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podcast where we have zero Today my00:00:03
guest is again Anton Makhnovsky NLP00:00:06
trainer and YouTube blogger this time Anton00:00:08
will tell us about social engineering,00:00:10
gaslighting, other types of schizophrenia,00:00:13
gene manipulation and how to protect yourself from all this,00:00:16
we will also discuss the psychology of00:00:19
emotions and emotional hygiene and how not to00:00:21
fall for provocations and get out of00:00:24
disputes that are not interesting to you If you want to00:00:26
support the podcast, then you can do00:00:28
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be sure that we will stay00:00:35
in touch and now Wherever you weren’t,00:00:37
get comfortable and enjoy the00:00:39
podcast, enjoy watching and00:00:42
listening, but if we return again to00:00:44
manipulation techniques and we didn’t00:00:47
agree, there are some basic ones.00:00:49
Let’s remember Let’s remember we00:00:51
talked about open gestalts about00:00:53
hanging techniques we talked about00:00:55
splitting we talked about creation of00:00:58
metal conflicts overload of00:01:00
suspension, what else can be added here,00:01:06
you can look, if for example we take00:01:09
a topic called schizophrenogenic00:01:12
patterns. It includes all the techniques of00:01:15
psychological violence, which00:01:16
can also be found if desired. And in the00:01:19
media, that is, the mechanics are the same, but00:01:22
if these mechanics are broken for a special00:01:26
case, let’s say I need to drink00:01:28
another person there, or another person00:01:30
splits me during negotiations And I need to00:01:32
fight him back That is, if you don’t know00:01:35
such schizophrenogenic patterns, you’re pretty well off.00:01:38
Well, in serious negotiations you will be00:01:42
eaten no matter how smart you are.00:01:45
extinguishes you will be split and you won’t even be able to00:01:48
make a decision or Read the contract,00:01:50
this is a gentleman’s set that is00:01:53
important for you to have in negotiations00:01:55
so that you just don’t float away.00:01:58
Because if at least two people are against you, they00:02:00
can split you even00:02:02
just using a smolt,00:02:06
so if we talk about the schizophrenic gene there are00:02:08
patterns there00:02:09
[music]00:02:11
in my opinion there are five groups based on the principle.00:02:16
There is also gaslighting. For example, I can00:02:19
talk to you and change00:02:22
your perception a little, you just read my thoughts,00:02:24
yes Yes,00:02:25
I thought maybe I’ll ask a question now to00:02:28
go through00:02:29
for sure a special case00:02:33
if we are talking about schizophrenogenic00:02:35
patterns there are00:02:37
mechanics00:02:39
following which you can00:02:41
compose schizophrenogenic patterns yourself based on00:02:43
what you like, for example, a rather00:02:45
crude application00:02:48
if I simply00:02:51
reproduce the symptoms of schizophrenia in you.00:02:54
I say that everything you see is not there00:02:58
and you don’t see what you should see and00:03:02
therefore probably with something is not OK with you and00:03:05
let me help you, I put on a00:03:07
caring mask What’s wrong with you What’s wrong with you00:03:10
Why are you purple May00:03:17
and so on This turns out to be a technique for00:03:19
driving you crazy, roughly speaking, when00:03:22
doubts should appear about you that you00:03:24
still see adequately accordingly, if00:03:27
we are talking about the00:03:31
use of such techniques in the fields, they are00:03:34
naturally not as crude and obvious00:03:38
as we just went through if you00:03:41
change the relationship in general. For example, you00:03:43
talk about something good, I react to it00:03:46
as if you said something00:03:48
bad and so on further on the floor tones That is,00:03:50
if I stay below the radar You00:03:52
will also go crazy But you will not00:03:54
see that this is gaslighting00:03:58
all these schizophrenogenic patterns00:04:02
can be applied, it is important to apply it is important to00:04:05
learn to apply roughly so that00:04:08
you learn to see the undertones when you are being00:04:10
bullied00:04:11
because in relationships, you00:04:15
know, there they can bombard you with love00:04:18
You’re good, you’re like that,00:04:21
I want a little poison Why did you do that and00:04:24
again we look further and look at your00:04:26
reaction if the person who drives00:04:29
you crazy is below the radar, it’s00:04:32
like at first He becomes your friend00:04:35
legalizes everything he says to you and00:04:38
starts dripping poison a little at a time You won’t00:04:42
notice you won’t say it’s coslighting I00:04:47
watched the movie of the year I Oh what an abuser you are00:04:51
narcissists are a psychopath and so on no in00:04:54
practice You will never see and you will00:04:57
never prove that it was00:04:59
a person who would just say that well, these are my00:05:01
reactions. Yes, from your experience,00:05:04
gaslighting is interesting - it’s more often really00:05:06
unconsciously people are playing tricks, or more often they00:05:08
purposefully look somewhere, that is, this is how it is00:05:11
in negotiations. Especially about big00:05:15
money, this is no longer a conscious00:05:18
competence, that is, who is involved these00:05:21
things are people who have their own00:05:23
narcissistic injuries and who00:05:26
cannot communicate in any other way based on the fact00:05:28
that this is how they are all other00:05:31
food and must be eaten, this is a pathology,00:05:34
these are people, for example, who simply00:05:36
learned and do not know how to do otherwise if my00:05:38
parents well, they were like that. Most likely, I00:05:40
will try00:05:42
to build relationships in much the same way, or maybe00:05:44
just at work, there are people who in00:05:46
negotiations simply proceed from the fact that00:05:49
next to them there are always people of such an00:05:52
antisocial type of00:05:54
personality00:05:55
and they don’t talk differently, they00:05:58
learn to behave just like that,00:06:01
you come to a person and after 1000:06:04
minutes you consider yourself a nonentity and00:06:06
you don’t understand anything and don’t understand how00:06:07
it happened, all the schizophrenogenic00:06:10
patterns You know Why do you00:06:12
feel like that, you don’t understand, you start00:06:14
to look closely00:06:15
here he somehow00:06:18
played facial expressions here in an interesting way he somehow00:06:20
got involved in you here he paused a little00:06:22
and so on you begin to00:06:23
isolate this in semi-tones, you were00:06:26
looking for gaslighting this is like this is the first Yes,00:06:29
because of the basic patterns Yes, I would00:06:32
say this is one of the last, that is, and00:06:34
you said five from the category yes Again,00:06:37
families, you know how this applies to00:06:40
families Yes, this is a family00:06:43
based on the destruction of00:06:46
feedback, that is,00:06:48
How feedback works, I draw a00:06:51
conclusion about my adequacy, whether I00:06:55
understood something correctly or incorrectly, based00:06:57
on your reaction, I complete the00:07:00
feedback loop For example, I say something,00:07:02
I see a response in you that you understand, I00:07:06
agree with this, I look at you like in00:07:08
a mirror,00:07:09
and if you00:07:11
distort this answer, If you00:07:15
build other reactions in there, Or00:07:17
let’s let you fail my reactions00:07:20
that I was hoping for, I’ll start a little00:07:22
go crazy I'll start a little you will00:07:24
destroy my feedback that is,00:07:27
well, in my opinion, the fifth family I wo00:07:30
n't reproduce them all now probably which is00:07:32
based on the destruction of feedback00:07:34
if roughly in another way the destruction of00:07:36
feedback everything that you see does not00:07:39
matter You you don’t see everything that you00:07:42
understand You are mistaken Everything you00:07:44
heard You were mistaken00:07:46
I kill00:07:49
everything I discredit all sources of00:07:52
information for you and you00:07:55
begin to develop Maybe I have a really bad memory I may have00:07:57
something else like that I don’t have a past Everything00:08:00
you thought you have it was you who came up with00:08:03
everything that you are thinking now it was imposed on00:08:08
you nonsense00:08:09
all your all your dialogues pictures of the world00:08:12
these are created by other people nonsense in general00:08:16
and a shell You just didn’t check you are00:08:20
gullible everything you believe in What you00:08:23
rely on is a lie and so on All this the00:08:26
fifth one is also gaslighting, it’s not00:08:30
as rude, it’s not as visible as in a00:08:32
film, as a classic, as a classic00:08:35
application, but this is also the destruction of00:08:36
feedback, this is also gaslighting, you’re00:08:39
going crazy because you can’t00:08:41
trust your internal mechanisms of00:08:43
your psyche, your00:08:45
perception, your thinking, your thinking.00:08:49
emotions, what are you thinking, are you calm now?00:08:51
No, are you depressed now, and so on I00:08:54
mean, depressed Well, I see that Well, and00:08:56
so on, the psychologist’s syndrome, we00:08:58
stopped, it turns out the fifth family of00:09:01
gaslighting and what other destruction of00:09:04
feedback yes00:09:06
Well, let’s try to go from the very beginning Let’s go the00:09:13
simplest thing is cocktails, this is00:09:16
a combination of incompatible things,00:09:20
it can be from cocktails from different00:09:22
emotions, it can be anything00:09:25
opposite in direction, let’s say I’m00:09:27
telling you how glad I am to see you, and at the00:09:30
level of facial expressions, I felt00:09:32
disgust for you, and so on. That is, some kind of00:09:34
layered communication two influences00:09:37
opposite in the opposite00:09:39
direction the00:09:42
second moment is not that hanging you00:09:46
For example,00:09:47
I ask you to do something And after00:09:50
that, immediately cutting off I tell you the wrong thing,00:09:53
say something00:09:57
I ask you to say something, how are you? Do00:10:01
n’t wait, I mean tell me really00:10:03
something,00:10:06
you can sway anyone, for example, in00:10:09
this way you can greatly devalue your00:10:11
employees when he comes to you and00:10:15
tries to complete the00:10:17
task you described according to your technical specifications.00:10:20
Well, how can this be? Well, again, Well, again, it’s00:10:22
not the same, but look, but00:10:24
I studied somewhere and then again it’s not that that’s not that that’s00:10:27
not that the person stops trusting himself the00:10:31
person stops himself It’s possible to even00:10:34
respect the person gets lost00:10:37
for example the00:10:38
third option of hanging I start00:10:41
some story by interrupting it start00:10:45
another story by interrupting For example I’m00:10:47
talking about the past imagine For00:10:51
example, remember00:10:53
how it is with you I was broadcasting there with another00:10:57
person00:10:58
and Pay attention if you think about00:11:01
your future meetings about your future00:11:05
work about your future00:11:09
about future broadcasts how you will00:11:12
feel and Pay attention to how you00:11:14
feel now00:11:15
How it feels00:11:17
I just made you go through an experience of00:11:21
three times past future if I00:11:26
talk to you for 10 minutes, constantly00:11:29
dragging you to another time, your00:11:31
brains will get very tired, your brains are cottony,00:11:33
so I can drag you around both00:11:36
in time and for example, metaphors00:11:40
reality, I can talk to you00:11:42
somehow metaphorically Listen, I’m visiting you00:11:44
there’s like a gallery, for example, in a00:11:47
cafe there’s dumpling number one, you go in00:11:50
and there’s a lot of stuff from You’re like00:11:54
dumpling number one, I’m waiting for you there for00:11:57
some confirmation then I start00:11:58
dragging Well, you00:12:01
don’t have dumplings here Where are dumplings anyway, and00:12:04
so on if first you are immersed in00:12:06
some kind of metaphor,00:12:07
I use juicy metaphors that00:12:11
will drag you into dialogue, but for this we00:12:13
just need dialogue in a monologue, it won’t00:12:15
work, I start dragging you in the00:12:18
opposite direction only when I have00:12:19
already included you in one story, I realized00:12:22
this is all one family, this the third00:12:25
family, that is, the first is00:12:27
the opposite, these are two00:12:29
two flows,00:12:32
these are cocktails, the00:12:34
second is hanging, the00:12:36
third is a swing, a00:12:39
swing, for example, it is much easier00:12:42
to do purely facial ones, for example, We are00:12:45
now sitting the same way, we are approximately00:12:47
adjusted to each other, after some time I’ll00:12:50
let it fall off, I’ll wait until your00:12:53
body is on this is to react if you00:12:55
also fall off, I will make00:12:56
a counter move for you00:12:58
so that you don’t think about this if00:13:01
you don’t realize it If you don’t00:13:03
register that I can rock you like that,00:13:05
then most likely it00:13:08
will feel a little worse Or let’s say I turn you on to00:13:10
some interesting story But when you00:13:13
turned on and are waiting for something from me or00:13:16
starts to tell something with interest00:13:18
tell me I get distracted by the phone I00:13:20
start there on the phone yes yes I’m00:13:22
interested talk talk if suddenly you00:13:24
become uninterested in telling me I’ll00:13:27
come back to you So tell me what00:13:29
happened there it’s cool, I00:13:31
love it so much when you tell your00:13:33
stories, I’m so fascinated by his experience and00:13:35
again I’m rocking you, you start00:13:37
sharing something important with something and I00:13:39
fall away from you, starting to get bored again00:13:41
and so on. This greatly devalues you.00:13:46
What else am I? usually Why00:13:49
do they do this by the way like this in order to achieve what00:13:53
Listen in negotiations this is number one so00:13:56
that you are more accommodating they are00:13:59
stupid and00:14:01
easier yes yes00:14:05
you just tell me I remember how00:14:08
some entrepreneurs did this I00:14:09
know some I met like and00:14:12
you know what I noticed one00:14:15
entrepreneur I know00:14:17
Tell a story, you say this is a typical00:14:20
source, he’s like we rarely communicate there I don’t00:14:23
know once a year he says there let’s00:14:24
meet,00:14:26
why not also an entrepreneur00:14:28
can also meet with experience00:14:29
Let’s like uh but I’m asking you00:14:33
something specific or just chat00:14:35
about life there he says Well, about life00:14:36
plus there I’m asking you for advice We come00:14:38
to a meeting and you know the person starts00:14:41
when he’s just happy with you, that is, he’s visible I just come as you00:14:42
know just00:14:44
to chat there what it is and it’s clear from her that he’s00:14:46
prepared You know how it’s like00:14:48
he’s taking a consultation from me, only it00:14:50
turns out for free and with a sauce like00:14:53
Let’s meet as a friend, in00:14:54
fact, he’s there with me, you know, I’m leaving. I’ve00:14:56
loaded 550 questions there and at the same00:15:00
time, Yes, you know, you can start00:15:01
telling me and I noticed her there too00:15:03
you need to take it like this: Like he’s not interested in you00:15:06
now, not just you told me I understand00:15:07
that it seems that00:15:09
many people have such techniques already about deformations, they00:15:13
can’t help but talk, for example, without00:15:16
starting with depreciation,00:15:19
first they, even in everyday life, must lower00:15:23
his self-esteem, they must00:15:26
feel this schizophrenogenic blood00:15:29
on your fangs to understand that you00:15:33
can do something with you, that you are suggestible,00:15:36
this is what is called00:15:38
idiomotor tests. That is, if in00:15:41
hypnosis, motor tests are some kind of00:15:43
tests, some00:15:44
techniques in order to understand whether you are00:15:46
chatting or not. your pupil there,00:15:50
for example, reacts to some of my passes00:15:53
or not. If it reacts, then I can00:15:55
calmly continue the same thing here.00:15:56
These people, from the very beginning, try to00:15:59
do some things, hang00:16:02
you up a little, load you up a little,00:16:05
talk, for example, they can00:16:07
say00:16:09
[ music]00:16:11
with a very serious look about some kind of00:16:13
nonsense you can’t understand,00:16:14
probably I don’t understand something. He with a very00:16:16
serious face tells me about00:16:19
what a cool ointment he bought for his new skis,00:16:24
cool wax, and he talks to00:16:26
you for 40 minutes about this or about00:16:29
some other nonsense about that there What kind of00:16:32
paste is there to polish tires there in00:16:36
detailing and you don’t understand I guess I do00:16:37
n’t understand something my self-esteem is falling00:16:39
I start to load and then in 3 minutes00:16:43
He forwards uh says Yes this00:16:46
one So we decided the conditions will be like this, we need to00:16:49
sign here and so on Everything I’m00:16:51
leaving a00:16:53
separate family That is, I’m just00:16:57
the fourth I’m driving you Yes I’m driving you00:17:00
crazy with not matching00:17:03
So I’m overloading one way or another in any00:17:06
case all these families they one way or00:17:08
another, this is called disadaptation,00:17:12
I00:17:14
interfere with the work of the psyche, I split it, I00:17:17
overload it, I will suspend it so00:17:19
that it does not work so that you00:17:21
are more stupid, more suggestible, and so00:17:24
on, some people, based on this00:17:27
unconscious competence of theirs, even00:17:30
in everyday life this is how they behave, I actually00:17:32
met some people outside of the work00:17:36
context. They behave the same way,00:17:38
exactly the same way, you come to00:17:42
visit the same thing, let’s say, and at the entrance they marinate you00:17:45
out of habit, they marinate you for 20 minutes Yes, I’m00:17:48
very glad to see you. Wait, wait a little longer-00:17:50
just wait a little, now everything00:17:51
will be and so on And you sit there for 4000:17:53
minutes00:17:55
and this is one of the ways to lower00:17:57
self-esteem by making you wait for it When00:18:00
shrima show like someone came to00:18:01
a meeting the secretary is holding him there and won’t00:18:04
let him in Yes, they’re already tired and they’re letting him out,00:18:07
it’s important to marinate You have to to visit in00:18:10
line in order to know their place,00:18:13
employees00:18:16
stand, for example, in order for a00:18:20
more loyal employee to come in to see you,00:18:22
he must stand in line and00:18:25
look Well, maybe my request is for a00:18:27
salary increase, maybe some00:18:29
changes in work, maybe not so much00:18:32
and Are important and you come in already really00:18:34
tired, devalued, this is one of the ways to00:18:36
lower self-esteem. Therefore, if you know them00:18:40
roughly, you know the alphabet, you know, you00:18:43
have a chance to track them. And if you00:18:46
don’t know them, what does this even happen?00:18:48
Some people write in the comments00:18:50
Why do I teach people I would like to say to the evil ones00:18:54
that they are already doing this they are aware they are00:18:58
already aware guys you Pay attention00:19:01
in order to consider when it00:19:03
loads you so that you do not get lost00:19:06
we are essentially for protection Yes, this is a vaccination you00:19:11
must experience it on your own skin you00:19:14
must undergo through this experience so00:19:16
that your psyche can then00:19:19
recognize it, you know how good it is. It00:19:22
seems to me that the question is why did they come there at all00:19:24
and such requests in general, or stumbled00:19:26
upon your videos if you don’t00:19:27
encounter this? Yes, that is, you just00:19:29
stumbled upon you most likely00:19:31
because they experienced it somewhere And now00:19:33
you want to protect yourself from this, well, that is,00:19:34
I have this logic, that is, why blame00:19:37
you for00:19:38
teaching bad things if in the first place00:19:41
then they would not have00:19:42
encountered this, they would have taken it into account And there are people00:19:45
who have a need to be00:19:47
offended00:19:49
to blame to be such truth-tellers00:19:53
there are people like this Listen, can00:19:56
this just be the top of theirs you know00:19:58
some manipulations that they00:19:59
try to write to you in the comments or are they00:20:01
all Boring they all come down to blaming00:20:03
guilt or something interesting happens Listen00:20:06
to in fact, in my comments it’s00:20:07
very warm,00:20:09
a lot of hearts, a lot of00:20:13
support. I really like it, that is, if00:20:16
at the very beginning there00:20:20
was a misunderstanding, here in the year00:20:23
nineteen, maybe in the twentieth,00:20:25
a little bit. That is, now the atmosphere is very00:20:27
The atmosphere is very warm if we talk about the00:20:31
top manipulations, naturally00:20:33
number one in general everywhere in everyday life in the media the00:20:39
rudest most powerful technique is00:20:41
influence through emotions social00:20:44
regulators this is the accumulation of accusations That00:20:47
is, for example, if we take from transactional00:20:49
or transactional analysis this model of00:20:52
internal ego states is00:20:55
not familiar, every person has00:20:59
conditionally this model is such a00:21:02
state child Adult parents00:21:06
if I I need to communicate with you on00:21:10
equal terms if I want to00:21:12
build a relationship with you that is not codependent without00:21:16
dominance, I talk to you like an00:21:19
adult, an adult with respect, I don’t00:21:21
criticize you, I don’t blame you, I somehow create00:21:24
intimacy in the relationship, I talk about my00:21:25
emotions, including myself, I support you, and so00:21:28
on if I need you to00:21:30
feel like a dependent child,00:21:32
to cause you pain so that you00:21:36
obey, I enter into my00:21:39
position in my role as00:21:42
such a critical and maybe00:21:44
loving but parent. That is, I select master00:21:47
keys for you. Perhaps if I begin to00:21:50
devalue you, criticize, compare00:21:52
with someone -Listen,00:21:55
they saw it better, but it could have been done differently, and00:21:58
what is it for some reason, and so on? I’m00:22:01
starting to evaluate you. In this way, I’m00:22:03
trying to shift your00:22:06
state of being a child so that you And if you00:22:10
had experience in your family system in00:22:13
your family, where with they did the same00:22:15
thing to you, you will collapse there quite quickly00:22:17
if you allow depreciation to00:22:19
comparison you do not react I can00:22:21
turn on a caring parent Let me00:22:23
take care of you and let me do it Let me00:22:25
do it Let me give you a hint and I00:22:27
see the same idea for a motor test I00:22:30
see how do you fall for it, I can00:22:32
either through a caring parent make00:22:34
you a child or through a devaluing00:22:37
critical parent make you a00:22:39
child and when I made you a child00:22:41
I can already, well, control I can00:22:44
manage you, you will already be in front of00:22:46
me really a child,00:22:47
respectively, if I want to make you00:22:51
I can turn on your parent to shift the responsibility onto you. Well, it’s00:22:55
hard for me like this, well, why do00:22:57
n’t you do it like this child begins,00:23:00
I turn on my inner child in order to00:23:03
turn on the00:23:05
inner parent in you if I need to00:23:08
shift the responsibility to you,00:23:10
respectively number two if The first is a00:23:13
decrease in shame and guilt, number two is a change in00:23:17
roles, this is the impact on roles, this is an00:23:21
outweighing of responsibility, that is,00:23:23
one way or another, if we are talking about00:23:24
everyday manipulations, they are associated with guilt00:23:28
with shame from shifting00:23:31
responsibility You must be guilty,00:23:34
you must strive to atone for your guilt00:23:37
You must to be weak You shouldn’t00:23:40
rely on yourself, you should be00:23:42
obedient, so you shouldn’t consider00:23:43
yourself Okay, and you should have a debt hanging on you, and00:23:47
then you’re comfortable. Now, if you consider00:23:50
everyday manipulations, then probably 8000:23:52
percent of this is worth00:23:55
one way or another and accordingly00:23:58
the comments are what happens if you listen00:24:01
here, the same thing is00:24:03
behind some comments, you can see the pain00:24:06
behind some comments, it’s00:24:10
painfully difficult for me to read. I can’t cope with it00:24:12
and these phrases come from pain.00:24:15
Therefore,00:24:17
sometimes I write there how I can00:24:20
help you, what can he suggest? Thank you for00:24:22
sharing, I see you, I see It’s not easy for you,00:24:25
thank you, and so on. That is, if you00:24:28
can see if you read between the lines there00:24:31
Anton, it hurts me And it’s all in such phrases,00:24:36
such formulations, then there is no00:24:41
point in polemicizing somehow, but if they00:24:43
tell you, Well, how can you help? You should00:24:45
go out into the street there to stop00:24:47
your Government this is a person in the heat of passion00:24:50
this is an affect if a person is in great pain00:24:55
if a person is in so much pain that00:24:57
emotions have led to the fact that there00:25:01
is no longer any control Any person can be brought to a00:25:04
situation of passion when control is00:25:07
lost effect This is a strong outburst a00:25:09
very short-term outburst of emotions00:25:12
that when of which a person loses00:25:13
control all point a person is controlled by00:25:16
his emotions you want to control a person00:25:18
by controlling his emotions a person has a00:25:21
finite fund of power fund of attention00:25:24
Therefore, if I constantly make you angry, scare, anger, scare, anger, scare danger00:25:30
injustice danger00:25:32
injustice They take away what you have from you,00:25:35
you are unfairly deprived of yours, you are00:25:38
in danger all of you, you won’t be able00:25:41
to think with you, well, you won’t be able to00:25:45
talk to you from the perspective of an adult, an00:25:47
adult, you need and you will need to00:25:49
take care, let you catch your breath,00:25:51
take care of you, I see you, I00:25:54
hear you, I see that you’re scared. It’s00:25:57
really scary. It’s really00:25:58
scary, period. This is really bad00:26:02
and terrible and period I hear you that is the00:26:06
first How can I react I see you00:26:09
I hear you I understand you I am with you00:26:12
period I stay00:26:15
everyone here there is no need to convince anyone00:26:18
of anything00:26:19
dry land if there are any defenses against00:26:22
provocation of manipulation can you give another example00:26:24
of such standard ones as I understand,00:26:27
one of the standard ones is just not00:26:29
to answer yes, but in essence this is how you00:26:32
say You yourself must decide from your own00:26:34
resource, do you have energy and desire to00:26:37
answer? Yes, no, you can answer,00:26:40
look before you answer something, you can00:26:43
ask yourself the question00:26:45
why, before you say anything in principle,00:26:48
it is important to ask yourself the question why am I00:26:52
going to say this, that is, what is my goal? The00:26:54
second Why, what led to me00:26:58
saying this is not manipulating me00:27:01
and the third and the consequences of this will be what00:27:05
if then what are you going to say does not00:27:08
pass at least one of these three00:27:10
filters there is no point in saying anything00:27:12
better not to say anything this is one00:27:14
of the types of defense Even if you understand00:27:17
you want to do good to do good00:27:19
Even if you understand that a person00:27:21
needs information but this will lead to00:27:26
escalation it will lead to pain it00:27:28
will lead to something bad there is no need00:27:31
Do what you can help do what you00:27:36
can’t help don’t do bad00:27:39
Well, accordingly, these examples where you00:27:41
said yes you where you answer So with00:27:43
empathy Yes they are Well they were originally00:27:46
written as respectful and it’s more or less00:27:48
normal and there’s support, but if they’re already00:27:51
somehow written in emblative language, then you00:27:53
won’t even respond if this00:27:55
riggerizes you, if it hurts you, that’s00:27:57
already a wake-up call for you how resilient you are,00:28:01
if something hurts you and it’s00:28:05
inadequate pain emotions do not00:28:07
correspond to the trigger This is where you can00:28:10
say thank you very much there brother00:28:12
or sister pointed out you showed me that I00:28:16
still have pain I’ll go to my00:28:18
psychotherapist or my psychotherapists with this I’ll00:28:20
sort it out there says that Listen to something like00:28:22
this the situation somehow makes me00:28:24
mine the reaction does not correspond a little to00:28:28
the danger My reaction does not correspond00:28:30
Well, he was sending something, probably00:28:33
some kind of transference has worked in me, something hurts in me,00:28:36
something I myself am probably looking for, probably something to be offended by,00:28:40
maybe I myself am looking for00:28:42
something to suffer about, and so on. that00:28:45
resentment and anxiety and pain and Anger can be a00:28:48
habitual way to feel Uh-huh00:28:52
But in general, in everything a person sees Yes,00:28:55
there or psychology there are some00:28:57
separate sections, I don’t know the science or00:29:00
discipline that study specifically00:29:01
manipulation or not, you know what00:29:05
Listen if you you know how it works00:29:07
you yourself can already figure out how to00:29:09
manipulate it, look if you know how00:29:12
perception works How brain functions work00:29:16
psyche functions How it works What00:29:20
needs are what what is00:29:23
what at the level of00:29:26
neurophysiology I don’t know what needs to be somehow00:29:29
easier to explain it00:29:32
leads to How does your brain work in general?00:29:34
What is the psyche? How do some of00:29:38
its functions work? How does it work? What is memory? How does it00:29:42
work? How can you change memory?00:29:43
What is an opinion?00:29:52
just00:29:57
take your communication to another00:29:59
level so that you understand me, so that I00:30:03
understand you, I can read you, so that our00:30:05
communication is effective and you and I00:30:07
are happy.00:30:10
This can be used to solve problems.00:30:12
This can be used, for example, for00:30:16
reprogramming. If a person00:30:19
suffers from something, release it00:30:20
can be used for therapy from this suffering,00:30:23
it can be used to solve your00:30:26
problems, let’s say there sales marketing00:30:30
Media everything is the same if I understand that it00:30:33
is important for a person00:30:34
the fastest way to attract00:30:37
attention is the day Easy money00:30:40
easy power and the impression of00:30:44
rapid changes constant changes and00:30:47
there greater brightness I understand that I am00:30:50
on the second point, I attracted attention, that00:30:54
is, the first understanding of needs, the00:30:55
second control of attention, then00:30:57
the control of perception, the control of00:30:59
thinking,00:31:01
behind these blocks are our beliefs,00:31:04
if I understand how our beliefs00:31:06
are built, how to identify them, how00:31:10
to change them, how to break them, disassemble them, how to in00:31:14
their place to create others00:31:15
my communication goes to another00:31:18
level I can persuade I there is no point in00:31:22
arguing with a person00:31:24
I see what tricks of the language let’s say00:31:28
on beliefs he speaks I00:31:31
break them Simply by knowing one of the tools00:31:35
That is, all these technologies can be packaged in00:31:40
such already packaged tools00:31:41
weapons like this can be translated,00:31:44
let’s say schizophrenia patterns are a special00:31:46
case of psychological violence;00:31:48
vulnerabilities of00:31:50
mechanisms of vulnerability of the psyche; let’s say00:31:53
working with persuasion can be translated into 1400:31:55
tricks of the language, including combat tricks of the00:31:58
language; if we’re talking about00:32:01
cognitive impact there, we can00:32:03
isolate 3-4 from the first and second ones the00:32:07
main ways of delivering a00:32:10
cognitive blow and this will be precisely00:32:12
connected with cognitive distortions, also00:32:14
roughly speaking, knowing them, you can00:32:16
manipulate all of this and00:32:19
cognitive distortion is the same. This is a cool00:32:25
tool, widely and deeply described in fact, this is a00:32:28
huge amount of material00:32:30
adapted for you and00:32:34
any other person could take it That00:32:37
is, for example, initially you take it,00:32:38
open the book by Daniel Kahneman,00:32:40
read it from cover to cover, do00:32:43
you have the skill after this book? Most likely00:32:46
not And if you are already recycled,00:32:50
repeatedly processed materials,00:32:52
you study Where it explains to you why this00:32:55
happens, how this happens 1000:32:57
epicization into 4 blocks under each block is00:33:00
explained to you logically. For example, if00:33:03
you have an overabundance of information, then00:33:06
from the point of view of survival you needed to00:33:10
free yourself from something, you needed to00:33:12
turn a blind eye to something,00:33:14
somewhere you are going blind, and so on00:33:17
This turns into your00:33:19
tool, a tool that you can00:33:21
use to achieve your goals,00:33:22
and so on. That is, there is a huge00:33:25
amount of materials, but there are already ready-made00:33:28
tools in which they are00:33:31
packaged, processed mechanics,00:33:34
recruitment techniques, calibration techniques,00:33:36
techniques for working with language beliefs,00:33:41
schizophrenogenic patterns, cognitive00:33:43
distortions, guidance techniques trance00:33:49
yes And most importantly, everything else that is, roughly00:33:53
speaking, there is no separate discipline on00:33:54
manipulation, but everything related to00:33:57
manipulation is included in NLP,00:34:00
social engineering and cognitive psychology.00:34:02
Yes, if you study these things,00:34:05
most likely you will know manipulation00:34:07
enough than I like the term00:34:09
social engineering, even the00:34:12
definition itself is interdisciplinary,00:34:17
interdisciplinary areas aimed00:34:20
at understanding a person, managing a00:34:22
person to create social00:34:24
mechanisms of00:34:25
social00:34:27
structures and managing these social00:34:30
structures and mechanisms,00:34:33
interdisciplinary from all disciplines from00:34:36
medicine from the media from psychology from00:34:40
psychoanalysis from00:34:42
hypnosis from psychotherapy from transactional00:34:46
analysis00:34:48
from everything I pull out everything that could be00:34:51
useful to me so that I could get to know00:34:53
a person I could influence him I00:34:57
could control him I could00:35:01
create social constructs00:35:04
mechanisms from these units of people and control them I can00:35:07
do this for evil I can make a social bomb out of them I00:35:09
can do for good00:35:12
create huge cool companies,00:35:15
corporations or services that will00:35:18
do good, and so on00:35:21
Depending on the customers depending on the00:35:23
architect,00:35:24
provocation is like some subsection of00:35:27
family manipulation or something00:35:29
separate, one of the ways Listen, how you00:35:31
can how you can influence00:35:33
another person you can work with00:35:35
what you have, let’s say I studied you and through00:35:39
provocations I can play on your00:35:41
strings of needs. Just knowing how you00:35:44
will respond, I will throw00:35:48
some seeds into this psyche, knowing their response00:35:50
to provocation, this is one of the ways I can00:35:53
act differently through induction00:35:54
or induction That is, how hypnosis works00:35:57
I just start pouring the water I need into the00:36:02
mill I need so that your00:36:05
state of consciousness changes, it can be00:36:08
traumatizing your psyche I know the00:36:10
vulnerabilities of your psyche I know how it00:36:13
can be traumatized, split, suppress, I00:36:15
do this, so it’s just one from00:36:18
special cases of the method of influence the00:36:19
simplest the fastest the easiest00:36:22
all the rest are much harder, so it’s00:36:24
much easier to provoke a person and00:36:27
you can do this if you’re a person,00:36:30
let’s say public like you and me,00:36:33
first of all, we’re just people and00:36:36
it’s common for everyone to make mistakes or something00:36:37
be mistaken or make mistakes there But00:36:40
if you are public, roughly speaking, you00:36:41
had some video somewhere,00:36:42
said something, then any person00:36:45
can be provoked, take something00:36:47
out of context,00:36:48
write and say But in such and such a video you something said00:36:51
something there, or what about00:36:54
what you said there, let’s say now you wrote it00:36:56
crudely with what you said there as a friend,00:36:58
in short, roughly speaking, you can always find a00:37:01
way to manipulate or00:37:02
provoke,00:37:03
first of all, any person. And if you are00:37:06
public, then all the more of course,00:37:08
that is you may have such00:37:11
thoughts there, maybe something really isn’t right00:37:13
you’ll go in principle sometimes sometimes Indeed00:37:15
you can let’s say you make a mistake they00:37:17
pointed it out to you if it’s some kind of00:37:19
constructive criticism you noticed there00:37:20
said thank you corrected Yes there I understood there00:37:23
I ticked myself Or maybe It’s00:37:25
just a goal to shake you up. Yes, and no one can00:37:28
drag you into some kind of dispute, but you00:37:35
can influence any person00:37:38
if it’s already hard for you from the00:37:40
provocations that hurt you. You ask00:37:44
yourself the question: how can I00:37:45
take care of myself, what can I do about it?00:37:47
Maybe hire a moderator there,00:37:50
maybe change your approach somehow How much00:37:52
time do you devote to this? So on,00:37:54
you can provoke any person00:37:56
simply based on the fact that we have00:37:59
universal buttons, universal00:38:02
strings of our psyche, and if our eyes00:38:05
and ears are open, then we are under the influence, we are00:38:08
not We can avoid this in no way, but at the00:38:10
same time there are certain antiviruses, there are certain00:38:12
mechanisms that help us be more00:38:14
stable, there is such a thing called the00:38:17
Gestaltist prayer, which helps you00:38:21
unstick your brain from the opinions of others00:38:24
in general, the psyche of others helps you get out of00:38:28
merging with others,00:38:29
it sounds like I am you, I am doing my thing00:38:33
business you do your job if00:38:36
we were destined to be together00:38:39
do something together I am grateful to this experience00:38:42
if we are00:38:44
destined to part it means somehow00:38:46
maybe because you have your own way I have my00:38:47
own dear you00:38:50
if we are destined to part it means well00:38:53
or not coincide So this and00:38:55
that cannot be helped, there are different00:38:58
formulations, but the point is, if you00:39:01
isolate it and make it more simple, then I have the00:39:05
right00:39:06
not to like you, I have the right00:39:11
not to love you, I have the right to be00:39:14
inconvenient for you, you have the right to00:39:17
suffer from what is there I say you00:39:20
have the right to have some other00:39:23
opinion Well and so on I thus00:39:25
take myself off the hook serving your00:39:29
neuroses serving your emotions your00:39:32
Emotions are your emotions you have the right to00:39:34
love me you have the right to suffer You00:39:36
have the right to be dissatisfied with me00:39:38
and I the same thing I have the right to be00:39:42
dissatisfied with you I have the right to think00:39:45
differently, that is, this is such an00:39:47
example of a healthy attitude that helps Yes,00:39:50
this is a kind of vaccination, in any case, we are00:39:54
socially included in other people, in00:39:56
any case, it is important to us what others think of her,00:39:59
therefore this only affects00:40:02
stability if let’s say you’re swimming00:40:05
in cortisol, negativity, hatred from00:40:09
other people, you’ll still00:40:11
get salty, you’ll still have00:40:14
a hard time, but if let’s say 1000:40:18
percent of the audience there or one percent of00:40:20
the audience says something negative,00:40:23
then this will definitely help I see this is your00:40:27
opinion, there are some basic techniques for00:40:30
negotiations, the most basic ones that00:40:34
help, for example, if they shame me, they blame me. I00:40:38
see, I see your opinion is this. That is, I00:40:42
dampen, I stop, and I call a00:40:45
spade a spade, this is just00:40:48
your opinion, so I see your opinion is00:40:51
this. But I’m sorry that you have such an00:40:52
opinion, you can say it directly Yes, why are you00:40:54
ashaming me? You’ve already been brought into the dialogue00:40:59
if you have no purpose in this dialogue,00:41:02
you can stop it this way,00:41:04
I see your opinion is different00:41:07
from mine, I see and this point of view also00:41:11
takes place to exist,00:41:14
oddly enough, and it would also probably be possible to00:41:17
think under the circumstances.00:41:21
Good question The next question is00:41:25
about the fact of disposal other more rude00:41:28
other ways of answering are already more rude00:41:31
for example Which for example well listen for00:41:34
example for example collapse That is, you are00:41:38
blaming me for something that you are talking about I can00:41:40
see, accuse me of something, we00:41:43
forgot to take the phone, I00:41:45
blame myself, but I can say that you forgot to take the00:41:49
phone00:41:50
because of this, the sound deteriorated there at the00:41:54
moment, do00:41:55
you expect me to start feeling00:41:57
ashamed and guilty, right? collapse00:41:59
I give the opposite reaction with pride00:42:01
Cool, I screwed up with you here Yes, I’m00:42:05
coming I’m in favor of couples everywhere now00:42:08
nothing will work out cool00:42:11
I give the opposite reaction it00:42:12
collapses This violates expectations, this is a00:42:15
break in the pattern00:42:17
Or for example Grotesque I00:42:21
then exaggerate the absurdity and in general, in00:42:24
principle, everything what’s not working out in your life00:42:26
It’s not working out for me that’s00:42:28
all you have here is an apartment of exactly this00:42:31
size precisely because I00:42:35
had to appear in your life at some point in order for00:42:38
us to sit here everything in your00:42:41
life is bad or not good enough00:42:43
because of me and because of my phone00:42:48
they are more rude this is a brighter00:42:52
message00:42:55
let's say you can start if you have00:42:57
no desire to conflict there somehow00:42:59
you can start with the fact that we call a00:43:01
spade a spade I see you have such an00:43:03
opinion I see you have such experiences,00:43:05
I see you have such a point of view, I understand there are00:43:07
different ones00:43:10
and can you tell me some basic basic00:43:13
principles of emotional hygiene,00:43:16
this is also connected with informational hygiene,00:43:21
in principle, if we talk about hygiene,00:43:24
we are one way or another, in addition to our00:43:26
biological hygiene, we are talking about00:43:28
informational hygiene about00:43:30
environmental hygiene and emotional hygiene00:43:35
one way or another, in any case, we are talking00:43:37
about the same thing, my life consists of00:43:41
what I think about, what I feel, what I00:43:43
do, what I am surrounded by, period If I want to00:43:47
live differently, please somehow, this is00:43:50
probably what00:43:53
my life is worth specifically not to fill it up and not with what00:43:55
pours out of a big pipe, if00:44:00
something pours into my life I00:44:02
have to turn on the faucet,00:44:05
for example, I have a00:44:10
black and white scheme. I don’t have flowers00:44:16
because I don’t need it. I don’t want00:44:21
my psyche to receive too much dopamine.00:44:24
because of the mobile phone,00:44:27
so I turned off the colors,00:44:30
if I understand that in my00:44:34
environment,00:44:35
out of ten people,00:44:37
two people burden me, two people00:44:41
make my life more miserable.00:44:44
With them, I become infected with toxic00:44:47
negative emotions and feel00:44:49
bad. I have the right to take00:44:52
advantage of myself here. rules of00:44:55
hygiene of the environment and not to communicate with them00:44:59
for any reason, if for the same00:45:01
reason I00:45:03
need more00:45:06
talented happy healthy people in my environment I00:45:10
look Where can I communicate with them00:45:11
for example tomorrow we will go to metab the same thing00:45:17
hygiene is to00:45:19
throw out of your life what interferes and00:45:22
to include in it what is00:45:24
missing if we are talking about emotions all00:45:27
emotions are good all emotions are needed they are all00:45:29
functional But if I understand that I00:45:33
am swimming in cortisol in anxiety from morning to00:45:35
evening cortisol cortisol it’s00:45:38
infecting me, I’m already00:45:41
developing a habit of worrying, this is00:45:45
all reinforced by various aggravating00:45:48
themes that even create00:45:51
anxiety as a disorder as00:45:53
problems as a habit Yes, it’s probably worth00:45:56
looking into somehow What exactly00:45:58
worries me, what news do I read with such00:46:01
people and what am I talking about I say and so on and00:46:03
already control this and here we00:46:05
move on to information because all00:46:08
our emotional reactions are triggered by00:46:10
incoming information if I understand that00:46:14
from morning to evening with my mouth open I look00:46:16
about hatred I look about murder I00:46:20
look about fear I look I look00:46:22
about everything about this after some time I00:46:25
will be incapacitated I will not be able to00:46:28
help anyone being incapacitated I00:46:31
must first take care of myself in order to be00:46:34
able to take care of others if I00:46:36
understand that this is not deduced Everything I00:46:39
cross out this from00:46:41
Well I I set up these taps let’s say00:46:44
what -these sources of information I choose00:46:46
in general And if we talk about total00:46:50
hygiene, I can generally start from scratch, I00:46:54
remove00:46:56
the maximum irritants in my life that I can00:46:58
remove, even if the trash in00:47:01
the apartment annoys me, tidy up first before00:47:04
you cry about depression and00:47:06
anxiety there first Clean up around you,00:47:08
create an environment around you that is at least not00:47:11
dull, I remove as many irritants as possible,00:47:15
of course there are gadgets, of course00:47:19
it’s all this cortisol soup that is00:47:22
around me that suits me, let’s allow00:47:24
myself a detox not for 7 and then I00:47:27
make a decision for my goals What00:47:30
information do I need00:47:32
emotions and environment and a little by little00:47:35
turning on some taps from scratch, let’s say00:47:38
some books I need some00:47:41
kind of videos of00:47:44
other people there I also need them there in00:47:47
such and such a volume and I’m starting a little bit00:47:49
these screens, I’m starting to be a customer myself00:47:52
in my cinema and not just sit like this00:47:55
like a platoon orange with00:47:57
this with my eyes open and they pour into me00:47:59
what someone needs,00:48:03
let’s jump over a little but it was just interesting that00:48:05
this question was written out Do you have a00:48:08
video about teaching teach yourself00:48:10
correctly I understand this term generally00:48:12
comes from Gestalt therapy or this is what it00:48:15
means to betray oneself in the context of00:48:17
psychology or what is Ultherapy00:48:21
Well, look00:48:24
functionally our psyche works00:48:26
How we have needs we00:48:29
feel them through our emotions00:48:31
experiences I understand what I want now00:48:34
But if I am in a merger if I am00:48:38
dependent You what is00:48:40
addiction addiction is when I00:48:43
tell myself no in order to tell you00:48:45
yes00:48:46
because I know that if I take myself00:48:49
Because I know that if I tell you00:48:52
no I will lose the relationship and addiction00:48:55
as if it were00:48:57
we are talking about addiction when00:49:00
losing a relationship there with you with another00:49:02
person is unbearable for me, it means I00:49:05
walk depending on this but I am there from you00:49:07
so I betray myself when I00:49:10
make a choice I tell myself no in order to00:49:14
tell you yes because the fear of00:49:16
losing a relationship with you there00:49:19
is unbearable for me, we don’t experience this pain, even00:49:23
theoretical pain is unbearable for me. It’s00:49:26
much easier for me to give in to myself, to betray00:49:29
my interests, to give in to my needs, and00:49:32
so on, but this is a path of merging and there00:49:36
codependent relationships dependent00:49:39
relationships are bad for both sides, both are00:49:41
suffocating sides, we need00:49:44
functional relationships, we can, we00:49:46
have the right if we want to00:49:48
get closer, and if we feel stuffy to00:49:51
move away a little, the relationship breathes in this way.00:49:53
I understand this can be given to oneself not00:49:57
only in a relationship with a person, but if there is00:49:59
let’s say with work activities,00:50:00
of course, so you can be in merging with00:50:04
work merging with your boss merging with a00:50:07
company merging with someone’s neuroses00:50:10
you can if you understand that you don’t00:50:14
know why you are doing this just out of00:50:16
habit or because someone else needs it then00:50:19
you have merged with someone then you are from something00:50:21
you depend00:50:22
and neuroses are psychotrauma are they synonymous or00:50:25
different no look neurosis is a chronic00:50:30
inability to satisfy one’s00:50:31
needs What leads to chronic00:50:33
experiences00:50:35
when there is no neurosis when a00:50:38
person is functionally free he00:50:41
has some needs regarding00:50:43
these needs causes a00:50:45
feeling arises these feelings encourage00:50:48
actions to satisfy needs00:50:50
I try even if I don’t00:50:53
succeed once the second third I will sooner or00:50:55
later learn, that is, our internal00:50:58
mechanism of creative adaptation00:51:00
will lead to the fact that we will00:51:02
eventually learn to satisfy our00:51:04
needs and will be happy00:51:05
to feel good neurosis is some kind of00:51:09
disorder some kind of breakdown of the wrong the00:51:12
working mechanism due to various00:51:14
reasons leads to the fact that I am chronically00:51:17
not satisfied with my needs,00:51:18
chronically not receiving something, chronically00:51:21
unable to get rid of something bad00:51:23
that I want to get rid of, chronically unable to00:51:26
get what I want00:51:29
causes of neurosis, this is also possible00:51:32
parental programs parental00:51:34
attitudes this there must be traumas, this is not a00:51:38
transferred unbearable and not00:51:40
transferred emotional events, it00:51:43
can be unfinished gestalts,00:51:46
unfinished relationships, an00:51:48
internal block is a synonym for Rose,00:51:50
it turns out an00:51:52
internal block is a question, too, as I understand it,00:51:56
but this is when00:51:57
I heard the term too, as I understand it,00:52:00
this is when a person simply sets himself00:52:03
what -a boundary in something What does00:52:05
stopping want my attitude my belief00:52:09
may sound like00:52:11
you can’t be like this00:52:15
it’s impossible or I’m not worthy of it you00:52:19
can call it a block you can call00:52:22
this attitude you can call it a00:52:23
program in terms of NLP in terms of00:52:26
language tricks this is a belief a belief00:52:29
these are some rules around my00:52:32
need, for example, money is00:52:35
evil, money is dirt, money is freedom,00:52:37
money is happiness, these are different beliefs00:52:40
around the same need, money,00:52:43
respectively, if I live happily with these00:52:46
beliefs, these attitudes,00:52:50
then they are adequate. And if I00:52:53
experience suffering, neurosis, it00:52:56
may well be that I have inadequate00:52:58
beliefs, you can work with them,00:53:03
this is an00:53:05
experience where the intensity of the experience was00:53:09
prohibitive in order to00:53:12
experience it to the end at that moment, this is00:53:15
often a near-death experience or an experience00:53:19
that was perceived as near-death,00:53:22
for example, when there Well, perhaps a childhood00:53:27
trauma was connected with00:53:30
violence on the part of parents, it may00:53:33
not actually have been associated there with the00:53:36
possibility of death, but it00:53:39
was perceived as such because for00:53:40
parents, for children, such an experience can be00:53:44
perceived as a near-death experience, it00:53:46
can be, it can cause trauma,00:53:50
it is an exorbitant experience in terms of the00:53:52
intensity of emotions and with you can work with it in the same way00:53:55
when you have grown up00:53:57
When you are00:54:00
already supportive When you are already autonomous00:54:03
when you already have internal resources00:54:05
maybe you already have another family00:54:08
you have more support00:54:09
based on this I can return to my00:54:13
past this experience and process00:54:16
so free him,00:54:19
treat him, heal him, process this00:54:22
trauma, in fact, psychotherapy does this.00:54:26
Can you explain a little about parents, because as I00:54:30
understand it, there are no ideal parents of00:54:32
children; there may always be some that will00:54:35
somehow lead to injury, or00:54:40
someone will take you on the injury or00:54:41
something else, but again, you know00:54:45
that maybe I’ve met such people00:54:47
myself,00:54:49
I didn’t put such emphasis on this. Although I00:54:52
understand. Yes, if you start poking around, there’s00:54:55
definitely something there, some kind of00:54:58
neuroses that were passed on to me from my00:54:59
parents and I know some of them, but00:55:02
I don’t have that, you know that I directly00:55:03
blame my parents for some of my00:55:06
problems because I understand, but they did00:55:07
what they could,00:55:09
they raised them the way they could, and they brought up more good in00:55:11
any case, but for some I’ve00:55:13
seen people that you know, they’re just00:55:16
very fixated, so they’re sure that00:55:19
their life didn’t go wrong somehow00:55:20
because their parents are to blame, that’s00:55:23
how you think, this is also an00:55:25
individual case, or is there really00:55:28
some kind of fashion somewhere to blame in everything,00:55:30
parents and thus our00:55:32
responsibility to choose, that is, you know,00:55:34
it’s as if maybe it’s00:55:38
Well, that is, some kind of manipulation,00:55:40
blaming parents for all their sins00:55:43
to remove responsibility, somewhere there may be00:55:46
some kind of infantilism that you cannot00:55:48
just take00:55:49
your life in your hands and all the time you00:55:52
still go there you remember your parents there is00:55:55
a lot of answer in your question00:55:58
I’m just my thoughts00:56:02
if a person if a person does not00:56:06
accommodate a certain amount of00:56:07
responsibility00:56:09
guilt pain a person can place this00:56:16
responsibility pain in others00:56:19
if he can’t do it any other way00:56:23
doesn’t know how to do it yet hasn’t learned how to do it yet00:56:25
can do it out of pain00:56:29
I just don’t understand a little now what00:56:32
exactly to answer because it’s like you00:56:34
asked questions and answered yes In00:56:37
general the question is00:56:40
this Something that is00:56:41
quite popular to look for all the problems00:56:44
in childhood and in some kind of incorrect00:56:47
upbringing of parents, is this more of a00:56:49
good trend or because of it00:56:53
new types of problems have appeared when everything00:56:56
is shifted to the parents, this is also like00:56:59
now00:57:00
a psychotherapist has noticed this, now work with it,00:57:02
you know when people rely on their00:57:04
parents for everything they are shifting look in this00:57:08
story as if the scope is greatly narrowed00:57:11
if you feel bad if you have00:57:15
some emotions that are clearly00:57:16
inadequate if you00:57:19
have some emotions about another person00:57:22
that indicate that your relationship is00:57:24
not sorted out and sort out your emotions your00:57:28
feelings your sensations00:57:30
tell you what is happening and00:57:35
encourage you to do the appropriate00:57:36
things if, for example, I feel that I00:57:39
still have00:57:41
a grudge against my mother or a grudge against my dad or00:57:44
some other toxic emotions that00:57:47
control me I have people who will00:57:51
test me and who will be my00:57:54
operators I have the technology to00:57:56
sort it all out, that is, my00:57:59
feelings right away They give me an answer What should I do,00:58:02
what is the problem, what should I do00:58:04
functions there are three main ones00:58:09
about emotions three main functions the first00:58:12
informational emotions tell me what is00:58:15
happening to me in terms of my00:58:17
needs if something hurts me, my00:58:21
attention should immediately go to00:58:23
where it hurts, what it hurts about, and so on, and my00:58:27
responsibility is to consider00:58:29
my emotions because it’s very convenient to00:58:31
just blame others, it hurts because00:58:34
I was offended, I’m hurt and offended, I’m00:58:36
suffering in general loser because as a00:58:38
child I had toys nailed00:58:42
to the floor and a slippery window sill and so00:58:43
on, it’s very convenient instead you can00:58:46
just start listening to your emotions This is the00:58:48
first function the second function00:58:50
is communicative I am00:58:53
my Emotions are my message to another00:58:56
person here it is important to understand that I am to00:59:00
another person I want to say maybe00:59:02
my resentment to another person there mom dad I00:59:06
don’t know this is a phrase mom I miss you00:59:09
or mom I missed you or00:59:12
right now I’m really missing you Or Mom00:59:14
I want you to tell me that you00:59:17
love me and here in the second function we00:59:21
it is important to learn00:59:23
and use this communicative00:59:26
function to use learn to express00:59:28
your emotions in order to let them00:59:31
work and the third stimulating00:59:33
motivating functions our emotions00:59:35
encourage us to take actions aimed00:59:39
at satisfying needs or00:59:42
solving problems what I want to do,00:59:45
let’s go, let’s say yell or go there to00:59:49
tell my mother you are to blame and so on,00:59:51
do it00:59:53
if you just reanimate the three functions of00:59:55
your emotions, you don’t need no00:59:58
scripts00:59:59
there, is it right to blame the parents or01:00:02
wrong No, in general, it’s the same thing01:00:05
we are here we are here we continue to think about01:00:09
the ball and thimbles01:00:11
Turn around for yourself as So if you01:00:16
You replace all these theories with all these scripts with01:00:19
one topic called the01:00:20
psychology of emotions. You don’t need anything else.01:00:23
Psychology of emotions has sections on what01:00:26
emotions are, how they work, what they01:00:28
tell us, what they motivate, what01:00:31
manifestations they have, what functions they have, how to01:00:33
evoke them, etc. further I understand everything, that01:00:35
is, the answer is yes for people, if01:00:39
you correct me, tell the truth, if a01:00:42
person there often complains about01:00:44
his parents and at the same time just01:00:46
continues to complain, then this is not a very01:00:48
adult approach Because that’s the adult01:00:50
way Okay, if you understand what this is the problem is01:00:52
because of this Go work it out Yes and Fix it01:00:55
and then live And if you just01:00:57
live in pity all the time that you are like this and01:01:01
have such a life because of someone, then this is01:01:03
not very adult, just right Well, to01:01:04
put it mildly, adults are not an adult You are01:01:07
now you know, in the position of a parent01:01:11
who tells another how life is Well,01:01:13
little Yes, look, there are a lot of01:01:17
aggravating factors,01:01:20
for example, the01:01:23
need for suffering, the need for01:01:27
dissatisfaction, the need for resentment, it01:01:29
can be written as a diagram, like an01:01:33
emotional scheme, that is, look at01:01:36
all our diagrams, all our strategies, all01:01:39
our scenarios in our psyche is already01:01:42
written down by the age of five and formalized 1201:01:48
everything that was written down by the age of five01:01:51
will be accepted for execution01:01:54
if now you are paying attention that01:01:57
my way of being in society01:01:59
is an insult, this is an accusation Ask yourself01:02:04
a question, do you have the right to stay, this is01:02:07
your way Ask yourself a question you want but01:02:09
stay But there are other options you can01:02:12
change this way If you know all the01:02:16
destructive patterns you can free yourself from them01:02:18
If you know the basic01:02:22
dysfunctional emotional patterns then01:02:25
you can if you find yourself in these01:02:28
patterns01:02:29
blame yourself this pattern emotional01:02:32
pattern blame others this pattern01:02:36
lament what everything is always bad with this scheme.01:02:40
If it doesn’t suit you, you can01:02:42
replace it with something more01:02:44
functional, more free,01:02:46
happier, and so on. And someone may be01:02:48
happy with it, someone can say it’s01:02:50
convenient01:02:51
[music] a01:02:55
person has the right to remain in that01:02:58
what it is in; moreover, if you01:03:01
start moving it yourself, you01:03:03
will get an enemy; in most01:03:05
cases, a person will never give up his01:03:08
suffering because this suffering has01:03:09
already acquired secondary effects01:03:12
in his psyche; at the level of the01:03:16
brain, he has already01:03:17
adapted this suffering01:03:20
to what to get what -the01:03:22
need to satisfy01:03:24
the need, he already01:03:25
receives attention in this way, let’s say, he01:03:27
builds relationships in this way, familiar01:03:29
relationships in this way, perhaps in01:03:31
his head he meets with his01:03:33
parents because they01:03:35
did exactly the same thing, so Mom, look,01:03:38
I’m doing the same thing, we are here with01:03:40
similar to mom or similar to dad, and so on,01:03:43
if these are dysfunctional themes,01:03:47
changing patterns can be a much01:03:50
more difficult process than just01:03:53
staying in this case, in this case, the person will not01:03:54
make a decision even if you say01:03:56
yes, yes, I came to you to01:03:59
change mine life, but everyone before you was an01:04:03
[ __ ], and here you can already keep it in your head,01:04:06
you will be next, you are doomed01:04:08
to this, that is, after all, there are some01:04:10
psychological aspects01:04:11
in this, starting from some type of01:04:14
alcoholism and ending there, simply,01:04:17
roughly speaking, an accusation there are some01:04:19
other people there, all of them can be solved01:04:23
only if the person himself wants01:04:25
to correct them. I mean that from01:04:27
the outside you are unlikely to be able to influence there01:04:29
in most cases, uh, roughly speaking.01:04:32
From the outside, Damn, I want to sincerely01:04:35
help someone close to me there a person01:04:36
noticing such a thing, but you01:04:39
probably won’t convey it to him, in fact,01:04:40
why if they didn’t turn to you, did you01:04:43
have a desire Yes, this is a question01:04:46
for you, mmm, what do you want to realize in yourself in this way,01:04:50
what do you want without asking?01:04:52
bringing happiness to another person01:04:55
is really one of the very01:04:57
important components; it is included in one of the01:05:00
serious criteria, for example, in01:05:03
cognitive behavioral psychotherapy, it01:05:05
must be formed. Well, internal01:05:07
motivation must be based on01:05:10
internal motivation, you can already change01:05:12
what you do, change your attitudes in01:05:15
order to this whole scheme, again, of01:05:18
social engineering at all levels,01:05:21
change the need to know perception,01:05:25
make it adequate, cleanse yourself from01:05:28
distorted perception of emotions,01:05:30
accordingly, retrain yourself, firstly,01:05:32
legalize them, free them from01:05:35
emotional problems such as stopped01:05:37
emotions, chronic emotions01:05:39
at the body level, look Or maybe01:05:42
you have some kind of... Is there some kind of endogenous01:05:46
depression? Maybe you do01:05:47
n’t have enough serotonin or dopamine. Maybe01:05:49
you need to take some pills. Maybe you should01:05:51
go to a psychiatrist so they can01:05:52
diagnose you. They took your01:05:54
blood biochemistry and so on at all01:05:56
levels, if you take care of yourself, you’ll01:05:58
feel better. But if but if you don’t have an01:06:00
internal request, you won’t01:06:02
do it. And if from not doing you have01:06:05
some benefits from not doing you01:06:08
get something important for yourself, you will01:06:11
never be pulled out of there.01:06:13
Well, the last question for those who may01:06:15
not know where you are if this is your01:06:18
activity,01:06:21
almost all the information one way or another01:06:24
about me on YouTube Anton Makhnovsky there is01:06:27
also a live channel there I upload what was not01:06:30
included in the first site Makhnovsky.ru Well and01:06:34
everything else Follow the links in the descriptions of01:06:37
each video on YouTube on the main There01:06:40
all the information is there Thank you very much for01:06:43
taking the time to come I was very01:06:45
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Если вам нравится, как я делаю свои видео и подкасты и вы хотите научиться также, то добро пожаловать на мой курс: https://creatoracademy.ru/ Ищите Антона здесь: https://makhnovskii.ru/ https://www.youtube.com/@Makhnovskii Антон Махновский - НЛП-тренер и ютуб блогер. В этот раз Антон расскажет нам про социальную инженерию, газлайтинг, остальные виды шизофреногенных манипуляций и как от всего этого защититься. Также мы обсудим психологию эмоций и эмоциональную гигиену, и как не вестись на провокации и выходить из неинтересных вам споров. Поддержи подкаст: https://boosty.to/nickchernobaev Слушай "Сделано с нуля" на любой удобной площадке: https://madefromzero.com/ Если вам нравится, как я снимаю и делаю цветокоррекцию, то обратите внимание на мои пресеты: https://nickchernobaev.com/shop 00:00 – Интро. 00:43 – Базовые техники манипуляций и психологического насилия. 2:16 – Газлайтинг. 6:26 – 5 семейств шизофреногенных манипуляций. 8:58 – Приёмы "коктейль", "подвешивание" и "качели". 13:43 – Для чего используют эти приемы манипуляций? 18:38 – Защита от манипуляций. 19:55 – Топ манипуляций в комментариях youtube. 26:19 – Отвечать или не отвечать на манипуляцию? 34:08 – Cоциальная инженерия. 35:24 – Провокации. 38:15 – "Молитва гештальтиста". 40:15 – Как не вестись на провокации и выходить из неинтересных тебе споров? 41:35 – Приёмы "коллапс" и "гротеск". 43:10 – Эмоциональная гигиена. 48:00 – Что значит "предавать себя"? 50:21 – В чем различие невроза, психотравмы, внутреннего блока и установки? 54:25 – Про инфантильность и "моду на обвинение родителей" во всех своих неврозах и проблемах. 1:00:20 – Психология эмоций и эмоциональные схемы. 1:06:13 – Где следить за Антоном? Подписывайтесь: https://t.me/chernobaev_nick https://www.facebook.com/unsupportedbrowser
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