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throughout her life, Margaret00:03:03
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it was so organized that if she didn't00:03:10
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approval But that's when her mind began00:04:49
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rebel which led to more00:04:55
unpleasant situations East Wednesday00:05:00
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her parents approved, she trained herself00:05:11
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matched them00:05:18
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family began to look for signs outside where00:05:32
whatever she goes whatever she does she00:05:35
desperately needed someone to be her00:05:37
appreciated approved her emotions and actions although00:05:41
she did it unconsciously her main00:05:44
the goal became to00:05:45
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in the world it was impossible she did it all the time00:05:51
I was worried about my words00:05:54
people at school then at university then00:05:56
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housewife She worked a lot but00:06:09
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looking for something she's never00:06:18
reaches from the story of a young woman00:06:20
Margaret We see that addiction00:06:23
someone else's opinion may have negative00:06:25
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we depend too much on opinion00:06:32
others we can limit ourselves to00:06:34
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those around you even if they contradict00:06:42
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dependence on other people's opinions can00:06:47
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authenticity we begin to adjust00:06:53
under the expectations and standards of other people even00:06:56
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unsure if we don't receive00:07:24
sufficient approval and recognition from00:07:27
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limit our ability to take risks00:07:33
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vision different from others due to fear00:07:42
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own personalities and beliefs00:07:58
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actions and thoughts of other people Except00:09:04
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uncertainty if we are not sure about00:09:10
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our opinion may be wrong or00:09:15
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those around00:09:30
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lead to negative consequences for00:09:55
our emotional and psychological00:09:57
well-being00:09:59
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childhood can also cause00:10:04
depending on the opinions of others, parents and00:10:06
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the first authorities and guidelines for00:10:11
child and their opinion matters a lot00:10:14
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may begin to strive for permanent00:10:21
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correctness on the part of other people with00:10:26
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he is criticized and condemned00:10:31
may begin to doubt his00:10:32
abilities and values and become00:10:34
more opinion dependent00:10:36
surrounding education based on00:10:39
constant comparison with other children00:10:41
or on strict requirements and expectations00:10:43
can also contribute to the formation00:10:45
depending on other people's opinions In addition00:10:49
if in childhood the child was not00:10:50
enough opportunities provided00:10:52
for independent decision making and00:10:55
expressing his opinion he may become00:10:57
more likely to rely on opinion00:10:59
other people and seek their approval We00:11:03
we see that dependence on other people's opinions -00:11:06
this is a complex phenomenon that can be00:11:08
caused by a combination of different00:11:10
factors including personal characteristics00:11:13
social environment and life00:11:16
experience to overcome addiction00:11:19
someone else's opinion, you need to develop your own00:11:22
self-esteem and confidence are important to learn00:11:25
listen to yourself and trust yours00:11:27
our own judgments we must Realize00:11:30
that our own opinion matters00:11:33
greater value than the impermanent and00:11:35
vague approval of others here00:11:38
how Chrissy describes why this is so00:11:40
it turns out that she gives too much00:11:42
attention to opinion00:11:44
people around me I grew up in a family at school and in00:11:47
churches where they paid great attention00:11:49
good behavior, self-discipline and00:11:52
physical00:11:53
I was a model child00:11:57
I was never calm and polite00:11:59
sent complaints to the director and00:12:02
the emotions were absolutely wrong00:12:04
unacceptable Even though I was00:12:06
very noisy and unruly00:12:08
all this happened in infancy00:12:11
cleaning up for school I had no other00:12:15
choice I felt unsure of00:12:18
your body at the slightest hint of00:12:20
there was dissatisfaction with me about anyone00:12:22
enough to suppress mine00:12:24
inner rebel at least00:12:27
many years00:12:29
I carried this way of behavior into00:12:31
adult life I chose a job Where00:12:34
leaders exploded at any00:12:36
opportunity, I worked especially00:12:39
working harder than anyone to avoid00:12:40
troubles when my colleagues00:12:43
they shouted because of mistakes they only laughed00:12:45
but when Anger was directed at me00:12:48
I was seized by a wild anxiety from which I00:12:50
could get rid of it in a few days00:13:00
some hours after00:13:03
it took me many years to00:13:06
understand00:13:07
the answer of some of us when we were young00:13:09
age are programmed to develop00:13:11
deep fear of losing feeling00:13:13
accessories and safety in00:13:15
relationship to deal with it00:13:17
With fear we develop strategies for00:13:20
protecting yourself which for some00:13:22
become accustomed00:13:29
obligated to manage the happiness of all00:13:31
the rest you are overly sensitive to00:13:33
judgments, criticism and refusals bother you00:13:36
what other people think about you00:14:00
news because we are not mute00:14:02
responsibility for managing emotions00:14:05
other people we do not owe ours to anyone00:14:09
comfort we are not a target for00:14:12
anger of other people our time Energy and00:14:16
well-being cannot be00:14:18
to be honest, we can't00:14:21
control how other people behave00:14:22
we can change our own relationships00:14:26
your patterns of powerlessness00:14:29
And this should not contradict our00:14:31
sincere desire to take care of00:14:35
other formation of healthy and00:14:38
sustainable00:14:40
self-esteem while you are preoccupied with what00:14:43
what other people will say about you you are in00:14:46
their authorities nickname Donald00:14:49
Walsh we will tell you the story of Mary00:14:53
a woman who is highly opinionated00:14:55
Maria always strived for other people00:14:57
be accepted and approved by others and00:15:01
this became a significant factor in her00:15:03
Maria spent a lot of time in her life00:15:05
worrying about what other people think about00:15:08
She constantly took care of her00:15:10
trying to match the appearance00:15:13
ideals of beauty that imposes00:15:15
society She often made decisions00:15:18
based on expectations and approval00:15:20
other people and not your own00:15:22
desires and values she was afraid00:15:25
stand out for fear of criticism and rejection00:15:30
One day Maria decided to change her00:15:32
profession and start practicing00:15:33
creativity that always attracted her00:15:36
However, she encountered00:15:37
opposition from his00:15:39
surrounded by relatives and friends00:15:42
most people around were not supportive00:15:44
her idea considering her choice not practical00:15:47
Maria experienced a strong fear that she would not00:15:49
will be approved and accepted by others and00:15:52
decided00:15:54
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Put off doing something you don't like, feeling00:16:01
she understood dissatisfaction with life00:16:04
that dependence on other people's opinions00:16:05
limited her capabilities and interfered with her00:16:08
be yourself Maria realized that for00:16:11
she needs to achieve happiness and success00:16:14
free yourself from this addiction and00:16:17
start accepting your own00:16:19
solutions gradually Maria started working00:16:22
over her self-esteem and confidence she00:16:27
property00:16:31
she is capable of making decisions00:16:33
that correspond to true values00:16:36
and aspirations, Maria began to turn to00:16:38
your inner feelings and intuition00:16:41
do not rely entirely on the opinions of others00:16:43
Maria began to implement the practice00:16:45
self-reflection and self-acceptance00:16:47
life she learned to listen to her00:16:50
needs and appreciate your achievements00:16:52
regardless00:16:57
comes away from accepting yourself as you are00:17:02
she is an exploration of her true self00:17:06
desires over time Maria became more00:17:09
she is autonomous and self-confident00:17:12
realized that other people's opinions are00:17:15
just their subjective perception and00:17:18
should not define its own00:17:19
Maria began to value and self-esteem00:17:23
implement their creative projects00:17:25
successful execution brought her no00:17:27
only satisfaction but also recognition from00:17:29
sides00:17:32
those around Mary's story shows that00:17:35
dependence on other people's opinions can00:17:37
limit our potential and hinder us00:17:39
be happy, however, when we00:17:42
realize our own value and00:17:44
starting to accept our own00:17:46
solutions We open the doors to our00:17:49
true happiness and00:17:51
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satisfaction So how can we develop00:17:56
healthy self-esteem and00:17:58
independence from the opinions of others00:18:00
formation of a healthy and sustainable00:18:02
self-esteem is an important issue requiring00:18:05
our time and effort00:18:07
first accept and love yourself00:18:11
as you are, don't compare yourself00:18:14
with other people And pay attention00:18:16
its achievements and progress as a00:18:19
exercises to develop self-acceptance00:18:21
can you write a list of your achievements?00:18:23
and things that you are proud of And00:18:25
return to it periodically to00:18:27
remind yourself of your positive00:18:29
traits and successes secondly00:18:32
set realistic ones for yourself00:18:35
goals and break them down into small steps00:18:38
when we gradually reach our00:18:40
goals it helps strengthen our00:18:42
self-esteem For example, if we want00:18:44
learn to play a new instrument00:18:46
we can put a small one in front of us00:18:48
the goal is to learn one new melody each00:18:51
week and every time we reach this00:18:54
goals we will feel more confident00:18:56
and we will be proud of our achievements00:18:59
Thirdly00:19:00
overcome negative thoughts and replace00:19:03
their positive statements about themselves00:19:06
For example, if we catch ourselves thinking00:19:08
that we're not good enough or even me00:19:10
loser we can replace these thoughts with00:19:12
statements that highlight our00:19:15
strengths and achievements we can00:19:17
repeat such statements to yourself every time00:19:20
a day to boost your confidence00:19:22
surround yourself yesterday00:19:27
eat your uniqueness avoid00:19:30
toxic relationships that can00:19:32
undermine your00:19:33
self-esteem is the next important thing00:19:36
The point is to take care of your body00:19:39
physical health is closely related to00:19:42
emotional well-being and00:19:43
self-esteem regular physical00:19:46
exercise healthy eating and sleep00:19:48
help us feel better and00:19:51
more confidence also needs to be developed00:19:54
your interests and skills Find what00:19:57
you like and makes you happy and00:20:00
develop your interests and skills in these00:20:03
areas For example, if you are interested in00:20:06
painting you can take lessons and00:20:08
gradually improve your skills00:20:10
which will help strengthen00:20:12
yours00:20:13
self-esteem finally be00:20:16
be kind to yourself and give yourself00:20:18
permission for mistakes and failures remember00:20:22
that no one is perfect and mistakes are00:20:25
part of the process of growth and development00:20:29
yourself for failures Try to learn lessons00:20:31
of them and use them as00:20:33
opportunities for personal00:20:35
growth to form a healthy and sustainable00:20:39
self-esteem is a long and continuous00:20:41
a process that requires self-analysis00:20:44
self-reflection and patience However, when we00:20:48
Let's learn to appreciate and love ourselves, respect ourselves00:20:50
your achievements and develop your skills00:20:53
we will become more confident and happy00:20:56
people remember that everyone deserves00:20:59
a full life and it starts with00:21:02
how we see and how much we value00:21:05
themselves00:21:06
yourself story00:21:09
first Jason has always been a little00:21:12
an anxious person since childhood00:21:15
he felt in his early teenage years00:21:17
some uncertainty and shy00:21:19
Express yourself in front of new people00:21:21
However, there was nothing serious about it00:21:23
or unusual in essence everyone experiences00:21:26
similar feelings to a certain extent00:21:29
otherwise he was extremely00:21:30
he was and still is happy00:21:33
wonderful family and friends so00:21:35
there was never any particular reason for00:21:38
troubles started when he left00:21:40
from home and went to university then00:21:43
he left the zone00:21:45
the comfort of his worries and worries00:21:48
significantly strengthened him of course00:21:50
I liked his school years but I'll take a look00:21:54
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unsure of his relationship sun time00:22:01
I suspected that no one loved him very much00:22:04
responded to criticism and always00:22:06
made excuses experienced difficulties in00:22:08
making decisions absolutely everything00:22:10
analyzed what someone told him and00:22:13
developed negative ideas about00:22:15
its natural00:22:17
appearance since the sixth grade he has constantly00:22:19
rushed in my head between thoughts about00:22:21
that he's just a little worried and00:22:24
suspicion that this might be00:22:26
abnormal00:22:28
during training he decided not to see a doctor00:22:32
After the conversation and filling out the questionnaire, the doctor00:22:35
assumed he had a generalized00:22:36
anxiety disorder prescribed00:22:39
which he never used00:22:41
because then I was very afraid and directed00:22:43
him for consultation at the university00:22:45
psychological counseling service00:22:47
precisely during these sessions with a psychologist00:22:50
everything fell into place for00:22:54
Je00:22:57
The ultimate problem is not anxiety, but low00:23:02
everything became clear to Jason's self-esteem00:23:05
was unsure of his relationship and00:23:07
convinced himself that he would definitely be deceived00:23:09
because he believed that for them he00:23:11
not good enough he was nervous before00:23:14
meeting new people and00:23:16
social events because00:23:18
assumed that he was considered boring and00:23:19
uninteresting because he himself is like that00:23:22
felt it was difficult for him to accept00:23:24
any decisions because he doesn't00:23:27
believed in his abilities and assumed00:23:29
what will make the wrong choice is possible00:23:31
continue And further but you get the point00:23:35
Of course he developed anxiety but she00:23:37
was caused by his low self-esteem00:23:40
I just convinced myself that he wasn't enough00:23:42
good or that they don’t like him but it was00:23:44
based on literally nothing00:23:47
Except his own negative thoughts00:23:49
and feelings but in reality they were00:23:52
good news that meant00:23:54
Overcoming low self-esteem could00:23:56
let him say goodbye to anxiety00:23:59
This self-awareness helped him understand00:24:01
what's going on in his brain00:24:04
change and gradually change it00:24:06
negative thoughts for more00:24:08
positive Jason has achieved great things00:24:10
success in overcoming low self-esteem00:24:13
in the last few years he still00:24:15
not the most confident person in the world but he00:24:17
feels much better than00:24:19
a few years ago he really00:24:21
happy with how his life is developing00:24:24
he finally managed to get rid of00:24:25
constant anxiety and he even started00:24:27
love yourself the way you are00:24:30
don't get him wrong, he doesn't care00:24:32
There are days when he doesn't feel well.00:24:34
Surely this happens to everyone, but he wants00:24:37
to say that you can completely change00:24:39
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a more positive and healthy attitude00:24:44
way of thinking no matter how00:24:47
it may seem impossible00:24:49
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presented below according to self-assessment00:24:53
based solely on personal experience00:24:56
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various materials and read on this00:25:08
self-help book theme and00:25:11
online seminar on mental health00:25:13
are not a quick solution00:25:16
medicine or a suitable substitute00:25:18
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identify negative thinking00:25:35
templates and taught useful methods and00:25:37
techniques for overcoming them, they also00:25:40
made him less lonely in his00:25:42
thoughts and showed how normal it is00:25:45
sometimes fight with00:25:46
problems the most important thing they helped him00:25:49
become more aware of00:25:52
your disturbing thoughts and emotions and that00:25:55
when and how do they arise?00:25:58
deal with them They really00:26:00
helped him understand what is00:26:03
normal and not in his way of thinking00:26:06
awareness of one's own negative00:26:08
thought patterns and their influence on00:26:10
him as if he was looking at himself from00:26:12
parties is the key to making positive00:26:15
changes because he can’t change that about00:26:17
what not00:26:18
knows Here are some possible names00:26:21
you might also need some of this00:26:23
First on the list is Friar Daniel00:26:28
harmful thoughts four psychological00:26:31
attitudes that hinder us00:26:33
live second Jill Hessen Sue Hatfield00:26:39
gain self confidence what does it mean00:26:42
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assertive third Mark Klau first00:26:48
Love yourself and increase your self-esteem over 3000:26:52
days four Lisa Olivera no00:26:56
doubt yourself00:26:59
advice second one of the worst things00:27:03
with anxiety and low self-esteem is00:27:05
the desire to evade and avoid everything00:27:08
interesting although frightening that you00:27:11
Do you want to make things easy in your life?00:27:13
lock yourself in your cozy comfort00:27:15
zone and many people use it in00:27:18
as a way to cope00:27:20
However, the truth is that00:27:23
regularly intentional participation in what00:27:25
makes you afraid of the zone boundary00:27:28
comfort can greatly help your00:27:31
mental health Every time00:27:34
you are faced with something uncertain00:27:36
scary or unfamiliar you learn00:27:39
deal with it00:27:41
aware and what you can handle00:27:44
this situation gives you00:27:46
self-confidence that nothing else00:27:48
capable of providing experts call00:27:51
this is exposure therapy and we believe that00:27:54
this is one of the best ways to raise00:27:56
self-esteem00:27:58
here's a life story00:28:00
Jason for example before I00:28:02
went to Vietnam for a year my mind00:28:05
I was seriously tested00:28:08
Thoughts arose like you shouldn’t go00:28:10
I've never been so far from my family00:28:12
you won't be able to work as a teacher for a long time00:28:15
English abroad is not enough00:28:17
smart and everything will go wrong for a week or two00:28:21
before leaving I was in a state00:28:23
anxiety and tears But I forced myself00:28:26
overcome it very glad I did it00:28:29
this experience taught me much more00:28:32
confidence and determination despite00:28:34
that I adore my family and my cozy00:28:36
comfort zone at home Now I know that I00:28:40
fully capable of being independent and00:28:42
go beyond your comfort zone00:28:45
it doesn't have to be00:28:46
global change start small and00:28:50
move on maybe you feel00:28:52
discomfort in social situations and00:28:55
invitations are often rejected due to00:28:57
set this goal for yourself00:28:59
answer yes and walk at least00:29:01
every second invitation that you00:29:04
you may have fear00:29:06
leaving the house without makeup because00:29:08
skin problems start with00:29:10
go to the store without makeup then00:29:13
walk without him and then00:29:15
meeting a close friend without makeup00:29:17
you will be surprised how fast your00:29:19
worries will go away when you become00:29:22
regularly overcome yourself and do00:29:25
something new00:29:28
tip three: Stop worrying about00:29:31
what others think when you00:29:34
stop defining your life based on00:29:36
from the opinions of others the world becomes more00:29:39
a pleasant place life based on00:29:41
opinions, views and beliefs of others00:29:44
people makes you essentially a prisoner But00:29:47
people with low self-esteem often fall into00:29:50
into this trap because they believe00:29:51
that the opinions of others have greater knowledge00:29:54
than them00:29:57
own00:29:58
freeing yourself is an innate human ability00:30:01
trait and It is completely natural to desire00:30:04
to be popular and accepted by others00:30:07
problems arise when it becomes00:30:09
unnecessary and begins to negatively affect00:30:12
your lifestyle and self-esteem You should00:30:15
make a decision based on what00:30:17
better for you and your life and not for00:30:20
based on what others think about00:30:22
most of us think that we belong00:30:25
own opinion and the opinion of other people00:30:28
this is some objective truth we think00:30:31
that we perceive the world as video cameras00:30:33
which simply writes and00:30:34
reproduces it as it is but00:30:37
in fact we are more like00:30:40
projectors that emit their thoughts00:30:42
beliefs and experiences on the world thereby00:30:45
creating what we see when another00:30:48
the person sees you He doesn't see the real00:30:50
he sees you only his beliefs and experience00:30:54
and emotions and projects them onto you00:30:58
control it doesn't mean that00:31:00
you should ignore feedback from00:31:02
other people just avoid the heavy00:31:05
the burden of responsibility for what is about you00:31:07
others think free yourself from00:31:10
the need to please everyone and you00:31:12
you will feel great relief00:31:14
the desire to adapt to someone00:31:16
or hide your true nature00:31:18
to please others becomes00:31:20
source of stress and in a reliable way00:31:23
continue to feel anxious00:31:28
I've come a long way working with fear.00:31:30
Critics says Rachel has her moments00:31:33
when I still feel a deep pang00:31:35
if someone criticizes me but this is no longer00:31:37
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I ask myself is it true that they00:31:42
they said it helps me get back to00:31:45
I also start to breathe deeply I00:31:48
I always try to remember one simple thing00:31:51
the truth is that wounded people hurt others00:31:58
criticism is always painful and most00:32:00
people worry about criticism I always00:32:04
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there were problems, it's not my failure, it's00:32:33
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activity on social networks and00:32:50
complexes due to comparison simply00:32:52
browsing your social media feed can00:32:54
cause a serious feeling00:32:58
make you feel insecure00:33:00
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you don't do something well enough00:33:05
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significant association between depression and00:33:10
active use of social networks00:33:13
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everyone and suddenly focus on00:33:31
all the things that I don't have or00:33:34
which I don't do I'm starting to feel00:33:37
themselves dissatisfied with their appearance or00:33:40
life I'm becoming not enough00:33:42
fit like my friend theirs00:33:45
the house looks amazing and I'm wondering00:33:47
about moving everyone has the best moments in life and00:33:50
I'm sitting at home they have a lot of subscribers00:33:53
I'm gone sounds familiar00:33:57
depending on what form of comparison you have00:33:59
occurs this can lead to00:34:01
constant exhaustion When you are constantly00:34:04
strive to match the image or00:34:06
an ideal that is probably not even real00:34:10
beware of your triggers00:34:12
try to determine what you are00:34:14
inspires you to improve your life and00:34:17
what always makes you feel00:34:18
feel negative between these two things00:34:21
It makes a big difference if you see00:34:24
a certain post or account that00:34:26
instantly gives you a complex or00:34:28
worsens your self-esteem think about it00:34:31
to disconnect or unsubscribe00:34:34
don't feel guilty00:34:36
because of this, your Feed is your choice00:34:40
If you want to use social00:34:42
networks why not make them enjoyable and00:34:45
inspiring create positive00:34:48
tape is one of the few things that we00:34:50
like on social networks this is an opportunity00:34:52
communicate with people you can00:34:54
identify yourself get support and00:34:57
get a new inspiring Look at00:34:59
things So if you haven't done this yet00:35:03
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made you smile, motivated you and00:35:08
taught for Jason it was communities00:35:11
dedicated to self-love and self-acceptance00:35:14
mental health creativity and00:35:16
travel But there are accounts on00:35:19
any topic So why not find something00:35:21
what do you really need00:35:23
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are real00:35:28
the best advice that can be given to anyone00:35:30
compares his life with the life of bloggers00:35:32
or celebrities or anyone else -00:35:35
is to remember that what you see on00:35:37
the screen is not real life00:35:40
just a snapshot of their successes00:35:43
not a complete reflection of their everyday00:35:45
in life most people only publish00:35:47
the happiest and most ideal moments00:35:50
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processed tip fifth00:35:58
start accepting and loving yourself this way00:36:00
who you are right now just Be00:36:05
love yourself the way you are00:36:08
can be a very difficult part00:36:09
overcoming low self-esteem for a long time00:36:12
time Jason was stuck in a trap00:36:14
constant feeling that he needs to become00:36:16
better or make better To accept00:36:18
himself and his reality he told himself00:36:21
that when he gets rid of problems with00:36:22
the skin will become more toned00:36:25
louder more fun more popular so yes00:36:28
will be good enough and will00:36:29
truly love yourself but so perfect00:36:33
Passion for excellence is00:36:34
unhealthy self-acceptance should not00:36:37
depend on attempts to change oneself or00:36:39
hide your shortcomings and00:36:41
inferiority is about being honest with00:36:43
recognition of one's own strengths and00:36:46
weaknesses and accepting everything00:36:49
constitutes you in the process of overcoming00:36:52
low self-esteem Try harder00:36:55
focus on your strengths00:36:56
sides Maybe as a person you00:36:59
faithful creative intuitive00:37:03
compassionate open flexible and00:37:06
freedom-loving and result-oriented00:37:09
this is not a manifestation of selfishness this is pride00:37:12
for who you are and knowing how00:37:15
use your strengths00:37:17
in the best possible way at the same time you don't00:37:20
you need to deny your weaknesses and completely00:37:22
take them you can be clumsy00:37:24
silent and difficult to open up to00:37:26
new people is something that becomes00:37:29
better with age but maybe it can00:37:31
there's no point in being a part of you00:37:35
torment yourself trying to become an extrovert00:37:37
when it doesn't suit your nature00:37:40
the fact is that you are who you are and that00:37:43
ok of course some things are possible00:37:46
improve over time but everyone has00:37:48
their own Oddities and flaws00:37:51
strengths and weaknesses Yes Everyone has00:37:55
you don't need to be perfect at everything00:37:57
good in everything to correspond to ideals00:37:59
beauty that society imposes or00:38:02
everyone you meet likes you00:38:04
to feel worthy of you00:38:07
okay as you are Determine00:38:12
your strengths and accept yourself00:38:15
the desire for personal growth is quite00:38:17
ok but don't waste your time00:38:19
to try to change what is00:38:22
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don't judge your worth based on00:38:30
number of financial subscribers00:38:32
condition or00:38:35
success does not depend on your personal value00:38:38
from the number of social network subscribers balance on00:38:41
your bank account or level00:38:43
professional achievements this is00:38:45
One of the main problems of society00:38:48
evaluate a person by his social00:38:50
status of material achievement or00:38:52
success in career However, this00:38:55
material representation of00:38:56
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limit because you are much more than just00:39:01
numbers You may have figured it out00:39:03
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money this will solve all your problems and00:39:08
will make you happy or maybe you00:39:11
feel enormous pressure to be successful00:39:13
in your career or achieve00:39:14
a certain social status in order to00:39:16
earn respect and recognition00:39:19
surrounding money Fame and social00:39:21
recognition can bring00:39:24
satisfaction noni nevcom deep00:39:27
meaning and happiness real happiness and00:39:31
self-confidence comes from understanding00:39:33
your own worth as a person00:39:36
regardless of external achievements or00:39:39
recognition remember that your value is like00:39:42
personality is not subject to assessment or00:39:45
comparing you are unique and your value00:39:49
always evaluate yourself and what you are00:39:52
bring into this world and don't put yourself in00:39:54
dependence on other people's achievements00:39:57
or their material00:40:00
state advice seventh practice00:40:03
self love self love is the way00:40:08
treat yourself with kindness and understanding00:40:10
and compassion as for whose friend you are00:40:13
Love and appreciate this includes00:40:15
accepting yourself as you are00:40:18
awareness of your weaknesses and mistakes and00:40:21
also practice self-love in moments00:40:23
more stress and00:40:25
anxiety, being kind to yourself doesn't mean00:40:28
justify your mistakes or00:40:30
inaction A Rather, it is awareness00:40:33
that you are like everyone else00:40:35
imperfect and deserve understanding00:40:38
love and00:40:39
compassion Stop and rest00:40:42
When you feel like it's too much00:40:44
tasks and stress Allow yourself to be simple00:40:47
without imposing too much00:40:49
restrictions and requirements Allow yourself00:40:53
feel your emotions even if they00:40:56
unpleasant admit your mistakes and00:40:59
learn from your experience but not00:41:02
destroy yourself for them self love00:41:05
also includes avoiding self-criticism and00:41:08
making fun of yourself instead00:41:10
practice a more positive inner00:41:12
communication and00:41:14
motivation When you learn to relate00:41:17
to yourself with love and compassion00:41:19
gradually stop fighting yourself00:41:22
and you will begin to feel a deeper00:41:24
confidence in yourself and your capabilities00:41:29
So here are seven tips that will help00:41:32
you start to overcome the low00:41:33
self-esteem remember that it is a process and00:41:37
it will take time to change your00:41:39
practice attitudes and way of thinking00:41:41
these principles regularly Be patient00:41:45
with you and do not hesitate to ask for00:41:47
support if you feel what it is00:41:49
necessary If you have the opportunity00:41:52
Discuss your thoughts and emotions with00:41:53
a psychologist or therapist who00:41:56
sorting it out will help00:41:58
will offer an individual action plan00:42:00
to overcome low self-esteem and00:42:02
remember that you are not alone, many people00:42:06
facing similar feelings and00:42:08
successfully overcomes00:42:12
their Overcoming Social Pressure How00:42:16
cope with external expectations and00:42:18
criticism00:42:20
surrounding external expectations and criticism00:42:23
those around me may have doubts00:42:28
in yourself and loss00:42:30
self-esteem However, there are several00:42:32
ways to help us cope00:42:34
with these problems and save00:42:36
confidence and positive attitude towards00:42:39
To begin with, it is important to realize that we are not00:42:42
we can please everyone, every person has00:42:45
our ideas about how we should00:42:48
behave and what we need to do but this00:42:51
doesn't mean we have to live in00:42:53
according to their expectations this is what00:42:56
says Sean NT a priest from the USA about his00:42:59
habit of servility in the process00:43:02
growing up I wanted nothing more than00:43:05
How to please people who like me00:43:07
opinion had power over my life even00:43:10
in my youth I often gave in00:43:12
this illusion and did everything possible to00:43:15
make other people happy instead00:43:17
to take care of your own00:43:19
own happiness and the most interesting00:43:22
the thing about all this was that these people never00:43:24
weren't happy because00:43:26
to be happy with something you need to be00:43:29
happy inside00:43:30
yourself The truth is that nothing can00:43:33
make me happy if I don't00:43:35
I decide to be happy regardless00:43:38
external circumstances are the only00:43:42
way the need for approval is00:43:45
a quality that can deprive a person00:43:47
self-confidence, self-esteem or00:43:49
It suppresses freedom of expression00:43:52
true feelings that reside in00:43:54
heart for the sake of being liked00:43:57
even if it doesn't correspond at all00:43:59
a person's personality it often becomes00:44:03
a habit for most of us but00:44:05
You don't have to live that kind of life00:44:08
we can take back our personal power and00:44:11
change your life path for example00:44:14
if your family expects you to00:44:16
follow a certain career but you00:44:18
feel that your calling is to be00:44:21
photographer You have the right to your opinion00:44:24
and choosing to acknowledge this fact will help00:44:27
free yourself from the burden of external expectations00:44:29
and accept yourself as you are or00:44:32
if your family expects you to00:44:34
work in the family business but you00:44:36
dream of travel and exploration00:44:38
world it is important to listen to your heart and00:44:42
make decisions based on00:44:44
own purposes and00:44:46
aspirations, learn gradually to distinguish00:44:49
constructive criticism and negative00:44:51
comments constructive criticism can00:44:54
be useful for your growth and00:44:56
development For example, if your boss00:44:58
indicates your ineffectiveness in00:45:00
performing tasks this could be00:45:02
opportunity for you to improve your00:45:04
skills or self-discipline and become more00:45:07
professional However, negative00:45:09
comments that do not convey00:45:11
no value should be ignored00:45:14
For example, if someone criticizes your00:45:16
appearance or age it is00:45:18
violation of your personal boundaries and even00:45:20
definitely shouldn't be allowed to happen00:45:22
comments determine your self-esteem00:45:25
it's important to remember that00:45:28
every person has the right to their00:45:31
opinion Create yourself a support group00:45:35
surround yourself with people who believe in you00:45:38
and support your growth and development00:45:41
will help you cope with external00:45:43
expectations and criticism For example, if you00:45:45
you have a friend or partner who00:45:47
supports your dreams and goals you will00:45:49
feel confident00:45:58
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you than a lot of superficial00:46:03
friends, don’t forget to spend time00:46:06
self-development and self-analysis are often external00:46:10
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point out your weaknesses or00:46:14
shortcomings instead of denying00:46:16
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use them as motivation for00:46:21
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time management Think about it00:46:32
what can you do to improve00:46:34
yourself and achieve your goals it can00:46:37
include reading books and attending trainings00:46:40
or contacting professionals in those00:46:42
areas in which you would like00:46:44
develop if you need something special00:46:46
proof that you don't need00:46:48
confirm one's own importance00:46:50
listen to the words of the American00:46:52
priest Sean Grant00:46:57
will reflect on what you have already been00:46:59
100% approved from the moment you00:47:02
birth and more importantly you were00:47:06
approved and admitted to this life by such00:47:08
what you are have you ever looked00:47:12
on birth probability statistics00:47:14
every person is something extraordinary00:47:17
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one of the l souls are born in the human00:47:24
appearance00:47:27
out of so many souls that00:47:29
to incarnate on Earth is quite00:47:31
an impressive feat in the grand scheme of things00:47:33
space00:47:34
existence divine saw00:47:37
something unique and special about you00:47:39
to say good to the soul, it's your turn, go00:47:45
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live no matter what anyone might00:47:50
say no matter what others00:47:52
think what you should do00:47:54
do only what your heart says00:47:58
this concept is where all the magic lies00:48:00
which is needed to create the life that00:48:03
you love and life that does not depend on00:48:06
needs for00:48:09
we don't need to resist approval00:48:12
don't seek approval from outsiders00:48:14
sources don't force things00:48:16
happen we just have to trust00:48:19
process and know that we are there00:48:22
where should they be at any given time?00:48:27
that we are the only ones responsible00:48:29
in our lives we have the right to our own00:48:32
your own happiness and success are not worth it00:48:34
live according to others' expectations00:48:36
people if it contradicts ours00:48:38
our own values and desires00:48:41
we must strive for what makes us00:48:43
happy and fulfills our goals and00:48:46
dreams of Jane, a four-year-old student00:48:50
writes when I was in college I00:48:53
I thought I was going to go to law school00:48:55
faculty parents love to brag about my00:48:58
Mom always told her friends and00:48:59
relatives that I'm going to00:49:01
law school deep inside me00:49:04
I didn't really feel like going to00:49:06
law school but I didn't do anything00:49:08
spoke until she finally asked00:49:11
Do I want to study at law school? But to00:49:13
by that time it was already too late00:49:15
change your00:49:16
specialization I'm currently working on00:49:19
obtaining a teaching certificate00:49:21
in fact I want to teach for00:49:22
border for at least a year It seems to me that00:49:25
Now is the time to be independent, but I'm afraid that00:49:29
my parents won't support this idea00:49:31
that's why I don't tell them anything I mean00:49:34
I don't think I want them to be00:49:36
disappointed but I just want them00:49:39
we realized that I am already 24 years old and can00:49:42
accept your own00:49:44
Mary's solutions, a thirty-year-old specialist in00:49:48
the field of medicine believes that in life00:49:49
each of us The time comes when we00:49:52
separated from the family we are all familiar with this00:49:55
for some it happens when you finish eating00:49:58
At 18 you go to university and00:50:01
moving from home, maybe even to00:50:02
another region or country are the expectations00:50:06
society as a whole then what makes00:50:10
us to be so connected to our00:50:12
families that we sometimes feel like00:50:14
paralyzed, afraid to take00:50:16
wrong decisions regarding00:50:18
relationship career or just life00:50:27
our own lives, many of us00:50:29
still feel obligated00:50:31
to your family to yours00:50:34
to parents we feel what we owe00:50:36
choose a certain direction in00:50:38
career or being with a certain type00:50:40
person in marriage and so on it's like00:50:43
unspoken obligation to please our00:50:45
parents except that we00:50:47
we know that this cannot continue00:50:49
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self-blame that makes it difficult to love01:18:45
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love and care about us this cycle itself01:18:56
hatred can push people to01:18:57
destructive coping mechanisms01:19:00
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can lead to abusive relationships01:19:07
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internalism to behavior such as01:19:38
use of harmful substances01:19:40
self-harm, suicidal thoughts or01:19:43
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feeling unworthy of others' attention01:19:54
people excessive shyness What01:19:56
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CBT is a very effective approach01:21:25
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