:43
me uncomfortable of course inconvenient that uncle00:17:45
why should I sit and be nervous to torment00:17:48
myself why tell me the hell if I00:17:52
go to the bus stop and00:17:53
just the bus is chosen example which was00:18:00
exactly like which is second hand00:18:03
who heard the period which she herself00:18:05
witnessed how this dynabrade ran through00:18:07
this installation the bus walked ran away he00:18:10
looked for where there was one of them already standing00:18:19
through an elderly Jew and told him look00:18:23
he’s neutral00:18:26
he’s not ours it’s like that x on foot a husband who00:18:32
no one passed by about the fact that there is his00:18:35
bus there is not his bus you were in00:18:37
a hurry somewhere you ran after the bus you even reached00:18:40
tracks panic they were yours00:18:44
and the next year of the next when he00:18:47
comes in 20 minutes why invested 2000:18:50
minutes before you owe you minutes these are the Turks00:18:53
this is marriage and walking to the floor on the credit00:18:55
account in heaven on them nismo00:18:58
all in one second suddenly I would00:19:01
constantly repeat this their walls in what00:19:04
situations what’s inside tank hands00:19:08
I’ll look around everything is fine I look he’s00:19:10
completely calm if I too suddenly have00:19:11
so many times and in such situations a lot of you00:19:14
can come somewhere in a bank00:19:18
or some kind of state institutions00:19:22
there to stand in line 2 hours00:19:24
to wear yourself out, or as a fairy tale,00:19:28
dad ordered something on the Internet and00:19:30
brought it that a friend then00:19:32
brought it again 3 then he was already exhausted and he00:19:35
screamed there she was in the country, well, for whom is this00:19:40
so so so inappropriate, it’s so00:19:42
ruined in00:19:43
other words, dear friends, we have00:19:46
very little time, so we need to00:19:47
go more specifically ca1 diagnosis00:19:51
it is very simple it is very clear if we are not00:19:55
angry look in the mirror and tell00:19:57
you and play there what kind of proud person I am00:20:01
and arrogant this is this is one hundred00:20:05
percent such more there I'll still00:20:10
cover up I'll still carry all the little ones from00:20:13
Odessa in my heart why do00:20:16
n't I take away from the creator don't00:20:19
stop I would have nothing bad in the world there's nothing00:20:23
you didn't do as if it wouldn't happen00:20:25
this is not survival anger I have00:20:27
peace of mind completely we00:20:29
said the kind of person he seems to be, that is, he00:20:32
has and trust in the00:20:34
Almighty, calmly00:20:36
this is the greatest acquisition that the00:20:39
devil can give himself a gift to bring00:20:44
peace and spirituality, so if we00:20:46
just sort of found it religiously, we00:20:49
give place to God with00:20:50
our hearts, thereby repressing this00:20:53
there is no place for anger and arrogance,00:20:56
these are theories and you need to know and00:21:04
not so much, but those people who followed00:21:07
this path, some of them were very successful00:21:10
in this, it helped them, this is a total00:21:12
solution for many of us,00:21:16
such a formulation of the question is very00:21:18
good, very beautiful everything everything is00:21:21
fine, well, I can’t, I can’t do it,00:21:23
Razheva says, yes, I still run from00:21:26
every time and again bumping into the same00:21:28
rake and getting the same thing on the head,00:21:31
how to deal with this, then00:21:33
let’s move on to some practical00:21:35
advice, I’m not sure that I can say00:21:37
all of them all solve the new one let's00:21:39
just a little bit just one some types so that it's00:21:42
small so that it00:21:44
was immediately let's say an interesting thing before the00:21:48
old days the old days so I heard once it was00:21:52
just that there was such an approach a [ __ ]00:21:54
and a person from the species according to00:21:56
psychology we need to take a pillow or something else that00:22:01
we can punch and it’s all on someone 7000:22:04
flying they say pull out pull out days without00:22:07
burying the heart did not correspond to the00:22:10
Jewish understanding I remember then I often00:22:13
had a similar situation when you00:22:16
chose such a question as she says so00:22:18
fool from Chicago to him why00:22:20
understand they say so many interesting things,00:22:22
and already the latest research00:22:26
that completely removed this approach,00:22:29
they finally realized that everything is00:22:31
exactly the opposite, that is, instead of00:22:35
weakening the00:22:36
hostility of the objects that irritate us,00:22:40
it is even more or has generated an even higher00:22:43
level00:22:45
and hostility towards him, therefore, no one is00:22:49
worth a beatnik at the pillow, nothing00:22:52
that you pull out, what do you need to do with the walls,00:22:55
what do you need to know, in this case, in this00:22:58
sense, we were much the same as a purely00:23:00
technical approach, but there are already many00:23:02
similar things like ours and in the world00:23:05
from a book, we must understand what makes us00:23:15
angry, that it was erased, that is,00:23:18
it offers to do an analysis after00:23:20
you see what happened,00:23:22
you can specifically say what exactly00:23:26
made you angry, and when we understand what exactly00:23:30
made us angry, we have the opportunity00:23:32
to treat it a little bit differently to another,00:23:35
that is, you can somehow00:23:37
analyze it in a different way, and the main thing is00:23:41
to use this same tactic that00:23:45
is used in psychology all 500:23:48
when we have a certain00:23:50
negative way of thinking that has already00:23:52
accumulated when our reaction is repeated again and00:23:56
again to a similar situation00:23:57
many, many times, she00:24:00
offers a very good, reasonable00:24:02
solution, look, let's00:24:04
reprogram our relationship, this is not00:24:07
some kind of situation, that is, you already know00:24:10
that if you go through the house and you00:24:13
again find a mess there, that00:24:16
leads to terrible things, not why because you00:24:18
already asked00:24:19
begged or why is it not difficult and00:24:23
yet it didn’t happen to me00:24:26
nothing was chosen in the house again00:24:29
you get annoyed again raises if you00:24:33
want to live a normal rational00:24:36
life and the past life to collect along00:24:37
the flow and then you don’t have to listen, you don’t have to00:24:40
ask but if anyone wants to get out of00:24:43
this situation, you need to analyze,00:24:45
perhaps repeating the same situations again and again,00:24:47
falling into this00:24:49
trap again00:24:50
on the scales, everything is simple, you come home and00:24:53
let's see what exactly is there for you00:24:56
and00:24:57
you are dissatisfied with something dissatisfied with the fact00:25:00
that there is a mess before or you are not00:25:06
happy with the fact that you didn’t serve us,00:25:08
look, look how interesting it is00:25:09
unwinding, in fact, since00:25:12
it hurts more about what you said00:25:15
and didn’t do, or what was hurt, yours are hurt again, it00:25:20
started if let’s work for the00:25:23
peg, you’ll see that there’s nothing wrong and00:25:25
choice were you in it my command of an00:25:28
impossible desire basically what happened00:25:33
next what would have been great good what didn’t00:25:35
happen this is our cat this is this00:25:41
this is best if not then it00:25:44
offers you look let’s try to00:25:48
reprogram it if you00:25:49
come home you see such a situation00:25:52
let’s say I have some other heap of00:25:55
how can I give a reaction00:25:58
to say that in such a situation when00:26:02
I see that the house has not been cleaned, it means that00:26:06
my wife was very busy, but in00:26:10
fact she really wanted to clean it and it is00:26:14
precisely the fact that the house was not chosen this is00:26:17
basically an indicator that she00:26:19
is in a large, small location, a00:26:22
lot of problems have accumulated at the00:26:25
same time and therefore she cannot remove it00:26:28
even there. I suggested this is the first thing that00:26:30
just came to my mind out of dozens,00:26:33
maybe even hundreds, and the solution is like everyone else00:26:35
it programs our us more our00:26:37
relationships because it’s happening, it’s00:26:39
great, it’s good, but it requires and00:26:41
requires coaching, it requires that someone00:26:44
worked with us or we ourselves require to00:26:47
strengthen it again, we need to need00:26:49
lethargy, that is, we need to need to repeat again and00:26:51
again and repeating again00:26:56
this is one opportunity which now what00:26:59
else can you offer00:27:02
what else can you offer an interesting00:27:06
interesting approach too, it is often often00:27:10
you when we talk about our mission bench press with my00:27:12
wife before in caramel in classes with the00:27:17
female side it is somehow an action00:27:19
to listen to your husband your dear men00:27:24
why did she bring you to marry because00:27:26
you are beautiful right but very good00:27:28
now I ask you to go to the mirror and00:27:33
make an angry face you have this00:27:36
you know what it is you understand what this one00:27:38
look what you look like and00:27:40
with your hair everything is normal00:27:42
erase what kind of face00:27:43
how much and you come across how much00:27:46
unpleasant the same Janusz we look00:27:53
very unsightly then we get angry and00:27:57
this is only the external side00:28:00
this is one second thing when we get angry00:28:03
the principle that we have revealed00:28:04
we reveal the lowest sides of our00:28:07
personality that small I think00:28:10
some some absolutely obviously this is a00:28:14
man with a capital P, you can’t call us the00:28:17
moment of this anger this is not a mouse then we’ll00:28:24
just slide like this00:28:28
by the way what do we look like Katya’s eyes00:28:31
the key tell me how we know this00:28:34
she’s the type of everyone look at the people who are00:28:36
angry where it’s funny meeting them00:28:39
is sometimes a burden00:28:41
it’s hard to even restrain myself from00:28:45
not making a difference, I remember the situation, I remember00:28:49
the situation as it was in the Soviet Union 3500:28:53
to forty years ago, I don’t remember00:28:55
when when the change in the eyes of the night00:28:59
was going on, a young couple was not their uncle, we’ll win, but00:29:02
I understand who was in the army a00:29:05
bottle of a drunkard like that and suddenly it was there in the00:29:08
middle of the hole, this bottle falls and00:29:11
breaks itself from it is impossible to00:29:14
imagine how this suddenly he fell,00:29:16
how he would begin to say that he spoke with00:29:18
their words, how much is it so simple,00:29:21
this man is suffering instead of the00:29:24
cudgel in the hall and the war on Donbass and00:29:26
inflict I feel like we just00:29:28
couldn’t help but laugh00:29:31
when we start to get angry it’s just00:29:34
in a hurry we look terrible00:29:39
like well let’s get together now00:29:41
let’s now stand in front of the mirror and00:29:45
try until soon00:29:47
the prosecutor’s office should go through their head and how we00:29:49
look to us and service how we are what an00:29:52
impression terrible we make how we are00:29:55
just just a person lilac live with hiv00:29:58
glasses all my life somehow hide from00:30:02
other people who he really is00:30:04
and what anger does it completely00:30:07
reveals all our stupidity our00:30:09
pettiness may be worth it00:30:15
work on this, dear friends, there are00:30:18
many many other00:30:20
possibilities,00:30:21
what else can you prepare yourself for?00:30:37
like this letter is against00:30:39
us and someone read it to us, they want to plant00:30:43
something, they want to arrange something, this is not an00:30:50
exception to the rule, but in principle, in00:30:53
general, all this is a case when those00:30:56
cases when the00:30:57
people who are brought to make us angry even they have00:31:01
nothing against it we didn’t have00:31:03
if only we were just a little bit in the00:31:05
head to look for us, we’ll go through all this, we’ll00:31:07
try to take his place, in principle,00:31:09
we would behave exactly the same as and00:31:13
therefore what needs to be done therefore we need00:31:15
this veto, skip this, prepare yourself still more still00:31:18
more00:31:19
vitar additional very important and00:31:23
some element that can00:31:26
help us in overcoming anger, naturally00:31:29
we as people are just like in Hebrew to the00:31:32
position of a person in one I00:31:34
always remember that we should not take out anger on00:31:37
other people, that is, if we are already00:31:38
angry at the chest of drawers similar to Scott object00:31:40
at work the00:31:42
boss that day the authorities came00:31:44
home and are upset at our loved ones for the00:31:49
state of everything, don’t come to me, everyone is00:31:53
now on the stock exchange, he’s angry with me, he’s like a00:31:57
lamb everywhere00:31:59
[music]00:32:02
God, there’s no one at all, why00:32:08
should everyone suffer from these attacks of anger at00:32:11
home? eat, don’t shoot at your own00:32:14
listen, don’t shoot at your own days00:32:18
amplifier, have courage, were00:32:21
they carrying anger, so you, another one of our00:32:26
time has already ended and is ending,00:32:28
nevertheless, we’ll tell you, I’ve seen it00:32:31
several times and a good result from00:32:36
good advice should not know where00:32:38
it comes from psy cold maybe just because of00:32:41
other things he said try to00:32:43
write write write that is, you have00:32:47
some kind of trouble hidden against00:32:50
someone and it provokes anger not00:32:54
only at him but also in general creates an00:32:56
atmosphere in the absence00:32:57
and write him a letter he doesn’t need to00:33:00
send no one should see these00:33:02
letters at all, no one but write or even00:33:08
speak out loud record yourself then00:33:10
erase the cone is written in and we can then00:33:13
also immediately destroy00:33:16
several times I saw cases when00:33:19
this helped people a lot, or, among other00:33:22
things, all sorts of different00:33:24
patents that00:33:25
stop yourself pinch yourself go out there00:33:30
for a walk and also know all this that it’s00:33:35
just a patent it’s somehow to shift00:33:38
shift attention to something else I00:33:44
heard that it helps me it seems like a00:33:46
good idea to say it out loud I’m00:33:50
angry00:33:51
say about say what’s inside you00:33:55
hearts,00:33:56
this too, in one sense, move from00:34:00
internal sensations, it also works00:34:02
very effectively, it may turn out to be cramped for00:34:05
someone and a sense of humor helps a lot to00:34:08
somehow remove this, these feelings are true then00:34:12
to dear friends the topic,00:34:14
this topic is very unfortunate, I cannot00:34:16
cover it completely much 10000:34:19
components of time our days cards00:34:22
have come to an end to the other hand I’m handing over to you00:34:25
the phone of this00:34:29
roman sorma thank you I just hope that00:34:31
I will have a stable connection and00:34:33
it will be possible to write off everything smoothly I received00:34:37
a lot of questions from our00:34:40
vessel listeners the solution I will read out the questions there are00:34:46
two questions quite similar if possible00:34:48
I’ll combine the00:34:50
first one I came from which rolled around00:34:53
Russia, she asks the following question: what is the00:34:55
best thing to do in the case when00:34:58
another person, other people, deliberately00:35:00
provoke you into angry emotions, that is, they00:35:03
provoke how to resist and00:35:05
ask for such contact correctly,00:35:09
thank you in advance and Nikita from00:35:12
Kyrgyzstan from Bishkek asked us a00:35:15
question: how can you stop anger or00:35:16
other negative emotions from your interlocutor,00:35:19
yes, that is, when the conversation turns into00:35:23
such notes and how these 2 people00:35:27
provoke it, how you can fight this and00:35:29
how to correctly handle two different questions,00:35:33
yes, I’ll start the crush with the last question00:35:36
one hare if possible I want to see these00:35:39
questions send a00:35:42
second question when you see a person00:35:44
who is angry you feel that this I do00:35:46
n’t know maybe something bad will end00:35:52
ask him00:35:55
himself an amazing question tell the00:35:59
knockout service00:36:01
pay attention again who are you00:36:05
angry in principle the person who was00:36:08
basking there he's really angry with someone00:36:10
you want to put it out in it how00:36:13
can you put it out let's release this00:36:15
park how can you release this00:36:17
ask around just smile at someone00:36:20
ema service how do you say that is in other00:36:22
words you release this park don't00:36:25
be scared but 1 nation will really00:36:28
more than the conclusion of that to the world of a physicist00:36:30
for a certain time, suddenly he00:36:32
for say is being conducted less and less00:36:34
why because in the abyss on someone00:36:36
the service suggests that you00:36:39
understand me, it really is appropriate00:36:42
that that’s all I’m angry and let’s00:36:48
limit ourselves to one small with this answer,00:36:51
although here you can expand on this more,00:36:53
as for the first question, this is00:36:57
also the case when another00:37:00
person deliberately introduces himself to anger00:37:02
into emotions, let's divide this into 200:37:04
situations, we have already mentioned00:37:08
one of the reasons for anger, let's00:37:12
define it as with the title and00:37:16
did it on purpose this is a special difficulty we00:37:26
can’t even in this situation as00:37:27
Katya describes I don’t know who Monaco00:37:30
let’s give more Odessa 10 10 times let00:37:33
’s think about it we really make00:37:36
sense they really want to make us angry00:37:38
or is this our personal perception and in00:37:42
most cases you need to know that people00:37:45
who even they say in some00:37:48
provocative way in some way they00:37:50
do it because it’s not culture from them00:37:54
they don’t want us specifically to00:37:58
anger specifically against they will start to have00:38:00
they say if you in a very unpleasant00:38:03
way really provoke 12 this00:38:05
feeling I have is possible that there is nothing00:38:08
against us by them when they specifically00:38:11
display they don’t display on a special00:38:14
window00:38:17
this is in most cases now what00:38:21
happens if there are such people yes I don’t00:38:25
even remember there is practically no00:38:28
code but I remember there were such people of dust00:38:30
whites who really were00:38:32
killed for and their personality from an00:38:35
inferiority complex and she wants to00:38:39
annoy someone they want to00:38:40
really get themselves out of there00:38:42
so what to do what to do in00:38:47
such a situation is best to00:38:51
mirror how let this technique00:38:53
is tested and which has developed very00:38:57
well in modern psychology is not to00:39:01
answer him to the point as it is but00:39:04
just as you sympathize with his emotions00:39:11
that he is screaming there, he says a00:39:17
claim, you are such and such an Adam's apple and you00:39:19
would just like that and docty and this is Megara y, so00:39:24
it felt like repeating the end of00:39:27
his sentence, what is unnecessary here it is00:39:29
impossible to explain how this technique00:39:31
works, go take it, rejected you00:39:33
don’t feel it, so you will find a lot of00:39:35
details on how this can be done,00:39:38
but in principle, as much time as you00:39:40
just react with understanding00:39:43
to his anger, his attempt, and at the same time00:39:46
not anger at all, these in themselves, you00:39:48
will see that after00:39:49
one of attempts 2 attempts 3 you will see that00:39:52
he will simply stop seeing that00:39:54
it does not work and it will not work00:39:57
not only now this is the right approach so00:40:00
that he lines you up next time00:40:02
they don’t start trying again00:40:04
because you will see that it does not work with you00:40:06
all the best00:40:10
a little idol in response yes yes thank you00:40:16
there are a few more questions two of them00:40:20
again they seem similar to me00:40:24
maybe you won’t agree00:40:25
I’ll finish reading and so she from Kaliningrad00:40:29
asks us if there is such a thing as00:40:31
holy anger or righteous anger and in what00:40:33
cases it happens and how he sees the golden00:40:35
mean and Andrey from Moscow asked00:40:37
if anger is good when I’m angry I00:40:40
justify myself that it’s a necessity00:40:44
look again these are similar questions but00:40:47
they are different and the second question the second question00:40:53
1 asks if there is moisture in anger let’s00:40:56
answer in a simple way no now no00:41:03
in order not to give people a reason to00:41:05
justify their line, but in fact00:41:07
there is this very day,00:41:12
you see, if the creator created00:41:15
something in this world,00:41:16
then there is no such thing that it was only for the00:41:19
layer, it must be for for good, I will give an00:41:23
example of everything very simply there is anger00:41:25
that is heard I didn’t understand but very00:41:27
useful beautiful you even pronounce00:41:31
in front of with a new one we don’t pay attention to00:41:35
this interesting phrase the mess00:41:37
regnum in antique became00:41:40
what was said we repeat there the teeth of00:41:42
these sticking out chicken translated into00:41:46
Russian about being angry and not and not do00:41:52
crush sin and do not give. on the other hand,00:41:56
the judge is not afraid, or even he himself, and the meaning is00:42:01
very simple, and when we say and00:42:04
the order is00:42:05
there, yes, that you will be angry with the00:42:07
new one, you will be very angry with us, the elective00:42:10
beginning of your anger, and for this you00:42:13
are given a feeling of anger00:42:15
if you endure yourself, you simply cannot00:42:19
do it sin to listen sometimes pulls00:42:22
stretches a person pulls pulled up where00:42:25
such for something for something pleasant whale00:42:26
buttons make some what is missing00:42:29
lacking that you are the very feeling of00:42:32
anger that is righteous which should00:42:35
be in fact we don’t use it in the00:42:37
address we should use it in the address00:42:40
are needed on ourselves and not on other people to00:42:42
peck at ourselves like how could I like me if00:42:46
we do ourselves this is a wonderful00:42:49
feeling it removes sin from our I will order00:42:52
va artist00:42:53
this is what concerns righteous anger with00:42:58
the righteous I will add another very important thing which00:43:02
concerns wrong anger in general about00:43:04
what and how we express anger, anger00:43:07
should be with us just00:43:09
like anger and externally, for example,00:43:13
I need raising children because we00:43:17
can’t punish him,00:43:19
it’s necessary and with a face like that00:43:22
you smile, but it just won’t work,00:43:24
so you have to to learn at the moment00:43:28
when, in fact, there is anger inside the heart, it’s00:43:30
not the child who played a prank, there’s nothing wrong,00:43:33
I added even worse, but00:43:37
my face should be very00:43:39
gloomy for angry ones so that the child is00:43:43
serious, in a sense, there is a mask,00:43:47
right,00:43:48
this is the first question, the second question that was00:43:51
asked00:43:55
I already missed him fight I will read before00:44:03
read it was portrayed that I suddenly suddenly00:44:05
he jumped out ok we had two00:44:08
questions if holy anger righteous anger00:44:09
from some cases a lot of this how to see the00:44:11
golden mean and 2 is anger for00:44:14
good when I I’m angry, I’m justifying myself,00:44:17
that this is a necessity, oh, this is when a00:44:21
person himself reveals that when I’m00:44:23
angry, I justify myself, the need to justify myself, that’s right,00:44:26
so to speak, and revealed00:44:31
that he’s also only angry, that00:44:36
this violation of all the whitewashing of the sages does00:44:40
not justify itself you don’t need to00:44:42
justify yourself, on the contrary, you need to do something like00:44:45
this and they listed it, take a closer look00:44:49
at what reason it might be possible to00:44:51
change the murashi, you need to prepare, stand00:44:54
near the mirror and everyone with ears00:44:56
was listed in no case do you justify this to yourself,00:44:59
otherwise your justification will come to the fact that00:45:01
next time you will continue00:45:03
with confidence the same thing continues the00:45:08
same procedures days become no00:45:12
need to do this00:45:15
yes thank you very much again I’m trying to00:45:19
group the questions because there are a00:45:21
lot of them and it seems to me the trace is similar but00:45:23
most likely you will say there are different00:45:25
different questions you group asks00:45:33
us Daniel from Odessa00:45:35
what to do when your wife gets angry how00:45:37
should the service thymus what are the00:45:39
features and fat here he also asks hello00:45:42
thank you questions00:45:45
please tell me how to behave with a teenager00:45:47
who often gets angry and does it00:45:50
very emotionally what is the correct thing to do at this00:45:52
moment thanks to Dana that is,00:45:54
the family will give the family what00:45:56
special special here you will understand me about what00:46:02
and how to react to a fatty as if wine00:46:05
on on on on a teenager00:46:06
different principles somewhere in the same area but00:46:10
connections from each other of different parties of course there it is00:46:13
in Moscow yes yes we will do it in oil00:46:14
questions Lada eraser let's combine these00:46:18
questions, look, as for the wife,00:46:20
there is no definite answer because00:46:24
here you need to understand what kind of wife is because the00:46:29
wife is as much as John, apparently there are so many00:46:33
ways and she, as it were, and her father, exhortation00:46:37
1 likes to hang around there so that she is there00:46:41
on your knees00:46:43
practically, yes, here you are, knees,00:46:45
ask for forgiveness, the other loves that its00:46:48
simplicity to say 300 times will get tired of the Kazakhs, I00:46:51
apologize and 4 need to be finished,00:46:55
to be silent and in a new way it is known so that the00:46:58
workers don’t figure it out with a tambourine student, you00:47:02
’re asking, yes, I don’t know what kind of wife00:47:06
from Odessa they got there, but00:47:08
try understand that you can calm her down,00:47:11
satisfy her, so I can give you00:47:13
general advice, but I would like to add something to it00:47:16
directly in your life, but on the other00:47:19
hand, we see that there are patents that are00:47:22
quite universal, for example, in00:47:29
one situation when the wife was hammering and the husband00:47:32
realized that the matter was serious format00:47:35
pouring into the present pour in what00:47:37
he did, he seemed to go out quietly calmly00:47:41
into the kitchen or there on the rock of the Russian00:47:43
pantry, he didn’t take a mop in his hands, money and a00:47:51
bucket on his head and took the lid from a big one00:47:57
from a pan a big officer he00:48:01
dressed you know how how how a knight00:48:04
who has something to say, to say otherwise, suddenly00:48:07
appeared in this USSR robe on his head with00:48:10
and it was very service, she didn’t see him, he00:48:13
came in some kind of you want to fight with me00:48:15
until you want a war for a duel00:48:18
on you this is income and yes she laughed and00:48:23
now can being different, like in a fit of00:48:25
anger, will not be able00:48:27
to exchange this, but it just00:48:29
completely stopped the tension between them00:48:32
or, on the contrary, it will bring even00:48:36
closer together the feeling of being in can really00:48:40
help in such a situation, tell me00:48:42
now that for another hour I energetically admit that the00:48:45
wife wants to be understood that she was00:48:48
accepted, that to the right of the prince,00:48:50
what does she want, doesn’t it’s hard, why aren’t you00:48:54
listening to me, for something you don’t00:48:57
understand me, as soon as the husband leaves00:49:01
his all, so you buy these telephone00:49:05
classes for all men00:49:06
and listen to it, she’s already showing up00:49:09
now, well, who was told what00:49:11
patent personally to you, I already have this, you yourself00:49:13
will consider what works in your case,00:49:16
but there is, on the contrary,00:49:18
chona wants to achieve by shouting on the contrary that00:49:21
you otherwise, loving Wanda, so that in00:49:23
the end they are together so that00:49:27
they don’t understand, so let’s make sure that the cells00:49:30
are not unnecessary and really find a00:49:35
way like this calm down, persuade your wife to go00:49:38
to the funnel and great, it will be00:49:40
better than now, as for a teenager, it’s00:49:44
completely garbuk, it’s very00:49:45
very difficult, it’s almost necessary00:49:49
to learn this under, you need00:49:51
iron patience, how to blame this one00:49:54
to react and it’s best00:49:58
not to react at all, because any00:50:00
word this is just to add even more how to00:50:03
find how to find a gasoline car you need to00:50:10
figure out what the situation is what the00:50:12
reason is that again it is very difficult to00:50:14
add general recommendations00:50:15
but in general when this happens a child00:50:18
loses control of the mind not an adult is not00:50:20
able to not be able to himself cambray00:50:22
spring when he ours gets into it to00:50:25
try to remain silent not to provoke him there is00:50:28
nothing to give understanding that you00:50:30
understand maybe not to give00:50:32
legitimacy to what is happening based on the00:50:34
facts that you understand specifically for00:50:36
this reason that happened the most00:50:38
petty thing which is not to dispute00:50:40
or that is about the fact that for example,00:50:42
he can simply raise a scandal00:50:44
because there is half a cutlet and his sister00:50:48
stole from him and he just gets out of00:50:51
it and screams at him in the sun, you don’t00:50:53
understand at this age and yes, yes, it00:50:57
means a lot to not fully support your00:51:00
chairman for such a thing feelings of something00:51:02
or a claim in it nothing bad is not00:51:05
natural so that it is important how everything is already00:51:10
with you, that is, when the anger has passed, don’t00:51:11
leave it just in the evening when00:51:14
everything has completely passed as by the way00:51:16
talk about Santa, you know,00:51:18
remember what happened, what’s wrong, it doesn’t00:51:20
hurt so much yes say what you00:51:24
think, that’s what it was worth, it was worth it from cutlets,00:51:26
but this is just from heart to heart00:51:32
without pretensions to study in a recipe without00:51:35
pretensions without on a sedan and without everything00:51:37
just so that you don’t go away from love and you00:51:41
will see that when, over time,00:51:44
even something00:51:45
similar can happen reaction she she she she she00:51:48
she will gradually go away00:51:51
this is the answer to you another ziv yes thank you we are00:51:57
asked shole also from the same series of00:52:00
family we are family questions you will say00:52:04
only this is appropriate the same answer or there00:52:06
should be a different answer if the husband00:52:08
is angry at the children at the table how should a00:52:10
wife react correctly ask her00:52:12
husband not to yell indicate to make it00:52:15
larger in front of everyone to remain silent means00:52:17
to give the go-ahead for an emotional outburst yes what is00:52:21
correct national violence how to00:52:24
be like an achievement this is an additional00:52:27
question I want the regime to be important many many00:52:29
face this it is not necessarily the00:52:32
husband it can be the wife when one00:52:35
turned out to be calm and reasonable and00:52:37
the other is completely lower, don’t hold back,00:52:39
lost control,00:52:40
what to do, that is, calmly00:52:43
suffers a lot from this, why does he see this00:52:45
picture, it’s terrible, it’s unfair, it’s00:52:48
crippling, he sees these consequences, it’s terrible, what to do, nothing to do, that is,00:52:55
nothing what00:52:58
do at the moment when it happens the00:53:00
moment when it happens if you hurt00:53:04
you just even more00:53:06
and as you said add fuel to the fire00:53:09
and if you remain silent then it wo00:53:15
n’t change anything you00:53:20
need to know one simple thing at the00:53:23
moment when it happens at the moment00:53:25
when it happens the husband or the wife00:53:29
completely loses their head they don’t carry the robot00:53:31
they express everything they feel there is00:53:34
no control there at this moment does not00:53:36
say not to discuss nothing nothing helped00:53:40
nothing will not help what to do that is, that00:53:44
is, if you are afraid that00:53:47
silence is a kind of confirmation as we00:53:51
said,00:53:52
the alternative is the same, but for us it’s even worse, what00:53:56
makes it worse because let him turn off00:54:00
please now after he has already00:54:05
behaved like he left,00:54:06
gain strength to endure all of this to00:54:09
the end, but only if it’s so00:54:13
difficult for you, it’s so hard to endure it,00:54:16
here’s how as soon as he calms down and from here00:54:21
onwards you can get hooked on only they have00:54:24
children present for this guy here00:54:27
or I know where the friend’s place and the children are with the dogs00:54:30
as soon as all this ends you can00:54:33
arrange a dark one for him if00:54:37
and and he will not restrain himself at all about that00:54:40
moment when he is restrained please open00:54:42
your mouth, tell your husband everything you think about him00:54:45
in such a situation of the heart, that you00:54:48
also need this within a reasonable framework so as not to00:54:50
argue about just a relationship, you still have a00:54:51
husband to let him understand and somehow have a00:54:55
direct look on his face that his behavior is00:54:57
completely inappropriate to bring water00:55:00
state until he himself says00:55:03
that you know it was really00:55:05
wrong, although he will naturally,00:55:07
like a man, insist that he is right so-so00:55:10
children should not behave00:55:11
this is not a disorder this is a disgrace00:55:14
at all that he is completely his claims but00:55:17
it was understandable that the screams and his00:55:19
behavior is even worse, only even more00:55:22
reinforced by these unfortunate children00:55:24
who will then grow up, they will pass on these00:55:26
prototypes of behavior00:55:28
and they themselves will become the same. We must be00:55:32
very, very, very afraid and fight00:55:34
to ensure that there are no such explosions in00:55:38
these situations. we must try00:55:41
to fight, yes,00:55:43
thank you very much when we were children, a question from00:55:47
Yulia, who was sent to the region of Ukraine, if a00:55:51
person has learned over the years not to pour out00:55:53
anger on those around us, we keep everything in you, there are00:55:55
certain life troubles,00:55:58
yes, she has learned not to lash out at children; you00:56:01
feel that you are being destroyed on the00:56:03
sly inside keeps everything to himself,00:56:05
how can a person not destroy himself in such a00:56:08
situation? 3 very good question,00:56:12
excellent question, yes, that is, we say00:56:14
that giving and restraining yourself is like00:56:20
general wishes, let’s restrain ourselves,00:56:22
but how can this be done and who00:56:25
listened to our lesson themselves began and00:56:27
grow approach, it is not like that, we are working on the00:56:30
quality of our arrogance00:56:33
when we understand that anger is00:56:37
called upon me for a single reason that I am an00:56:40
arrogant person, say out loud I am00:56:42
proud and suddenly you will see that there is no reason00:56:45
for someone inside to00:56:47
start a lot of negative and on the contrary,00:56:50
spring is the desire to correct myself, to understand00:56:53
that I am not the center of the world, after all, the donut is00:56:55
the center of the world, to somehow reduce your00:56:57
possibilities of influence, and even on your own00:56:59
children, this is a healthy path, it does not create00:57:06
any revolution inside the belly 3 who have not achieved anything this far00:57:11
it’s really not so00:57:13
easy to find it’s not the same00:57:15
and in such a situation we are wondering if00:57:18
the analysis is generally an interesting sport,00:57:21
do we need to pull it out remember we said00:57:24
that already there they gave00:57:26
something else to beat the pillow until the world themselves understood00:57:29
that before the game a good result is necessary00:57:32
when I have accumulated anger or00:57:35
some kind of stress, some kind of abel needs to00:57:39
be thrown out or kept inside an00:57:43
interesting approach we find two00:57:45
sources we have 1 it is said that Dagaya00:57:49
hurts fishies efi00:57:50
that if there is inside naturally, that is,00:57:54
longing must be said and others are pure I00:57:56
say that it is not necessary to remain silent, a person00:57:58
must be a man of will and and he00:58:01
should not pester his feelings and thinner00:58:04
as this is in addition to the concept when it is very00:58:08
strong in our soul I have already brought00:58:12
harm there, go to a friend, someone should be00:58:16
called a person of your secret00:58:18
that others doesn’t tell let’s fly out00:58:22
no pay money 9 pour out or00:58:25
psychologist no money no girlfriend00:58:29
write write or just talk00:58:32
talk about the microphone write down00:58:35
then those posters still still still00:58:38
in my opinion write we’ll still sew and00:58:40
write write write write write write you00:58:43
will see that you don’t have only the anger will not gather00:58:45
inside your soul, it was you suddenly00:58:48
see your children who are so book and00:58:52
TV cooled down another perspective,00:58:55
try to give and we know00:58:58
success, thank you very much for everything,00:59:02
literally the last two sharp questions00:59:05
asks Nora from Moscow,00:59:07
please answer how to manage anger00:59:09
when a person has hormonal00:59:12
imbalance and it’s very difficult to cure, but00:59:15
what should I do then I’m like a powder keg,00:59:17
please help with advice, doctors00:59:19
can’t hate myself on certain days00:59:22
wearable00:59:23
question is a delicate one, please help,00:59:25
maybe there is some advice,00:59:27
spiritually arranged in such a situation, medicines are00:59:29
a little expensive in the rm and all the advice is already00:59:32
more or less in general to say touched upon00:59:35
listed for action they listened you00:59:38
heard listen something may be00:59:40
in tune with you maybe something can help in00:59:42
general when we said that you remember00:59:45
this we always add a nickname to the situation from the00:59:48
days. people in it and people began to live, the00:59:52
rottenness of everyone is done in the same way, not or00:59:54
the most different levels, as always, the pyramids00:59:58
have something to find on both sides, you01:00:04
just got into the exception to the rule, you did01:00:06
n’t correct it, be barely mentioned about01:00:10
which everything we say is less01:00:12
relate to why yes there is such a thing01:00:15
about that there is and hormonal01:00:18
influence there are initial conditions they are01:00:24
much much much much lower than01:00:26
everyone else that is, that is, in order to01:00:29
get angry it takes an irritant of the01:00:32
city of the city of the glitch less than I studied01:00:34
will not notice it they are already irritated01:00:36
there is such a set irritates, breaks down01:00:41
Fouquet, there are still many such01:00:44
deviations,01:00:46
it is impossible that the objective ones that are01:00:49
stop say mountains of harmony,01:00:51
hormonal imbalance,01:00:53
which can be given to collect my advice,01:00:55
look, this must be treated, it is necessary not to01:00:59
despair, the butt should be treated purely01:01:01
physiologically, that is, do not despair, it is quite01:01:04
possible that it is possible to find01:01:06
what -the solution with the hormone dice is a day of01:01:09
imbalance; secondly, you need to turn to01:01:13
experienced psychologists who have been tested and01:01:16
who are already01:01:19
acquainted with the situation and he has already helped01:01:22
someone recommended here, you need01:01:25
some kind of training, wetter again,01:01:28
train again on how to deal with a01:01:29
specific phenomenon that01:01:32
specifically inserts you then you should be prepared in01:01:37
advance01:01:38
for all these situations, then it is01:01:40
possible that you will be more restrained in01:01:43
this reaction,01:01:44
but to leave it as you are, to be a01:01:46
powder keg, I01:01:48
highly highly recommend it’s great that you01:01:50
wrote, it’s01:01:51
good that you want to fight for your01:01:54
life, continue this is very, very towering01:01:57
it means that once it’s spoiled to live in a symbol, there’s01:01:59
probably something else hiding behind01:02:01
this powder keg, you01:02:03
have to try to somehow get it out01:02:05
of there in order to learn to live a normal01:02:09
spiritual life,01:02:11
human life has already been pressed01:02:13
good without without without explosions it’s still a01:02:20
big rashid and probably today01:02:22
written today already the last question01:02:24
Sergei asks how to correct the01:02:27
consequences of anger, just you are01:02:30
before God on a spiritual level, how can you01:02:34
correct the consequences of anger in front of the01:02:40
victim, visible in his in the survey01:02:42
in his specific question, recognition in front of the01:02:44
victim, apparently a victim of his01:02:46
anger, unfortunately Sergei asked you did01:02:49
not clarify the confession to the01:02:52
victim, it threatens with severe punishment, that01:02:54
is, to approach the victim himself in order to01:02:55
somehow make peace with him, to confess,01:02:56
apparently this is not an option in this case, as01:02:59
in principle it is necessary to atone, correct the01:03:03
consequences of anger, and specifically, maybe01:03:05
in a specific example, Sergey, thank you, since01:03:09
this is not such a simple question, we have01:03:13
no other patents besides love, we have any01:03:16
virtual approach, as it were, the01:03:17
Jewish correction of one’s01:03:20
actions with any doubt in the anger01:03:26
that exists, let’s go through these, it gives01:03:29
water to 10, each of us knows about the01:03:33
imaginary, the first stage is awareness of sin,01:03:36
the fact that I I was angry, it was01:03:38
not my fault, I caused great01:03:42
displeasure to another person, this is the01:03:44
first stage in the second stage, but I must01:03:47
correct my act if it is possible,01:03:49
suddenly it turns out that he writes that01:03:52
confessing to the victim threatens with01:03:54
severe punishment, you need to figure it out, you need to01:03:57
ask a more specific question so that01:03:59
he can explain what kind of punishment as a01:04:01
punishment what is hidden behind this we will in01:04:03
general just say that any01:04:06
doubt is complete forelock, this is when a01:04:07
person can correct his wrongdoing,01:04:11
this is what we say about the fact that alterations are01:04:14
boring, that the relationship between man and01:04:17
God, but God will forgive maybe maybe01:04:21
be does not forgive anything but there is a01:04:23
condition under which this can be erased01:04:25
into the relationship between a person and a person it is01:04:27
impossible to forgive yom kippur will not help01:04:30
until we make peace with this which is why01:04:33
since we are talking about both words01:04:38
and chewing anger at another person this01:04:40
apparently did not give him any01:04:43
displeasure until01:04:47
peace was established between them, also01:04:50
tell him about the worm01:04:52
vegetation than I can be in this01:04:56
situation, this is still the way when a01:05:02
person takes it upon himself to no longer be01:05:04
angry casting is satisfied now man 301:05:06
forelock steps of how we recognized the01:05:10
days after we corrected the anger01:05:13
televised address made peace and now01:05:15
comes called as making a01:05:18
commitment to the future I will no longer be01:05:21
angry01:05:22
next to what else needs to be done01:05:26
and before that I apologize Stella this is01:05:28
called Bharata that is when a person01:05:32
gets upset when he feels01:05:35
almost to his kidneys how it hurts him01:05:38
that oh oh why did he do it for some reason did it, that01:05:39
is, it is very important to be01:05:41
very upset to01:05:47
take it to heart very why this matter why did he01:05:51
do it why fire he is a person who01:05:55
regrets that it was, it kind of erases the01:06:00
desire to do the subsequent ones plus to the swamps of the01:06:04
Latin alphabet when we accept01:06:05
the obligation not to do this anymore and01:06:07
plus also to say01:06:09
verbally to the mind and is called about what went on01:06:12
otherwise you say it’s sad before God01:06:14
reflected the real I I did this It’s a sin,01:06:18
I’m not going to do it anymore and it’s01:06:20
natural that this too can01:06:23
work, but what exactly01:06:26
happens only when we put up01:06:29
with this person, dear friends, our topic,01:06:33
unfortunately, it’s not iherb analysis, there are01:06:37
probably a lot of questions, I really, really01:06:40
ask you not to be angry with me that the people of the01:06:42
Virgin that we managed to cover all all these01:06:45
issues without a town hall if so much01:06:48
residence is walled up again it’s worth01:06:50
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